I spending a lot of time explaining to myself WHY I can do it . I explore my failures, I made bad choices along the way. What are better decisions and what's stopping me from changing my future.
It keeps me encouraged because I stopped blaming myself & began supporting ME. I am learning so much about what I can do. Just as important I forgive myself for what I did & did not do in the past. Maybe this will help you. Forgive your failings and educate yourself in a lot of different ways.