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After having a morning cup of coffee and catching up with Matt Lauer in the morning in my jammies, I was hardly motivated to go to the gym with my husband. So now I put on my workout clothes as soon as I get up, before coffee, before Matt. That puts me halfway to working out. Even if I am not motivated, the fact that I am already dressed to work out, is enough to get moving, literally!
I recently heard a friend say "my mother makes me eat rich food." Well, unless she had a gun to her head(she didn't) Mom didn't make her eat. Mom may have pressured my friend, but my friend ultimately made the decision to eat the rich food, instead of standing her ground and saying "no." No matter what pressure, or coercion someone uses, you are ultimately responsible for what you choose to eat.
the words you use are really important and affect your thoughts and actions. Express what you do want not what you don't want Say " I want to be slim and healthy" instead of saying "I don't want to be fat any more." Say "I intend to eat healthy foods" not " I'm not going to eat cookies any more." Make sure all your self-talk is framed in a positive way. This simple trick has a huge impact on your ultimate success.
Don't go into failure mode when the numbers aren't going down. Instead think of it as an opportunity to learn and to examine what you are doing. Maybe you need to up your exercise or maybe you haven't been diligent about writing down every bite. Adjust and move forward, one step at a time.
I have discovered that I need data, real hard facts, in order to be successful. Having a vague feeling of success, or guessing at how I am doing just doesn't work for me. I thought my exercising 30 minutes every other day was enought to make a difference. NOT. So now I have a pedometer and I was shocked and appalled to realize that I was only walking 2000 steps a day. So now my goal is 8000 steps per day.
Meal planning is always a problem for me, and trying to plan healthy meals makes me even more food obsessed-what ot buy what to make etc. So for now I am relying on Lean Cuisine dinners. I'm freed up, don't have to plan as much and am no longer obsessed with meals, what to eat etc.
I find that I do best when I have fewer choices; too many choices can be overwhelming. So I made a list of some basic healthy foods that I like and a few meal plans for each meal. I made this Groups in my nutrition tracker and now I can rotate among these basic plans. I can change any of the elements in any of the meals if I want to, but I know I have some healthy meals I can count on
So if you focus on the weight you haven't lost, or the plateau you may be stuck on you will be giving momentum and strength to the very things you don't want. So always focus on the things you want more of-the weight you have lost, or what steps you will take to move to the next stage. Give energy only to thoughts of what you do want in your life.
No matter what, never beat yourself up about something you've eaten. Ever. Doing so will pull you into a negative cycle of self abuse. You've eaten it, for whatever reason, whatever it was it's done and you can't change that. But what you can do is change your reaction to having eaten it. Rather than beat yourself up, be compassionate with yourself and that will get you into a more positive state of mind so you can move on.