Great article! I was just telling someone yesterday that the most important part of my weight loss journey has been learning it's all about the CHOICES I make. Choosing to do an extra workout, or to really stop and consider whether I really want to use my calorie allowance for something in the junk food group (like doughnuts!) that will only last a short time. I feel this attitude will help me finally achieve my goals - I already weigh less than I have in 25 years!
All of this article applies to me! Sometimes if I don't have a "perfect" eating day I will go all out and eat everything that looks good! I am trying not to let one "bad" choice ruin my whole day or week. And this week it is so hot, it's almost impossible to get a long bike ride in. So I rode at 1:30 in the morning when it was cooler! Messed up my sleep for the night, but I couldn't sleep anyway. Since I'm retired I can always take a nap!
This article completely hit home for me. I *expect* to lose 2 - 3 pounds every week. I *expect* that I will always do a 60 to 90 minute workout every day. And I feel like a failure when it doesn't happen. These are unreasonable expectations, and complete motivation killers. I need to keep this in mind when the scale doesn't move or I don't work out as long or as hard as I think I should. Thanks for the great article.
7/15/2013 9:15:22 AM
This is a fantastic article! It really sums up exactly how I think all of us feel. It is nearly impossible not to set unrealistic expectations and to be disappointed in what we should be thrilled by (for instance, seeing a number on the scale not move as quickly as we want it to, when a week or two earlier, we would be thrilled with seeing it at all).
I am forwarding this to some people who I know are struggling with this. Thanks for such a well written engaging piece!
Just seen re:perfectionism comment. I know how it feels to be on meds and feeling depressed. One day at a time and one meal at a time. Sparks is brilliant for "being there" when I don't want to talk to anyone but still need some extra help. It's not a race and the only winner is us.
RE: Perfectionism; I was happy with my weight loss, size, energy, motivation until I was referred to the ER w/dangerously high blood pressure which began a change in and beginning of existing and new medications to lower the BP. Now I have re-gained all my weight and then some. I have no energy, no motivation and I hate the way I no longer fit in the CUTE (tho inexpensive) clothing I purchased at my lower weight. I have no desire to exercise, let alone get out of bed. My depression has returned, the weather is lousy and I know longer care about what I eat or drink. There is no hope of discontinuing new meds or losing gained weight. I have no desire to go out in the cold and run, walk or any other physical activity. My house is no warmer than outside; it is not practical for me to spend outrageous $$ to heat a house w/very little insulation, no floor insulation and single pane, aluminum frame windows. Facing family and financial crises that go hand-in-hand. Selling items to meet cost of special education and moving to reduce expenses. Yes, I know depression plays a huge part in how I feel, and I know not to trust 'feelings'. Weight loss isn't even really an issue right now. Would be nice and may help w/motivation and outlook, however, it will not change the 'big picture' I am looking at. No need for platitudes, gotta have something more for this one.
Great post! I genuinely enjoyed this article, especially since it can be applied to so many other areas in life!
10/14/2012 12:08:42 AM
This past week I've been searching for motivational something, anything that will help me pinpoint what, when and were did I go wrong with my sedentary lifestyle. This was not me just last year. I was active and training for a marathon and after all was said and done, this January, I slowly stopped working out and started with the weight gain. By may, I decided to get back into my routine but after 2 months and 8 lbs weight lost, the scale stopped moving. for about 2 weeks, nothing was moving, instead, I was gaining weight. That was when I got discouraged and lost focused. I am too hard on myself and it was all or nothing for me and I allowed the pressure to get the best of me. This article helped to remind me that I am not alone. And that I need to be realistic and set realistic goals. I was making great improvements and had I stuck with it, I would be congratulating myself right now instead of beating myself up. Anyhow, I really need to get back into the routine and hope that 2013 will be a more active one for me. Thank you for this great article and I hope to get moving soon.
Motivation and feeling like a failure is something I hugely struggle with. Your points are dead on...my expectations are unreasonable and I think I have to be perfect. I'm so glad I read this article this morning..I'm just beginning this journey (again) and this advice will hopefully stick in my mind with me during the "goal setting" stage. Thanks!!
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