Great article. My hubby can drop weight much faster than me. I get jealous but don't let it stop me. My son the same way. Him and I started together and he has lost more weight than me. But I love coming here to get support from others. Thanks
It is so hard because I don't have a good support from my family or friends. I can't get any of my family to go work out with me. My mom and my one brother buys food that I can't eat. It is in the house and it is very hard to stay away from it. I'm having a hard time losing the weight. I'm plateauing and my weight has been staying the same. It is very hard. I feel like I can"t do this anymore and I feel like I have no way out. Like I'm stuck and I have nobody to talk too.
I found it important to actively seek out fitness-minded friends. Besides the obvious places like the gym and weight-loss groups, I also found it helpful to join a hiking club (or other fitness-related community organizations), become involved in work-sponsored "wellness" activities, and initiating conversations with people I didn't know well, such as in church, the neighborhood, or the job, who were obviously losing weight, so we could get acquainted and encourage each other. The more you hang out with active, fitness-minded people, the more it rubs off.
I guess it is normal for husbands to lose weight and trim down a lot quicker than wives. I have the same problem. My daughter and I were joking around about how all my husband has to do to lose weight is cut out mayonnaise.
I havea fab husband who supports me but he ends losing weight and getting fitter than me ....It sometimes makes me feel negative about myself.on a bad day. I guess I need to focus on myself and make every day a good day....
Jettagirl33 - I have a husband that is even worse - I get NO support from him on any level. He has diabetes, COPD, refuses to listen and eats everything that is bad for him So like you, I come here for support. Flo
I use the support of all of the people that walk round the block when i do. Who would be there to say hello to them if i didn't get out and go.I notice if one of them is missing and i know they notice if i am too. we don't even know each other really but saying good morning as we rush past each other spurs me on and i hope it dose them too
support is hard to come by. I have sooooo much junk food in my house, it is not funny. So, when I am upset, guess what I do??, yes, eat it. At least I am getting better and eating less!! My husband (over weight) and 16 year old son (slightly over weight), don't watch what they eat at all. I can make good stuff, but they will hit the junk too. I really want to teach my son better habits. I have high cholesteral and pre diabetic too (at 43). I know he will go down the same trail I am. I am able to get my son to do some exercising, so that is good. My support is everyone here on SP. You guys get it!!!! Thanks for listening, From someone who is still trying to get there!!! AND I WILL !!!!
Unfortunately, SP is the only place where I can derive support. My husband can and will eat anything and still maintain his tall, very lean structure. He HATES anything healthy and/or whole wheat and thinks exercise is boring and a waste of time. I try to explain to him that just because he doesn't have a weight problem doesn't mean he's healthy. My 7 y.o. son is a very good eater and doesn't mind eating the food that I prepare for myself (healthy). My husband, however, will have none of it. So, I guess I'm on my own, support-wise. :(
I agree that some more tips for going it alone would be good, but this article is on the right track. My husband didn't want to make the changes I made, and my parents thought I was being extreme, so I just changed on my own. It did mean having separate nwals, but all it took was a little self-conviction. Soon enough, my husband joined me, and even my parents fell on track. All it takes is belief in yourself.
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@ NC_BEARKITTEN: have you tried Ronzoni Smart Taste pasta (http://ronzonismarttaste.newworldpasta.co m/). It's white pasta but it's only 170 cal per serving (dry 2oz). For the Holidays, what if you took a slice only ate a bite or two? Then that way you don't feel guilty for eating a slice and your MIL feels better that you tried her pie. Or if you are planning on having children you can always tell your MIL that you want to stay healthy for the (future or current) children!
I like this article a lot. So many of the articles and advice columns/message boards, etc., talk so much about getting your spouse/partner and friends in on your weight loss. But what about those of us who don't have a partner? Or don't live near family? I just moved to a new town, so I don't yet have any friends to work out with. Those articles always make me feel bad about myself, and I have to fight not to go into a downward spiral. But this article was amazing - I'd never thought to look for "support groups" before. But more than that, it reinforces the idea that I'm not the only one out there without a built-in support system, and makes me feel better about the situation.
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