Thank you. I needed this and it's really reinforcing/validating my decision to fire my trainer. I have about 4 sessions left. I initially thought about pausing it, but I grow less and less comfortable with my trainer because she's a control freak and has boundary issues. I don't really need her to learn new exercises because I am doing a lot of reading on my own and I've been following fitness videos as well. As for nutrition advice, omg, the advice she's been giving is so so very bad that I have been shaking my head in despair. She doesn't understand how calories work, what BMR is, I don't even know how she got her PT certification. She was teaching me lunges the wrong way the other day. If that's not enough, she keeps flitting from client to client, and then lying to me when I ask if she's busy with other clients (because if she is, we can reschedule). And now she's been making imputations that I am flirting with other gym trainers and changing their schedules around. (I've actually been training at different times to avoid her). I love the gym but the gym would be so much better without her. :/
5/3/2012 6:19:48 AM
We developed such a good relationship that I started to get a crush on him!!! Not to mention, he's totally hot!!! So I just stopped going for like a few months and then booked a session with a female at the club. He saw me training with her and didn't look too happy even though I still say hello and smile, he gives me the cold shoulder. I've been married almost 10 years and I even talked to my husband about my feelings. I made the decision that training with same-sex trainers is best for me.....the articicle says to be honest but I don't see myself telling him the truth.
I didn't have any trouble breaking up with mine he was lazy and USELESS even with a bachelor's in Kinesiology.
4/24/2012 11:00:27 AM
I've had two trainers and the worst part is always the end. My issue right now is finances - I can't afford paying two hundred dollars each month for sessions. I believe that I can do a good workout on my own - I've done it. The only reason I was with my 2nd trainer was because I was given four free workouts as a gift. Now we are at the end, and I already feel pressured to buy more sessions. Unfortunately, I can't go to the manager because he is worse than the trainers - he doesn't take no for an answer without heaping on the guilt. It makes me want to avoid my own gym, which really stinks.
Very helpful article. I once had a free training session where I learned I was getting the same exact workout as everyone else. It was the wrong kind for me, and I ended up throwing up for hours afterwards. The trainer constantly talked to other people while I stood there waiting to continue, and there was no way I would have continued with that person.
I LOVE my trainer... that gym and his attitude is what helped me to be 31.4 lbs thinner and to feel good about myself. I never feel intimidated and he always asks the 110% while I'm there that he knows that I can give. I have a knee injury, and he works with my dr. and I with special exercises to strengthen me up. I couldn't ask for a better situation, he gives me a great deal... but I can't afford it. I know that if I cancel I won't go, so I pay it anyways. I'll have to break up with him one of these days... :(
Great article! I am a personal trainer and I agree that there is a special relationship between client and trainer--often it becomes a friendship of sorts. The only thing I would add is that, if you are comfortable, tell your trainer what you want! If she isn't giving you the workouts that you would like to do, let her know. I have many clients, and there are some who literally won't allow me to do certain exercises with them! I'd much rather know that they don't like something than have them end the relationship and leave me wondering what I did wrong. The comment from toriame aout loving another trainer is a common event...at our club there are no hard feelings among trainers if a client decides to work with someone else. We care more about the client's experience than anything else! And if you aren't comfortable talking to your trainer, do talk to his or her supervisor. Don't just stop working out or stop using a trainer. There is someone out there for everyone!!
8/18/2009 8:11:28 PM
I am glad to know how to "break up" with your trainer. Mine is always pushing her services even after I explained that I can't afford her every week. Every time I see her she tells me that I can join another person and share but that is still $25. a week...I have worked out and have my own "cards" with lists of exercises on it...I may not push myself as hard as she did but at 63 and she is 26, she doesn't always realize that there are a few things I am not able/willing to do...one is run a marathon!
Hmmm...I could have used this article a couple of weeks ago. For the record, I didn't mean to fire the trainer, but had noticed several of the symptoms listed. When my trainer was out sick, the training manager at my gym gave me a substitute. It was love from first workout and I commented on it to the manager who encouraged me to switch trainers and made me an appointment for when I returned. He asked for specific feedback to pass along to the previous trainer. I feel a bit bad, since I haven't seen that trainer at the gym since before my vacation, but I feel so much better about the new trainer!
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