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After living over 7 months on about a third of my regular income this year due to health reasons, we are trying hard to get back on track financially. I told our 8 kids that Christmas gifts were going to look a bit differently this year and I asked each of them to make me a list that included 5 things they needed and 5 things they wanted.We used that list to select their gifts with a plan to get them at least 3 needs and one want. It made shopping asier and more meaningful.
... about anything that might be getting in the way of your goals. You can seek out a friend, a confidant, a doctor, a pastor, a family member and you can talk face to face, on the phone, in an email, on a message board--but talk to somebody. It will help you to think things through and stay focused--don't go out and "chase bunnies!" Stick to your goals!
We all do far more that is "right" than "wrong." This can be in any area-weight loss, healthy eating, fitness and activity, our jobs, raising our family, household tasks, caring for others, etc...Instead of lamenting the parts that you didn't do or didn't do well, celebrate what you did that was done well. We all improve in increments and the way to go is to set a goal to improve in a more difficult area. Celebrating what we have done well often gets neglected but that's the important part.
It happens-something tempts you! It can be anything and it can be something you bought or something someone else bought--it can be in your cupboard or frig or at work or anything/ any place. If you promise yourself that you will wait ten minutes before you eat it, you will give yourself time to think about it. Are you REALLY hungry? Do you really want that food or can you make a better choice? Will a glass of water serve you better? Chances are that you won't eat it ten minutes later!
We are working on our older house that has seen a lot of life from our 8 kids who are rapidly growing up. We realized that we can do lots of things ourselves if we go to one of the big stores and check out what's available rather than paying for expensive guys to come and do the work. There is a good feeling to doing it ourselves--and we save some $$ at the same time,
It has dawned on me that my most successful weeks in losing weight are the ones where my planning has kept me organized. When I plan my meals and my activity, I make those choices ahead of time. It is easy to stick with the choices that I already made and I do my best at the scale too.
If you are like I am, you may be building a set of new, healthy habits to replace a lifetime of poor habits and choices. It is important to pay attention to what you are doing, even after your lifestyle seems to be healthy and focused. It is easy to slip back into things that you have done for years and longer. Continue to use the nutrition tracker and to reflect on your behaviors. Catch yourself slipping back into the "old ways" early and restate your resolve. You've worked too hard!!
No matter what I try or what I do, I have found that I need to have my goals clearly defined and prominent in my head, my heart, my brain and my world. I need to reflect upon them and keep them up to date. They have to really match what I need and want and they have to cover what I do today, this week, this month and in the long run. There are some great articles here at SP about making SMART goals to get you started.
Today is my birthday and that makes it a perfect day to reflect. We need to take the time to thoughtfully look at our own condition on a regular basis. This isn't a time to chastise ourselves, but a time to take note of everything that we are doing right and everything that we are doing better. there is nothing more motivating than success--and we are all doing some things right. As is true with any learning, we start where we are at and we scaffold new learning and achievements. Celebrate!
Once you have your long term goals, make those medium range and short term goals--and select 3 fast break goals. Then simply keep at it. It is almost magical how working towards those goals turns into new healthy habits. It takes one day at a time--and suddenly you find that you are there!