This is exactly why my weight loss ticker shows me trying to lose 20 pounds, if I were to say to someone yes I would like to lose 20 pounds I know they would be thinking - Lady you need to lose 20 pounds just off one arm. But I can't lose my 100 pounds without first losing the 20 so 20 is my new goal,
I agree with the majority of the people who have found this article to be very positive. I too have set unrealistic goals and when I did not meet them have been disappointed and have went back to my old ways which got me to this point. For those who would still be disappointed, why? A loss is better than a gain. I have struggled with me weight for the majority of my life and the most important thing my mother (who has also struggled) ever told me is you didn't gain it in one day so why do you expect to lose it in one day??? I think the most important point this article makes is that it takes time and it takes work but you also have to come to terms with reality...
Happy losing Spark members!
2/7/2010 9:04:07 AM
Once again, I feel I must be the devil's advocate. If we are "getting real" about weight loss I must point out that a 200lb woman losing 30lbs has every right to feel disappointed. I need to lose at least 150lbs to be at what is considered a semi-attractive weight. If it takes me forever to lose 30lbs, why should I not be disappointed? At over 200lbs, a 30lb weight loss is negligible and is not even noticeable. Also, I am not in my 20s so I don't have the luxury of losing one 1lb a week. At that rate it will take me 5 years! Doesn't anyone see why this is disappointing? I sometimes find the attitude at this site very callous to what other people feel. Now we are being told what we can feel disappointed about and what we can't. If this offends anyone, it was not intended to. I am speaking about what I feel and my disappointment. If anyone else is happy with these results, that is wonderful for them. I will not be until I can be a 120lbs.
2/3/2010 8:37:25 AM
Thanks, I reallly needed this. I am in my 5th week of this year trying to lose weight. I had felt like a failure because I started trying to lose weight last year. I joined SP Jan. 28, 2009. I only lost 20 lbs. last year. But I did maintain that loss. I gained 3 lbs. Christmas and then afterwards started again on the same diet I started last year. I have lost 8 lbs. since the first of the month. I have started slipping already. I just need to be reminded every once in a while why I am doing this. Thanks again for this wonderful atricle.
Incredible article, Mike. I've always found your articles so inspiring and there you go again! I have been yo-yo'ing and feeling very helpless - because my 80+ pound loss seems overwhelming. I already knew that setting small goals - and achieving them - is the way to go - also, seeing it in print and allowing myself to work in small numbers is so much more encouraging. Thanks for the renewed hope and thank you for sharing in your own special way. I am inspired again!
I'm going back and changing my weight loss goal!! I wasn't making any loss progress and my goal was way too big. 10% is doable and I will set a nice reward when I lose those pounds. I had forgotten this concept and appreciate this refreshing article!!
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! I have had such a hard time feeling like such a failure for not losing the 40% that I want to get to my "ideal" weight. I will print this article and read it daily to recalibrate my 'lens' and set my goals on what I CAN do! This may be my favorite article ever!
Wow! I truly believe this is a do-able goal for me. Thanks so much for this article!
1/31/2010 3:33:15 AM
At last someone has said this. I have read so many motivational articles telling you to 'dream the dream' and set your goals really high, which I find discouraging. Another thing that really discourages me is all those wonderful success stories about people weighing more than a horse who get down to seven stone in a few months. It just makes me feel a total failure because I have 40 pounds to lose and can't seem to do it. They make me want to give up and never try again. Also, as everyone knows, keeping it off is the really important goal. This is the way to do it 10% off and then consolidate for six months, get used to being that size and the reduced calorie intake that you need to stay there, then using the feeling of success that you earned last time, take the next 10% challenge.
What an epiphany this is! And what a catalyst! One of the greatest "pearls of wisdom" I've ever received. If I live to be 100, Mike, I can never thank you enough for this gift of yours. I know now, beyond any doubt, that I CAN do this from a brand-new perspective - and I WILL do it this time. I WILL reach my goal - 10% at a time! Countless blessings to you!
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