I love this article, it seems like its talking about me. My self esteem is rather low and its partly because of my weight, but more so because of my spouse that makes me feel like a nobody and that brings my self esteem to a crashing low. I know I deserve better and until I do something about it Ill always feel the same about myself.
10/8/2010 11:25:44 AM
This one is a huge struggle for me. I just noticed that my teenage daughter is starting to avoid getting her picture taken....just like me. She is absolutely stunning and I watch her pick apart herself in all of her pictures. It kills me. So this is a much needed message for me. Thank you!
How about that, this text just made me realize that I do like to exercice. I do choose fun physical activities, I do belly dancing, I do set little goal to reach in a competition against myself... And as a matter of fact, I do feel great afterward. OMG, I'm still trap in the Perfectionnist Attitude ! Thats it, it over as in right now. I'm pround of myself and my level of physical activity!
This article was so profound, that Iit made me feel the need to read it over and over again. It helped me in so many ways. The article lead me to a lightbulb moment, that identified one of the reason exercise have been difficult for me; I never really learned how to enjoy playtime as a child. This information reminded me that I am not too old to have a more playful attitude, since the article suggested that exercising can relate, to playtime. Thank You
8/24/2010 9:22:58 PM
Just read this for the second time. Such great advice!
8/24/2010 4:24:27 PM
Gosh - this assumes that because a person is beyond what's considered normal for height/weight, that they automatically have a negative body image. If it weren't for seeing a specific change in values in my blood tests, I probably wouldn't exercise other than "lifestyle" exercise. I do as much as I need to for a positive result, but I don't do more exercise than I need to to obtain that result. My perception of self and my body image doesn't improve as I have no issues with my body image. I'm college educated, work full time with no sick leave taken in several years other than for routine checks. I am more than halfway to retirement. I'm respected in my place of employment, community and where I do volunteer work. I believe my self esteem is fine. Other than you telling me I should have a negative body image and low self esteem, why, exactly, should I?
Excerise always makes me feel better. Some days I feel lazy and think it won't hurt me if I skip it. But the truth is I am in a better mood and totally motivated after I finish a workout. I find that I get more accomplished through out the day if I have burned some serious calories to start the day.
What a fantastic article on attitude and healthy fitness goals. Before I found spark people, I used to just "mark time" with exercise. Now that I have discovered such varied workouts and have learned to compete with myself, I actually enjoy working out.
He said something that really hit home with me, "When you do that, you affirm that you and your body are friends—not enemies." I realize that I have always thought of my body as THE ENEMY and I have been battling it all of my adult years! That's pretty horrible, honestly. I see that I need to change my thinking and take care of ME..not just try to get to this "ideal number on the scale".
I like the idea of competing against yourself with exercise to make it more challenging. Marking progress in your bodies ability to perform. I have seen the lunges that I do become a little easier and I can walk a mile faster than I could 2 weeks ago. I would like to be "friends" with my body now, not later, so I'll be working on that! :-D
I'm one of the lucky ones. I LOVE to workout!! Not only has this helped me lose 83 lbs., I suffer from low-level depression and exercise helps my brain make the "feel good" hormones that combat my depression. I don't look at exercise as a chore, I see it as medicine.
Bullseye! Great article. I can't believe the changes in myself once I was determined to make a "lifestyle" change which of course meant I had to exercise for my health and to lose weight. I haven't lost a lot of weight, but I've lost 7 inches and I can't believe what a difference that makes. I feel good about my body and I want to treat it right, even though we have about 20-25 lbs left to go, which would make a total of 70-75 lbs of weight lost. I feel great with all of the changes so far and now I'm more determined to exercise more to keep this going, but also to add different exercises too to tone up. My attitude has completely changed toward my body image and I feel great when I exercise. I started with baby steps, but I can go longer and longer now, and I actually WANT to continue to exercise, even after I've accomplished the goal I set for that workout.
This article is on target. It was only when I decided to create a lifestyle that supported a healthy weight and fitness that I started to see real results. Incorporating active fun with group exercise, fitness clubs and active friends made it easy to get fit. When I am active, I have to eat better or else I don't perform as well during workouts. This synergy just works and it is all positive instead of seeming like a chore. I look forward to hiking with friends, biking or just going for a good walk instead of always driving to the store. Fitness can be fun and the results beyond your expectations.
2/18/2010 5:18:53 PM
I love Dean's articles and blogs, they always seem to make sense to me and really speak to the inner me that needs to hear the advice. I have pretty low self-esteem and sometimes still consider exercise to be punishment. I know that I have a long way to go on my journey towards a healthier me, and I know that learning to accept my body for what it is now and what it's capable of now is very important. Thank you for giving me tips on how to do just that!
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