I wrote a blog recently that truly summarizes my new philosophy.
I used to leave the gym tired, worn out and feeling like a failure because I was out of shape (I would always quit going after those thoughts started coming). I changed the voice in my head so it now says "I am healthier than I was yesterday!" For me this creates a feeling of a mini goal that I have accomplished and it always makes me feel great and motivates me to work out tomorrow to get even healthier! There are no small victories when it comes to your health!
Part of not getting down and staying positive is your mindset.
I am keeping the follwing four A's in mind: Avoid, Alter, Accept and Adapt. Whenever I feel my head is ready to pop from stress i'm going to look at the root cause and determine which one of the 4 A's can be applied.
I've lost 50 lbs once, gained it back plus more, and then lost 75 lbs from January 2011-May 2011 and have been slightly losing since then. I have had the struggles that everyone experiences and the only way to have success is to have a positive attitude in combination with the mental strength to make decisions that are beneficial to your goals. Once you have success, whether its 5 lbs or 50 lbs, the positive emotions you endure should drive you to keep working hard to achieve what you deserve!
1. Find the places where you give up easiest (work, school, home)
Whenever i'm getting off track or even when i'm feeling a little bored I look over my old blogs. Almost all of them give me a more positive perspective or solutions to what I want to tweak or change. Should I not feel more empowered or motivated to a new direction then I hit some of my SP friends blogs.
When I started on my journey to lose unwanted and health destroying "retirement weight" I had accumulated, I decided to do it right and enlist some help to "get 'er done"! With a gym membership and a great physical trainer I began to see tiny, yet positive, changes in my body shape and strength. Those were the rewards that I would celebrate! ...no matter how tiny they seemed. Reward came from within and I did not depend on others to validate my progress. Decisions at the journey's start...
Being open to new people and ideas...I have found that if you start with a smile and keeping yourself open to new people and new ideas then you are usually not disappointed! it can open be the start to getting creative and keeping you motivated.
Don't ever let other people or worse, your negative views of yourself cause you to be sad and depressed. Completely ignore what others say and always give yourself reasons to love and value you, no matter where you are in your journey.
Never think of yourself as "on a diet" or "restricting what you eat". These are negative ways of looking at eating. Instead you need to see that you are "choosing healthy foods" and "living a healthy lifestyle". Food can be a very positive experience in our lives but we must remember to keep all things in moderation. Just by changing your outlook to a more positive one will help motivate you to keep eating healthy. Food is delicious and can be enjoyed even if you are watching what you eat.
Today break free of the power you have given others to make or break your life. While others may invite, suggest, guide or influence you, ultimately you alone must live with the choices you make & so you must choose in accordance with your heart’s guidance. If you have given any person power over your life, take back your power now. No one can hurt you & no one can save you unless you ordain it.
What I found really helped me was to Blog EVERY DAY about the challenges that I overcame that day. It didn't matter if I wasn't perfect for the day. My focus was the one or two challenges that I was successful with! I did this for 130 days in a row! By being committed to blogging it made me come to Spark daily and then I'd "roam" around and all those things would help me keep going! I need to get back to that! Wanna join me? Today is Day #1 :)
Laughing is one of the best ways to relieve stress, change a mood, or an attitude. It jolts your thoughts into a positive thinking cycle. Simply watching or listening to someone laugh can trigger feel good endorphins to be released in the brain which helps reduce mental & physiological symptoms of stress. It's also contagious. (from Simply Positive) Check out this video to get yourself started - http://www.youtube.com/watch
I just started this great way of relieving stress and it works great! Every time I start getting tease and angry I spritz a good smelling perfume or smell something close by that smells good. Instant good mood!
“If you find yourself stuck in a rut, don’t dig yourself deeper in with negative thoughts. Turn your thoughts to God, ask for His strength to sustain you, and keep your focus on the good things that lie ahead of you. By relying on God and keeping your thoughts positive, you’ll be moving forward again before you know it.” – Elmer Laydon
MEP Balance is something that I use to measure my current state of being. When my MEP is in balance I find it is easier to exercise or eat healthier because I am in a positive place.
If the scale isn't moving downwards, you are frustrated by your eating plan, or you want to skip your exercise session, switch your focus to "gaining health" instead. Eating healthily, any exercise, even if only 10 minutes, is still progress, and you are gaining health, even if you are not losing weight. Keep it up, and not only will you continue gaing health, but the weight will start to go.
Keep a daily or weekly gratitude journal to keep track of the goodness in your life. Start today ~ right now ~ and jot down something you appreciate and are grateful for! Do this at least once a week and put the date next to your entry.
You are only defeated when you decide to no longer try. Each day you wake up above the ground is another day to get it right. Each day that you are willing to just try adds up to another day closer to the greater prize.