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Stop Feeling Guilty about Every Mistake

Don't Let Toxic Guilt Wipe Out Your Willpower


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  • I like this article. It gives voice to the dilemma of self control/willpower. I have begun to think before acting when I am craving a snack. I stop to think (often but not always) "Is there something else I like that would be a better choice, even if it doesn't fit my plan for the day?" and try to keep those better choices available in my home.
  • Great article! I just totally messed up, and it's still morning. I was mad at myself, and feeling so guilty, so I decided to come on SparkPeople for some much needed inspiration. The front page had a link to this article on it, and I feel much better about the rest of the day now. I plan on eating my fruits and veggies, watching out not to add too many calories or fat, and trying to get some fiber in. Thank you so much for this article!
  • I needed this today. I dropped the ball just a little the last two days while hormones were raging, after a few weeks and being right on track. I've been beating myself up mercilessly about it, and being reminded that it's okay to acknowledge the slip-ups--but it's counterproductive to dwell on them and let them completely derail your efforts.

    Great timing.
  • I agree with this article because, until recently, I thought I was impulsive, and just couldn't say no. But, of all things, I watched my daughter resisting a tempting desert; she looked at it, slightly cocked her head, then walked away. I never asked her about it, but thought maybe she learned that from me before I gained all this weight. I do hear that little voice now, and hope I have the strength to continue listening for it. 8-)
  • Very informative
  • I only read the first 3 so far and it is great advice. I agree that it is for all areas of our lives. Thanks.
    Great advice not only for weight loss but for every area of our lives. Thanks, Coach Dean!
  • Great article! I suffer from this. I haven't for the most part over the last two weeks, but I def mindlessly gnosh and I def beat the crap out of myself after I do it. I love the advice in this article and that there is hope in retraining that small voice to become the new force to be reckoned with. I will be practing this!
  • This is such a wonderful article. I am my own worst enemy. If I talked to others the way I talk to myself I would be a very hated person. Thank you for helping me.
  • A very good article - its healthier to try to learn from our mistakes and then move on.
  • Excellent article. The key as Dean says, is to "stay grounded in the moment."
  • Dean Anderson has a GREAT way with words! Love reading his articles!
  • Incredible how this article put words thoughts that have rumbled about in my brain without direction or definition. Knowledge is power - thank you!!
  • The sort of things that were described in this article happened to me often. Instead of purging myself or wallowing in self pity about it, I take responsibility for it and move on. I have done this several times and I know I can always get back on track. I don't even feel guilty about the occasional binge anymore. When I binge, I enjoy it and say to myself "I will get back on track tomorrow". And guess what? I have ALWAYS got back on track. It may not always be the next day, but I always get back on track. All it takes is for me to start planning my meals again and maybe compensating for a few days. Even with the occasional binging, I still lost/losing weight. Look at me now, I have lost almost 16kg and I am only 0.5kg from reaching my goal weight. It may have slowed down my progress, but I don't care. I'm in this for the long haul. :D
  • We all need to change our mindset from "I deserve this calorific food" to "this is not healthy for me, I should have something else. I did this myself the other day when I sat down with a bag of potato chips, I got up and got myself a banana and some natural yogurt instead. We all have it in us to make better choices. We just need to think what makes us healthy!!

    :D :D :D

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