If you are not happy about who you are before you start a diet/exercise plan, you won't be happy when you're thin either. Counseling prior to my signing up for SparkPeople helped me more than anything else because I was able to conquer the inner demons before working on the outside.
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Sometimes we look to others for 'approval.' We all sometimes look to others for comfort...when ultimately there are those times when we must give kudos to ourselves...and that's okay. When we find some level of acceptance in ourselves, we can then find acceptance in others. Remember ...sometimes our own arms must be long enough to pat ourselves on the back...or give ourselves a hug. Comfort and acceptance are essential to inner peace and progression forward.403
I make it a PRIMARY goal to NOT give myself any negative messages about my body: what it looks like, how much fat it's carrying, whether it seems bigger or smaller on a given day. I firmly believe that a body can only change from a place of love and acceptance...and if I can't conjure love and acceptance, then I at LEAST don't let myself descend into negativity. If I find myself feeling fat or ugly, I tell myself, "That's how I feel at this one moment. This moment is not forever."
I remind myself all the time that mirrors DON'T have absolute power -- for example, think of how many times you've looked in a mirror, HATED what you saw, then turned a fraction of a degree and told yourself, "Oh, phew! That's better!" What we see in the mirror is totally malliable and subjective!
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