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  • CALLISTA14
    Am happy to share this testimony about the great priest manuka. I am callista, my husband had an affair with another lady for almost 10 years now and it was the worse thing that ever happened to our marriage. I was forced to take a good hard look at my behavior in the marriage and I came to realize that I was partly to blame for his affair. I had become emotionally unavailable to him and when something good or bad happened in my life, I called my friends instead of my husband. I had stopped allowing him to love me and to support me and he felt as if I no longer needed him. As a musician on the road with his band, it became to much temptation for him when a girl he met on road became interested in him and was more than available for him emotionally and physically. Once I really started to examine my behavior, I realized that I had as much work to do as he did. When going through all theses problem i came across priest manuka then i explained things to him. after explanation to him, he told me what to do by bringing back my husband so i decided to follow the rules which he gave to me. Now, My husband cut all tires with his other woman and became committed to working on our marriage to save it. Today, we have a beautiful son, another on the way in a couple weeks, we own our home, and have a fuller, happier life than we ever imagined. After i came across the testimony made by lucy about how this temple of spirit brought back her ex husband for more than 6 years in marriage. so my if you are in such pain and you don’t no what to do you can contact this great man for help i promise you he will help you the way he helped me. via Email [lovesolutiontemple1@gmail.com or call him +17864385003] he will help and solve all problems around
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  • ROSELYN2222222
    What would i have done if not for Dr Blessing, my man of 3 years started acting strange when he got a new job in new York, i thought it was because of new job after two months i find out he has been cheating on me with his working mate i tried talking to him because i loved him and something in me told me he was not himself as my man loved me and our kid so much, in this process of trying to talk to him about this other woman my man pushed me out of the house , i was xo xo depressed that i wanted to file for divorce, but my mom ask me not to go for divorce so i tried holding myself even when i wasn't happy during this time, i started looking out for solutions everywhere, but non worked , until the day my aunt introduce me to this man called Dr blessing,of blessingspiritualtemple@gmail.com i explained my situation to him and he said to me if i believed in him ? i said to him and he told me to get somethings done which i did as usual , and he told me my man was under black magic from another woman and i said yes i suspected he was, but he finally said i should wait for two days that my man will call or text me , i believed him because i know my aunt will never mislead me , i was amazed when i received messages of apology from my man after two days i quickly told Dr blessing about this and he said that was just the beginning and that was how me and my husband are reunite again today and am carrying our second child inside me now, so with all this wonderful and amazed work done for me by Dr blessing i promise to share and inform the world about him because i know many are out there passing through hardship in their relationship , and i also introduced Dr blessing to my friends here and he did same good result for them all so am convince that with blessingspiritualtemple@gmail.com your relationship can be saved again
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  • It's a part of life, SparkFriend. It is an eye-opener and I've learned through the death of my Dad, life goes on.
  • We have a Grief Share class at my church right now. I'm on the fourth week, very good.
    This year,I lost both my mother and father within 6 months , a sister, a father-in-law, grandmother and elderly friend in between 2012-14 and some other family members I wasn't very close to this year, and another relative on his death bed as we speak. Had an acquaintance shoot and kill his mother and brother this year. And a friend of the family killed in a burning car a couple years ago.

    I KNEW that after Dad died in June...that I had better get help dealing with all these things, before emotions began going in a wrong direction. Sometimes you need to be aware that you may not be handling as well as you think you are. Embrace the opportunities for help.
  • Great article! Thanks for posting.
  • This is a very good article. I'm glad it is here. As I learned long long ago you do have to go through to get better. One thing I did learn is God is not the enemy, death is. And yes we need to grieve just don't stay stuck there.
  • This article is coming at just the right moment. My Dad died a year ago on April 18. I have been through all of the stages in this article. His death also made me realize I have been suffering from depression for many years. His death put me in a real tailspin. My wife and siblings helped me get through the funeral.

    My wife convince me I needed to get help. I have been on a medication for depression for five months and have felt the best I have ever felt in many years. This also lead me to be more motivated to get into better shape. My wife and I are both enrolled in a medically supervised weight loss program and are both using Sparkpeople. She is much more private about such things than I am but I have a need to talk or share about this stuff with others besides her. Thank you.
  • Exercise helps me deal with grief. The times I want to exercise least are when I need it the most. So I lace up my sneakers and Move!
  • KRIS_KROS
    Thank you for the article. However, I want to add that my problem with not "letting go" (whatever that means) of the grief of the death of a parent was actually because I was horrified by the ostracism I experienced right afterwards. In short order I was kicked out of my home (I had been the caregiver), all family members shut me out, and I ended up having to spend a night on the couch of a neighbor, then live with an ex boyfriend for a month until I could set up an apartment. I'd never been treated like that since I'd been bullied in 7th grade. It felt just the same. Eventually that was the aha moment. Literally 19 years later, I'm reading about scapegoating in toxic families. Well I can tell you exactly who the narcissist was that set me up for that fall. But all this time, I've been wondering what I did wrong, and the reason I couldn't ever honestly blame myself was, there was no reason for it, they just needed me to be the caregiver and then threw me away like a used tissue. That's the hurt that never healed all this time. I kept going for grief counseling over and over, it never worked. I needed "scapegoat of a narcissistic family" counseling, which is very different. Amazingly I tell the same stories again, only this time, it is being recognized for what it is instead of "just people grieving". I had given up on myself.
  • this is exactly what I have been looking for. I have been struggling a lot since the loss of my daughter. I know it is still going to take time, but this is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
  • Even though this was written several years ago, there is still a lot to learn from it. As well as so many stories in the replies. It's comforting to know we are not alone in the struggles we have when a devastating event occurs. And it makes it easier to reach out to others and not be reluctant to offer a strong shoulder.
  • Love this article!

    In 2008 I went through a pretty difficult divorce. I went through every single one of these steps. I had to treat my divorce like a death, and in a way it was a loss such as death. I had to rearrange my entire life, say goodbye to a family that I knew for 8 years and face the dating world again (scary stuff!).

    Today I am remarried and have a beautiful baby girl. My life is great and I know that the divorce was a good thing. But I often still have difficulty cooping with the lose of someone who I cared very much for and knew for 8 years. The hurt, the sadness, the anger.... it will hit me every once in a while. I often believed something was wrong with mentally. That after all these years I still grieve. But after reading this article and a few other peoples comments, I know I am not alone. Thank you for the article and for allowing myself to see I can still grieve.
  • On 2014-12-19 my dog, who was my baby, passed away suddenly due to a liver shunt. I knew he had been having liver issues but the ultrasound came up clear. I never expected him to die. I live in an isolated community and have limited contact with other people. He was my only companion and my "child". Today is his birthday, he would have been three today if he wasn't taken from me. I have a new puppy (I couldn't stand to live alone) but my heart still aches so bad. I have lost family members and friends in the past but this pain just won't stop. I'm definitely see myself in the "stages" and right now I'm in the depressed stage. Every day is so hard to get through. I just can't wait to be okay with everything. I've also been coping with the loss of three failed adoption placements. Two of which the babies are now in foster care until they age out at 18 (due to the rules in the community I live in). Losing my baby and having all this adoption stress has put me at the lowest point I've ever had in my life. I keep trying to think positive and I've made some plans for trips this summer (I'm a teacher) with my new puppy but it's just so hard to see through the pain.

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