We are so often told to take baby steps but we don't know what that means. We don't even know where to start. I got inspiration from St Francis of Assisi: Start by doing what is necessary, then do what is possible, and suddenly you will be doing the impossible.
The scale is *not* your enemy nor something to be feared. It is a tool. Use it to help you do the work of weight loss.
Think about this: do you fear the thermometer? No! You use it to help you dress for outside. It's a tool that gives you a useful number.
Ditto the scale. I know I pack...
A woman told me, "You'll never lose all that weight. It's just too much to expect. I know I've tried and nothing works."
I went away feeling like I was wasting my time.
Then I found this from Mark Twain -- "Stay away from those who would belittle your ambitions. Small people always do...