Many if not all of us have a a set of beliefs or thoughts about ourselves or a situation. You may even be consciously aware of a few of them but the truly scary thing is that many of us tell ourselves these thoughts over and over so often they become unconscious. So, pay attention to those "tapes" you are replaying to yourself and when you catch a negative one, actively and consciously replace it with a more positive statement. You may even have to say it out loud to yourself in the beginning.
Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility. It’s only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I’m the one who’s hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don’t have to get someone else to stop hurting me. I’m the one who can stop hurting me. It’s within my power. - Byron Katie
The other day I heard a quote from the scholar Yasir Fazaga.
“What you think is what you become. Think negative and you become negative; think positive – you become positive. Try to focus your thoughts on God and His blessings in your life. We all have them – we might just need to recognize and appreciate them.” – Elmer Laydon
I have noticed that people that are overweight (including myself) tend to talk more about the food they are going to eat rather than the exercise they are going to do. It occured to me to try re-programming my mind to talk about exercise instead of food. That way, food is secondary to exercise.
when i feel that way I take a journal and write on one page and answer the negative ideas on the opposite page after taking a break. Often then I can respond as I would if answering a friend or colleague and listen to the positive side of myself.