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Goals that Help, Goals that Hurt

Remember to Think Positive

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  • The power of thinking positive is unbelievable, almost magic in a sense. Once negativity creeps in so does failure. Excellent article it helped reinforce my successful attitude. - 6/17/2016 4:54:15 PM
  • "Too vague," I meant to say. - 6/7/2016 2:45:14 PM
  • So if this author thinks that it's negative to say, "I will lose 20 pounds," what's the more positive way to frame that goal? Something like "I will achieve a healthier weight" seems to vague and namby-pamby. - 6/7/2016 2:44:19 PM
  • So if you have a bad day, rather than say "I blew it!" maybe something like: "going to fine tune or refocus my goals tomorrow..' you think? - 4/19/2016 1:02:32 AM
  • I don't know that "lose" has a negative connotation - that's what I am on Spark People for! I do believe it is more positive to use it with a reasonable time limit as opposed to "I will lose 20 lbs. by next week" but my positive goal is: " I will lose 2 lbs. by May 15 and will maintain at that weight!" By the end of June, when I have met that goal, I will reset a reasonable time limit to lose another 5 lbs.
    - 4/13/2016 10:09:03 AM
  • VSHAPED
    I read some of the other comments about needing guidelines for setting up positive goals. For me that means making goals for what I will do, not what I won't do. An example: I'm in pretty bad condition physically. I'm recovering from a back injury and have feet problems. Also I'm obese. My current exercise goals are 1. Walk 20 minutes 3 days per week and 2. Ride the exercise bike 25 minutes 3 days per week. Those are doable for me. I'm not requiring myself to walk a certain distance because some days my back a or feet will cause me to walk more slowly. Same with the bike: Some days I'm tired and ride slower than others. But that doesn't matter. What matters is doing the time; that's doable for me. I have a long term goal in the back of my mind to do cardio an hour daily. I'll build to that slowly. For example at the beginning of each month I'll add 1 minute to my biking and waking goals. Eventually I'll add in other types of exercise, stretching and such, but that's another story #:^ ) Another example of positive instead of negative: Instead of making a goal to eat no or less chocolate, you might make a goal to eat a certain amount of vegetables or whole grains. That way you'll have less room for chocolate without focusing on chocolate! - 2/6/2016 7:30:19 PM
  • VSHAPED
    This is a very helpful article. I'll delete my goal to only drink 24 oz diet soda daily. Instead I'll make 2 goals: Drink at least 6 cups of water daily and drink at least 2 cups of tea daily. - 2/6/2016 7:06:26 PM
  • His words are appropriate not only for weight loss, but for all aspect of life. Learning to choose our words carefully helps us not only in setting our own personal goals, but how we interact with others. I will keep these words close at hand to refresh my mind frequently. - 2/2/2016 9:53:26 AM
  • DESPONDENT1
    Many of the comments are very helpful. It is good to see how other people do it so that you can pick and choose what you think will work for you. - 1/4/2016 9:00:53 PM
  • "Lose" is not always a negative goal word, but when your already stressed and down on yourself cause you screwed up and did or didn't do XYZ it could focus your thinking into a negative space. For weight loss goals think of goals more in line with "I want to reach a healthy BMI which for me is 130-160 LBS." So you still have your Goal, you have a it framed in a Positive manner and just need to break it into actions steps. (For me going to the BMI standard to find my Goal was necessary because I am so far into the obese Zone I didn't know what a Good Goal for me is.) Action Step: "I can achieve my Goal by Tracking my food on sparky and exercising x amount of times per week." "I can reach my goal by reducing my weight 10 lbs by New Years." The idea is to make them sound as positive as possible so that on your off days you don't become too discouraged due to the subconscious thought process when you read them. - 12/7/2015 8:26:54 AM
  • Since this article was from Day 3 of the Diabetes Weight Loss Challenge, the first word I wrote when writing my goals was "Lose." I didn't think that was a negative word. I thought that was the purpose of the challenge. - 12/3/2015 10:09:20 AM
  • MOUNTAINLADY789
    i'v never figured out how to make a positive goal - 11/15/2015 8:24:40 PM
  • Awesome article, but I agree with the others as needing some kind of guidance here for setting up goals without negative words. - 10/26/2015 12:41:11 PM
  • I agree COMPLETELY but I wish there were examples for people who struggle. I use goals like "I'll stay within my calorie target 90% of the time" and "I'll try to add 2-3 servings of fruit every day" and "I'll save my indulgences for truly special occasions". This has worked really well for me thus far and I think it's what he's getting at. - 9/26/2015 10:03:35 AM
  • BJPETOSKEY
    I really like the idea of avoiding negative words - and will no longer use "reduce" in my goal statements. - 9/6/2015 11:53:35 AM

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