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How to Get the Support You Need to Succeed

Get Your Friends, Family and Fellow SparkPeople on Board


    How to Succeed Without Support
    Achieve Your Goals Even Without Friends & Family On Board

    the title of this email connect to this article is very misleading. When in fact the article is all about support from family etc. Not about how to find support when you don't have any. - 11/4/2010 2:03:26 PM
  • I want to support, encourage people to examine the idea that they 'need support'. If you were on a deserted island, would you gain weight because you 'need support'? I doubt it. As a psychologist, I know that this is not a real need. Trying to get support is often just a result of some felt lack, or some emotional difficulty. It's far better to examine this difficulty that leads us to get support than it is to ignore the difficulty and then get attached to the idea of 'another need' on top of it. - 11/4/2010 11:16:54 AM
  • My mom (who lives in another state) and SparkPeople are my support systems. My husband isn't much support as he thinks I 'look fine the way I am'. He thinks women should have 'meat on their bones'. As I keep telling him, I felt SO much better physically when I was 30 pounds lighter. Thanks so much for this article!! - 11/4/2010 11:16:30 AM
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    I've read the article and shared it with family members and now I think their will be a better support group from family and friends. I thank God for your articles, they are a great benefit to me. - 11/4/2010 9:29:23 AM
  • My only support system is Spark People! I thank God every day for these people!! I've been a member for a year and I've received lots of advice and information to help through my journey. I don't think I would have been able to do this alone. I'm at a plateau right now after losing 93 lbs. and I'm a little frustrated, but I know I'm not alone. - 11/4/2010 8:55:42 AM
  • I am lucky. My fiance is like that. He wakes me up to my favorite egg whites with fruit and a whole wheat english muffin breakfast all the time. He has even started eating better himself. It does make it easier to have that kind of support. - 11/4/2010 7:44:48 AM
  • My family is always make me confuse whether they do support of me getting fitter and healthier - one day they "suggested" me to stop exercise, then next they will give some tips on how to do an exercise. So, I just do my war with them silently (don't want to hurt their feeling), try to encourage myself not to give up! - 8/11/2010 11:47:05 PM
    My husband and I split up aboui 1 yr. ago. My family lives in another state. I was always healthy and had a healthy diet. I started "comfort foods" this past fall and winter. I realized it was time to get back on track. Thanks to the great articles and support of Spark, I do feel support. - 8/11/2010 7:04:50 AM
  • Although my husband continually points out the fact that I need to lose a few pounds and get into shape, I feel sabotaged at every turn. He does most of the cooking and makes huge meals loaded in calories (although I have told him time and time again that I want small meals) and gets mad when I eat less than half of what he puts onmy plate. And when I want to exercise, he finds something else that has to be done first and my exercising never happens. It is very frustrating but I am slowly overcoming the obstacles he puts in my path... - 6/9/2010 10:21:49 AM
    For me its hard and embarrasing to seek support since i had gastric bypass surgery and regained a lot of the weight. i basically ate my way through breast cancer treatment a couple years ago and havent been able to lose since. I feel like a failure and have noticed the eye rolling if i even talk about my weight or plans to work on it. i'm not sure what to do. - 4/29/2010 11:43:23 AM
  • While my husband has recently acknowledged his part is our unhealthy eating and sedentary life style, he has not gotten to the point where he can support my efforts to change. . He says he loves me no matter how houch I weight or that I don't need to lose weight at all because he likes me as is. I find that to be insincere on his part. I know he is trying to play it safe by not saying anything negative but I would like to be able to trust him enough to know that he of all people will tell me the truth in love.So I utimately have to be my own support and motivator. I am so thankful for this site and for all of you how are sharing your journys - 11/28/2009 2:07:15 AM
  • Something to consider why there appears to be an abundance of non-supportive people in the world....

    If over 30% of the US is morbidly obese:
    In a mathematically fair world, each of us is surrounded by 1/3 of our friends and family being obese. That is one third of the people you regularly talk to who love to lounge in the world of emotional eating, no-workouts, and generally unhealthy living lifestyles. Makes it hard to find good supprt!

    Research shows people who are fit tend to hang out with others who are fit:
    That could mean those who start out obese may have a disportional amount of "fat" could be surrounded by 60-90% of your friends and family being obese and having no clue where to start changing their lives. Ouch on the motivational support!

    The saying goes: You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink without drowning it.
    You can model behaviors, you can change the family dinner, you can display Spark everywhere....but you cannot force those you love (friend or family) to change their ways. They will someday come to realize and regret their choice to ignore you. Ask yourself how often have you ignored someone else who was trying to help you?

    Remember this journey is for are not doing it for someone all comes down to you and a better life for you. You are responsible for your choices, your actions, and your life (to quote a Spark thing)...Keep strong and know that somewhere you are a motivation to someone, they just may not know how to express it yet! You can DO this! - 9/13/2009 7:16:58 PM
  • I don't have much support in my house for my healthy choices...I get sneered at constantly by my mother and father when I measure out my portions to ensure I don't take too little or too much. They also make rude comments about how I will not eat anything that I don't know the nutritional stats for. They roll their eyes when I say "I'm going out for a walk", so I've basically stopped telling them when I am leaving. They continue to make bad/unhealthy choices for themselves, but I am happy to say I am untempted by their poor lifestyle choices. Knowing that I am doing the right thing by living the way I am living is enough to keep my going.

    Plus, I have the support of my sister - she lives her life as healthily as I do, so that is another good thing. The two of us can talk and support one another and help balance out the negativity we receive from our parents. - 8/27/2009 2:52:47 PM
  • I found out how long it takes to get the hubby on board with the new plan of healthy eating - over a year and a half! It also helped that it was time for new life insurance and a physical that will reflect on his pocketbook. Now we are together on this plan - we shop together for fruit and veg and we even try new veg we never tried before. Hang in there. you may be on your own the whole time but your loved ones may eventually come along. - 8/25/2009 4:35:00 PM
  • I would say that I don't actually have the best support network. Diet and exercise is really personal for me, so I don't really share it, even with my closest friends. I also know that my choice of diet is a little odd, so if someone is interested in following in my footsteps, I'll give advice, but I certainly won't actively encourage or try to convince someone to change to my ways. I guess you could say it's leading by example.

    Fortunately, my husband accepts my diet and exercise hobby as a cute little quirk of mine and is relatively supportive. He will eat the dinners I cook and comment on how good it is, and even joke about how much healthier he'd be if he did what I did! And when I bought a bike to get to and from classes, he also went and bought a bike to get to and from work, or, if he's lucky enough to get a better job that is too far to ride to, we can at least go on excursions together. For me, that's enough support.

    But like I said, I consider my choices very personal, so I suppose I let the support come to me instead of seeking it out myself. Feeling good and looking good provide almost all the motivation I need! - 8/25/2009 11:44:51 AM

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