Getting to goal weight means requires that I learn to control the beast (the emotional eater). Maybe I haven't wanted to, which is the first hurdle I have to overcome. The second one is learning how to.
Since the term "beast" was used, I have decided to use it to my benefit. I have a medium-sized lightweight sculpture of a midieveil dragon of my husband's that I have decided to put on my desk, which is also where the tv sits. It's going to help me counter the potato chip elves and the bad friggies, which I'm going to call my tempations. It's going to fight them for me, I've decided.
I learned when drawing en plein aire (outside) that I have two entities, an angel and a demon, sitting on both shoulders. One aims to have fun and be joyous, the other aims to cut me down. I could choose to listen to either, but I chose to hush the demon and listen to the angel. It was a palpable struggle, but the desire to be outside and happy and to let my inner joy out was stronger than the demon telling me I was no good at what I was doing. I shut it up. My dragon is going to be my friend in this fight I call the active friggies.
Great image, helps to put a "face" on the cravings, urges, whatever they are. Know I've been dealing with tons of stress at work so been doing more exercise but with early darkness I can't walk as much as I want. The "beast" knows this and so I will have to find other ways to keep him at bay. Nice article, thanks.
The Beast -- wonderful image. I've got a lovely picture of a black dragon, and I've blogged before about taming emotional dragons. I'm going to print that picture and put it up in my cubicle and on my fridge.
Loved the Tame the Beast article. Exactly how I feel. Will now read the whole series. I've never been able to put the feeling into such practical language before.
8/23/2013 9:49:53 AM
A good book once told mr to go out and buy a pacifier and suck on it like the little baby you are being. It sounds harsh, but really, wouldn't the adult thing be to deal with the emotion and figure out why you're upset?
It's one thing to overeat the day your mom dies, or on 9/11, but if you go to food every baseball game -- you're going to pack on some weight. Learn to comfort yourself with something other than food. Even a cup of green tea; that's a good way to calm down a friend.
How did you get inside my head, Dean Anderson? LOL! Thank you for always being so frighteningly wise! I also now have a visual of the "Beast" (it looks something like a "Where the Wild Things Are" character that I can conjure up in those situations you have so accurately described. Yesterday, I actually got up from my desk and began to prowl for food somewhere in my office.....the "Beast" had taken over my mind for that brief and potentially disastrous period.. Now, I can actually visualize putting him back in his cage so I can go on with my day!
5/28/2013 9:12:11 AM
This sounds exactly like quitting cigarettes except, of course, you don't have to smoke three times a day to live.
4/23/2013 6:10:48 PM
That Beast lives within me as well, My way of keeping it caged, and / or happy is to stay away from as many simple carbs as possable, They seem to trigger that Beast. I have been keeping my Carbs as low as I can keeping any that do end up on my plate, as complex as possable. That after Dinner snack is also a trigger, so I make sure it is only Protein. Once I get the carbs under control, (takes about 5 days of really working hard at self control) I do fine, The Beast has its comments close to bed time every night, but it is just a light whisper, not a full blown RAWR.
I think this may be the approach I need. Since I ignore the beast when I am at school all day, she demands my attention as soon as I get home. Now I will think of just disciplining the beast instead of feeding her. Wow! I think this will work!!!
For me, "distraction" didn't work. I had to FEEL the feelings that were causing my emotional eating and then RELEASE them. I was an emotional eater for much of my adult life. When I wasn't actively dieting, I was constantly craving pasta, cheese, or anything crunchy. I wasn't so much a sweets gal. But I would come home at night after work and make several helpings of spaghetti or fettuccine alfredo and plop down in front of the TV. I finally figured out that I was eating to reduce subconscious tension, anxiety and a general unhappiness with my life. Then I decided to take a look at my life in great detail, and use emotional freedom techniques to rid myself of my emotional eating. I methodically examined all my memories from childhood to present and released any negative emotions I was harboring. The end result is I'm emotionally free for the first time in my life, and I'm very happy. I've lost 30 lbs and am still losing. I no longer crave high carb foods and look forward to eating salads and fresh fruits and veggies for my meals. I would encourage anyone struggling with emotional eating or food addiction to investigate EFT. It was a miracle in my life. I've also shared my journey, as well as all the exact techniques and exercises I used to get over my emotional eating in my book, ThinStead. If my story resonates with you, and you want to get over your emotional eating too, ThinStead is available on Amazon. If you can beat your emotional eating, you won't have to diet anymore, because you'll automatically be making healthier food choices every day. Doing the emotional work seriously gave me back my life. I feel so much freer and happier now than I ever have, that I wanted to share my story with others. But whatever you do, God bless you in your journey to health and fitness!
This was a great article and I'm glad I read it. The beast was definately banging down my door today - luckily I refused to answer - and I know it will come knocking again and again until I learn to cope with my emotional eating in a healthy, less self destructive way. I really like the suggestions the article provides, and will try and use them when I want to turn to food for comfort.
This is a fantastic article. I always thought that there was no way to deal with my emotional eating but the tools that this article gave me are exactly what I needed. Thank you! I have saved this to my favorites and plan on using the ideas in this article on a regular basis.
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