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Put the ''I'' Back in Your Vocabulary

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  • While I agree that only I can put food in my mouth,chew, and swallow it, it doesn't help that my retired husband wants to eat in fast food restaurants, wants to buy me candy, wants to cook potatoes, does a carby pea soup giving me 1.5 servings rather than 1 serving, and that is just the start. He has been retired for 5 years now and I have gained 20 pounds. He loves 3cooked meals a day., and gets rather huffy if I decline food. Right now, his life revolves around food and eating it, and he is never happier than when I'm in the kitchen cooking. He loves to cook too. Our conversations are about what we are going to eat and when we are going to eat it, what is in the freezer what is in the fridge, what I need to bake, what recipe we should use,our grocery list, which grocery stores have the best deals, what we have eaten in the past. Which grocery stores are outrageously expensive, and that is just the start He goes on from there. Anyway, you get the gist. - 10/28/2012 11:08:38 PM
  • The only problem I have with the "I" statements is that sometimes it's not a choice. For instance, I have to do all the cooking and cleaning at home (or else it doesn't get done at all) so I end up not having time to do other things. Good grief, I get up at 5:30am and go to work, study at lunch (I'm in grad school), spend as much time as possible exercising after work (20 min to an hour), then cook dinner, do dishes, take care of any other cleaning or prep for the next day (usually that means making lunch in advance), and go to bed. If I'm lucky, I might get to watch 30 min or so of TV MAYBE. My "I" statement is that I don't have time for very much "fun" stuff like working out or catching my favorite show. - 10/9/2012 6:05:34 PM
  • This should be right out on the home page of Spark People so we can all see that it is our own responsibility for being where we are in life.
    I decided to make some wrong choices in the "unhealthy" living area but now I am making more choices to follow a healthy lifestyle.
    It is no ones choices but mine that caused me to be overweight. Now I choose to take steps to become healthier. I choose to make healthier choices for me.

    What a great article. - 9/20/2012 9:32:27 AM
  • I'm a little laete jumping on this bandwagon since I'm on vacation, but how about this?

    *I* am on vacation, but *I* am still in control of what I put in my mouth...

    Becca - 8/7/2012 8:08:00 AM
  • This is really helpful. I'm going to start writing today and I look forward to reading all the articles in this series. - 8/5/2012 1:34:50 PM
  • Excellent strategy. I hadn't been thinking and reacting to life like this before. I will begin right now. Thanks. - 5/18/2012 1:15:40 PM
  • Excellent advice, not just for dieting but also for getting clear on other issues in life. Thanks for a great article! - 5/15/2012 1:26:31 PM
  • So true! Everybody needs to be accountable for their own actions but with the pressures of everyday life and trying to live up to the expectations of others we sometimes forget to take care of ourselves.

    It's just like when you are on airplane and they give you the safety talk about what to do when the oxygen mask falls out of the roof in an emergency, you have to first put the mask on yourself first before you help anyone else.

    To be able to take care of other people in your life you need to take care of yourself first. - 4/5/2012 9:31:47 AM
  • Wow. One of the best weight loss (and motivation) articles I have ever read. - 4/5/2012 8:55:25 AM
  • SUZZQ4LIFE
    Very inspiring article and I'd like to say thank you for writing it. I also have been exposed to using the "I" statements but never thought of using it in the sense of weight loss or exercise. Now I know why I come up with the excuses I do. I'm going to use these ideas right away. Thank you so much. - 2/27/2012 12:39:46 PM
  • I love the concept of taking responsibility for yourself through the use of I statements.

    I blogged about something very similar just yesterday.

    Helen - 11/20/2011 6:46:59 PM
  • We are just past a major religious observance for me, and one of the things we do at that time is make vows for the next year (sort of like New Year's resolutions, but ones we really do keep, and intend to make a permanent part of our lives). This year, my vow is to stop making excuses when I do something or don't do something that is counter to my own well-being. Not that I won't do it, but that I won't lie to myself about why I did it. This seems like a really useful tool as I move through this year. Thank you. I think you have just helped me in my quest to become more aware of my own motivations and decision making processes. - 11/20/2011 12:21:12 PM
  • The self-responsibility factor is huge.... it illiminates my excuse that being a care taker of others is my priority. I need to make my health a priority, too, so I can continue to help the ones I love. - 11/5/2011 1:59:34 PM
  • I have had some experience with affermations. I never thought about using them dealing with diet and exercise. I think this is a very good idea. I like the idea of writing about what is behind whi I did or did not do something. I will read the rest of it and work and impliment this into my daily habits. I have enjoyed this so far. Thank you . - 10/3/2011 1:20:09 AM
  • I often find myself in situations that I feel I have completely no control over. My husband has frequently pointed out that I do have control, but I seem to have no way of understanding how. This article has really made me ponder how I make my decisions, and, whether this has even filtered through into my eating patterns. I'm going to follow his advice and write down what has happened to cause me to do something I didn't want to do and see what I find. I'm so tired of living my life this way. - 9/24/2011 5:46:01 AM

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