I value the precious time I can spend with my 29 year old son so when I am preparing meals I ask him to join me in the kitchen. He can tell me what is happening in his life while I make our meal.
When I have the pleasure with my greats, the same thing applies. I have them grab a chair at the counter and we talk about food, their lives, really anything that they want. I want to get to know them and talking to them is the only way that will happen.