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If you have a bad day (miss a workout, eat too many cookies, whatever) you are allowed to forgive yourself because in the next moment you have a fresh start on the path to healthy living.

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Write about what you did and after you are done, write a big I Forgive Myself to let it go.
- Submitted by NIGHTOCUPS 6/27/2010 in Motivation | 4 Comments
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ADIPOSEROSE 11/28/2010 12:46:00 PM

    (Sounds easier than it is, but believe me, it really, really helps!) Food isn't a punishment, or a reward--but the rewards of not eating it (no weight gain, or perhaps weight loss) have to be consciously more attractive to us than the pleasure of eating it, or it will sabotage us every time. I FORGIVE YOU FOR EATING THE PEPPERMINT PATTIES, and I hope you really, really enjoyed them to make up for all that guilt. Next time, smile, say "those were GOOD!!!" and move on. emoticon
ADIPOSEROSE 11/28/2010 12:51:00 PM

    I think the trick is to change your mindset so that guilt is not part of your relationship with food in the first place. If you eat it--"man up to it," admit it, and move on. The only condition is that it's about CHOICE, not compulsion--forgive me, my friend, but not the timid little mousey sneaking the cheese before the trap snaps shut, but a confident adult fully conscious of the consequences (good *and* bad) of eating those peppermint patties, and saying, "so be it: this is what I *want*!" That puts YOU (and not the trap) back in control of what you consume, and removes the reason for guilt. You know beforehand that the tradeoff for the momentary pleasure is that you will have to move around that much longer, or work that much harder, tomorrow--but you want whatever it is enough to make the compensation worth it.
CNESMITH2 2/10/2011 7:53:00 AM

    This is true.
JUDYAMK 11/28/2010 8:36:00 AM

    last night I found 2 frozen peppermint patties in the freezer, I stared them down like a mouse looking at the piece of cheese in the trap, I cleverly grab them so quick before the snap of my mind could stop me.I quickly took them to bed nibbling on them. When I was finished I lay there feeling ocean waves of guilt pounding at me.

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