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Finding Time for ''Me'' Time


If everyone else around you is worthy of care and attention, then so are you. You not only deserve this time, but you need it for your own well-being. Lack of time for ourselves often leads to feeling frustrated, tired, overwhelmed and out of balance. Without this time for ourselves, we lose sight of what's important to us.

Occasionally I am asked, "Doesn't exercise count as 'me' time?" Well the answer is yes and no. If you approach exercise as another responsibility to cross off the list, and/or get more joy when you are done vs. enjoying the actual time spent working out, you are probably getting lots of health benefits, but not the same kind you get from "me" time. Unless you walk away from your routine feeling renewed, refreshed, relaxed and ready to take on the world once again, you may still need another activity that you do just for the pure joy of doing it. If, despite a regular exercise routine, you still feel overwhelmed and yearning for personal time, scheduling a few "me" time activities will do you a world of good!

Let's look at some ways you can make "me" time a reality:

First, decide that you deserve some time to yourself each day. Stop feeling guilty for taking time out for you, and realize in the long run, it's a win-win for everyone. When you are tired, stressed out and pulled in too many directions, it is hard to give your best to all you must accomplish. Remember, self-time is not selfish—it's a necessary dimension of self-care!

Decide how best to spend "me" time. How each of us chooses to spend free time is as individualized as we all are. If you had an extra 15 minutes, a half hour, an afternoon or an entire day, what would you do to make yourself feel rejuvenated, relaxed and happy? Write a list and keep it handy when you begin scheduling time into your calendar.

Evaluate the things that are wasting your time each day. Do you check your emails constantly and end up spending more time on your computer than you planned? Do you answer personal calls in the middle of your workday? Run to the supermarket daily to pick up dinner rather than plan in advance and shop once? If this sounds like you, you must take the time to organize your responsibilities, and you will gain more free time than you can imagine.
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About The Author

Ellen Goldman Ellen Goldman
Ellen founded EnerG Coaching, LLC to help individuals struggling with health issues that can be impacted by positive lifestyle change, such as weight loss, stress management, exercise, and life/work balance. As a professional wellness coach and certified personal trainer, Ellen holds a BS and Masters in Physical Education and is certified by ACSM, AFAA, and Wellcoaches Corporation. Visit her at Get her complimentary report, 52 Tips, Tools & Tricks to Permanent Weight Loss Without Going on a Diet, at

Member Comments

  • Great read - 11/6/2015 1:16:05 AM
  • I used to be a night owl, until I had kids (I have 4 of them, they are 8, 5, 4, and 2). Now, I totally agree with you, I get up about an hour before the kids to have my coffee and just BE before the chaos begins. It makes a world of difference in my mood and the overall feel of the day. - 10/7/2015 10:54:32 PM
  • Great article! There are periods in our lives when me time is definitely a commodity that is hard to come by. Young mothers with jobs outside the home...that is a real challenge, and I remember how hard it was. Just know that there will be times ahead when you *do* have more time, and grab what you can when you can for the time being. The one thing I would caution people about is this idea of creating more time by depriving ourselves of sleep. Whether it's for exercise or just being alone for me time, I'm not sure earning time in that way is the best solution. Getting enough sleep is critical for people with already hectic lives! - 9/16/2015 12:07:59 PM
  • My "me time" is to relax with a good book. I tend to lose myself in the pages, so working out while reading is not a good idea. - 9/15/2015 10:55:40 AM
    Whenever someone says " I don't have enough time," she is really saying "I'm choosing to spend my time on other things." If we have any zest for life at all, there really is not enough time in a day to do all the things we want to do, so it's a continual prioritization between responsibilities and other things. - 4/17/2015 7:14:38 AM
  • I try to get up earlier than everyone to do my workout and have five minutes to relax afterwards, before getting ready for work/daycare, but usually then the baby wakes up and wants to be fed and held... Starting to think that instead of getting up an hour earlier at five, I'll have to start getting up at four instead, but that means five hours of sleep a night! - 4/17/2015 6:27:18 AM
  • My Spark time on the computer is my "Me time". - 1/7/2015 6:16:47 PM
  • My exercise time is definitely my "me time". - 11/2/2014 7:48:34 PM

  • Good examples, point taken. There are some limits I clearly need to define and somehow accept that yes sometimes it is OK to say NO. I struggle with that at work and at home. Hmmm what can I do to put things in to more balance:

    Run to the supermarket too many times per week for items we ran out of or fixin's for evening meal. I have to do the big grocery trip on the weekend, I'm definitly running to the store way to much during the week for things we run out of or fixin's for the evening meal. I hate wasting gas and having my old car do an extra 50+ mile loop back to the city but maybe it really is worth it...maybe 2x per month.

    Personal calls and text in the middle of your workday are stressing me out and taking my focus away. This needs to trim down - wish the article suggested tactful ways to suggest this to what always seems to be an emergency or reaching out for lonliness. Hmmm.

    Asking for more help with chores...maybe there is something here but partner being disabled not only do I work, cook, care for cats, laundry, take trash down, etc..there has to be something that I can think of to take off my plate here. - 10/18/2014 4:31:38 PM
  • Sometimes it is so easy to tell someone else that they can make time until you walk in their shoes. I don't get enough sleep as it is, on workdays, sometimes it is only 3-4 hours with a 12 hour night work schedule, so getting up 45 minutes early is not real an option. I live alone since the death of my husband so there is no one else to assign chores to and the barn chores still need to be done. My parents are in their late 80's and frequently need things done for them, pretty hard to say no to that. Time for me sounds good but it is going to have to wait for a few years now. - 9/7/2014 10:08:44 PM
  • A great read. My goal for the new year is to plan food/meals for the week so I am not running to the market every day, as mentioned here. It is time consuming, expensive and annoying!
    - 12/21/2013 8:47:44 AM
  • I have time for myself my problem is my health I am in much pain for the most port of the day which causes me to be depressed and some what overwhelmed . I have gone to many Drs. but no one can decide including me what do I need to do. The worst thing bills are beginning to pile up As I try to deal with the pain I can see that as the time goes by the pain is increasing , meaning I notice is getting more difficult for me to do exercise. I have to wait sometimes up to 3 days before I feel good enough for me to attempt to do any kind of exercise. After dealing with this for a long time I feel I am at the point of calling it quits I don't know what else to do.. I seat down a lot and I don't like it , I really need some other kind of help, I don't know what to do . I hope somebody can read this and give me some ideas . - 11/3/2013 10:50:06 PM
    This is a great read...just what I need to be reminded of on a regular basis. No 'me' time tends to equate to not feeling like I linked to being linked to further not taking care of myself...How can I bookmark this article so I can come back to it on some kind of regular basis? - 10/25/2013 9:27:04 AM
  • Needed to read this. I've always had a hard time putting self-care in my day, and I'm realizing how vital it is. - 9/7/2013 3:46:22 AM
  • Just the reminder I needed today. - 9/6/2013 5:59:00 PM

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