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Goals that Help, Goals that Hurt

Remember to Think Positive


    I loved this article. This is my "diet persona" to a "T"! Start out perfect for a week, then cave and eat something unhealthy and use it as my excuse to "quit" for the day. Then the day turns into a ruined week, etc., etc. It has been my downfall even after losing 10 pounds! I go on a vacation and start out eating healthy in restaurants, but by the end of the trip eating just like I used to. A trip has always been the precipitous to putting the weight back on. I'm going to review my goals and quit being so hard on myself for mistakes! - 1/19/2015 9:18:12 AM
  • I don't agree with the first part of the article on those who are successful pursue their goals "vigorously". I have had a lot of success with (1) Eating only when I am hungry, and (2) Eating only till satisfied. Those are the main guidelines of my weight loss, and it hasn't taken a vigorous type of behavior to maintain them. It takes persistence and focus, but in no way would I call it vigorous. (This type of approach to eating came from the Spark radio host who lost 65 pounds, and kept them off.) - 2/18/2014 2:55:29 AM
  • Love this reminder!
    New goals: Be sexy. Be Powerful. Have Fun. Be Authentic. - 5/4/2013 7:02:45 PM
  • I try to stay positive of my goals because if I don't I will really take a great big set back. If I don't feel like doing 4 miles I will keep going because I feel guilty if I don't. Yesterday my hubby walked with me and I had to push him to do three miles but guess what I still did my four miles. WooHoo - 5/4/2013 10:58:52 AM
  • My personal inspiration is to keep my eye on the prize. I'm all IN. I am taking the first steps to make a comprehensive lifestyle change. That's what it's about...Being ALL IN! - 2/11/2013 10:39:58 AM
    Keeping goals positive makes great sense. However, in my opinion, there is too much dogma associated with removal of specific food or food groups from a nutrition plan. The whole "denial means failure" chant is just not true. Sometimes it is exactly the right thing to do. I was at the mercy of my cravings until I gave up sugar and wheat. I now know that denying myself these addictive substances was a trivial price to pay for the weight loss success and improved fitness that resulted. After only a short time it was no longer a problem.

    This is not the answer for everyone but it is powerful for some of us. I wish these articles were not so dogmatic on the subject. - 1/2/2013 7:29:27 AM
  • Thank you for this article. I took a good long look at my goals and I need to rewrite them in a positive manner. This was just the step I needed today for helping me to look at what I want and need to accomplish. - 10/23/2012 9:26:08 AM
    My goal is to get and stay healthier. I need to keep the lifestyle changes to do that.
    - 10/4/2012 8:16:02 PM
    It helps to hear other peoples struggles. I know I am not alone. - 10/4/2012 8:14:47 PM
  • One of my goals I sat up was to lose 50 by March, But I also think it may be unrealistic, and I will be happy to lose half that, therefore I will not feel I had failed. One of the other goals was to drink 8 glasses of water a day . I have accomplished that. Personally for me if I have more that one goal and accomplished at least one than I am a winner. Drinking water was a big one for me, for in a good day I might of drank one. - 9/29/2012 9:43:53 AM
  • Great article on the power of words. @PMCCALL, I think instead of focusing on LOOSING, you can say I WILL LIVE HEALTHY, make healthy choices on daily basis, do workouts that gives me fun and makes me enjoy myself, the list is endless. You will realize that the scale dropping will be a benefit of all the above steps. Good luck - 6/16/2012 1:26:12 AM
  • PMCCALL4495
    OK, but what if your goal IS to LOSE 25 pounds? How do you couch that as a positive goal without using the word "lose?" - 1/3/2012 2:12:05 PM
  • well sometimes this can be confusing . i always have been told that i have to be firm, assert myself clearly - not be wishy-washy like using words 'try, maybe' etc. lately i tried to be easier on myself. but when i put out an edict that stated YOU WILL NOT, NEVER DO ----THIS AGAIN -' It seemed much stronger in my mind. the last time i reached and stayed at my goal weight is years ago. i did it by not wavering once - it took me five months (approx 152 days) - i did not even LOOK at food i was not ALLOWED to have. i was rigid in my exercise routine - never faltered never missed. but then for ELEVEN YEARS i was shackled to that routine, - it was really hell and i alienated a lot of people who started thinking i had ' an eating disorder' or 'dismorphic body image' or what ever the buzz words are today. so - conclusion i should draw ???? i ask you .BB - 10/19/2011 2:16:26 PM
  • Good article, but it would be nice to see common goal examples and their more positive goal rewrites. - 10/19/2011 2:03:06 PM
    Thanks, Dean! I swear, everything you write is golden! - 10/19/2011 12:45:15 PM

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