I try to stay positive of my goals because if I don't I will really take a great big set back. If I don't feel like doing 4 miles I will keep going because I feel guilty if I don't. Yesterday my hubby walked with me and I had to push him to do three miles but guess what I still did my four miles. WooHoo
My personal inspiration is to keep my eye on the prize. I'm all IN. I am taking the first steps to make a comprehensive lifestyle change. That's what it's about...Being ALL IN!
1/2/2013 7:29:27 AM
Keeping goals positive makes great sense. However, in my opinion, there is too much dogma associated with removal of specific food or food groups from a nutrition plan. The whole "denial means failure" chant is just not true. Sometimes it is exactly the right thing to do. I was at the mercy of my cravings until I gave up sugar and wheat. I now know that denying myself these addictive substances was a trivial price to pay for the weight loss success and improved fitness that resulted. After only a short time it was no longer a problem.
This is not the answer for everyone but it is powerful for some of us. I wish these articles were not so dogmatic on the subject.
Thank you for this article. I took a good long look at my goals and I need to rewrite them in a positive manner. This was just the step I needed today for helping me to look at what I want and need to accomplish.
10/4/2012 8:16:02 PM
My goal is to get and stay healthier. I need to keep the lifestyle changes to do that.
10/4/2012 8:14:47 PM
It helps to hear other peoples struggles. I know I am not alone.
One of my goals I sat up was to lose 50 by March, But I also think it may be unrealistic, and I will be happy to lose half that, therefore I will not feel I had failed. One of the other goals was to drink 8 glasses of water a day . I have accomplished that. Personally for me if I have more that one goal and accomplished at least one than I am a winner. Drinking water was a big one for me, for in a good day I might of drank one.
Great article on the power of words. @PMCCALL, I think instead of focusing on LOOSING, you can say I WILL LIVE HEALTHY, make healthy choices on daily basis, do workouts that gives me fun and makes me enjoy myself, the list is endless. You will realize that the scale dropping will be a benefit of all the above steps. Good luck
1/3/2012 2:12:05 PM
OK, but what if your goal IS to LOSE 25 pounds? How do you couch that as a positive goal without using the word "lose?"
well sometimes this can be confusing . i always have been told that i have to be firm, assert myself clearly - not be wishy-washy like using words 'try, maybe' etc. lately i tried to be easier on myself. but when i put out an edict that stated YOU WILL NOT, NEVER DO ----THIS AGAIN -' It seemed much stronger in my mind. the last time i reached and stayed at my goal weight is years ago. i did it by not wavering once - it took me five months (approx 152 days) - i did not even LOOK at food i was not ALLOWED to have. i was rigid in my exercise routine - never faltered never missed. but then for ELEVEN YEARS i was shackled to that routine, - it was really hell and i alienated a lot of people who started thinking i had ' an eating disorder' or 'dismorphic body image' or what ever the buzz words are today. so - conclusion i should draw ???? i ask you .BB
Thanks for the clarification Coach Dean. Until I read your article I really didn't realize how negitive my goals and mindset really were. I have been consistently setting myself up for failure due to my all or nothing attitude. I needed this clairity in order to move past this and focus on what I can have and what I can do to create the changes that I desire. Your awesome Coach Dean!
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