What a great article! I was just reflecting on this notion of being "perfect" the other day. I don't think we should hold ourselves to ridiculous standards or judge ourselves because we can't fit some fantasy body that's been shaped by media representations. I fall into this trap sometimes, hating my double chin or fat in other places. But, since I joined Spark, I have been making great food choices and working out almost every day (yes, sometimes I overdo that too). I think she's on point on all the wasted time that goes on when we criticize our physical self or some other aspect of our lives that isn't reaching some Hollywood ideal. If I had spent that time reading, I would have a second or third doctorate.
8/13/2013 10:17:33 PM
Can I say that I am "In Love" with Carrie Myers Smith and her wonderful article?!! I go through such a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde conversation with myself where my body image is concerned!! On the one hand, I feel good about making more healthy choices, and on the other hate that I am not seeing "instant" results in the mirror!! (I know, I even tell myself that is unrealistic.) Or, I feel good about one part of my body, but then see another that leaves me totally defeated!! I am going to bookmark this article and read it the next time I start to put myself down or compare myself to Anyone else, airbrushed or not!! Thanks again C.M.S.!! You have really inspired me!!!
I'm with all the others that really needed this today. Most of us have probably heard it before, and already know that media figures are staged, airbrushed, professionally trained into submission, and even surgically altered--but still we're bombarded by those images and force-fed the lie that healthy, beautiful people look like that. Then we judge ourselves accordingly. I know I do, even though I know better. Sometimes you just need to hear it at the right time, like right after you've stepped out of the shower and caught a glimpse in the mirror...or times like today! Thanks for the uplift.
Great perspective. I do like/love myself. The who I am part. But 10+ years after menopause, I find myself drooping in places I've never drooped before. Yes, I've heard all the reasons . . . and I'm fine with being 60 . . . I'm just trying to come to terms with the that woman in the mirror. . . . she looks surprisingly like some of the old ladies in my family!!!
i appreciate my attributes - good face, teeth, hair BUT i am plagued with tons of cellulite and no matter what i weigh i am covered with lumps, bumps, hanging skin, thunder thighs and rolls with muffin top. i do have a tiny waist but that only accentuates the HUGE PEAR shape below it - so NO i can never accept this shape - it is a freakish distortion.
This is such an excellent article, and really points to the fact that hating our bodies hasn't led to healthier attitudes or the "perfect body" - because you don't treat well the things you hate. Maybe being kinder to ourselves will have a better impact on how we think about and treat ourselves and our overall health!
4/14/2013 5:27:41 AM
Thank you. This is so true. Love your body and keep it healthy. A healthy body is a beautiful one.
4/4/2013 5:53:11 PM
Thank you! It's so true that an illness can make you appreciate your healthy body so much more. Such a good point to focus on taking care of it and making it stronger rather than criticizing it.
Thank you so much for this article. It is nice to be reminded about the pressures society and magazines put on us regular people. I had almost forgotten about everything a girl must go through just to get their photograph taken. I love it when celebrities allow photos of themselves without any touchups. It shows that they are real people too. I try to remind myself that my hips are a gift from my grandmother, not a curse. My beautiful red hair is from my great grandmother. It is a reminder that our ancestors are living within ourselves and we are able to carry their memories and genetics forward.
This is a very significant message and needs to be conveyed to our young children as well as to adults, particularly women! I would benefit from reading it every day. I am especially prone to picking myself apart and I even find that I look at and analyze other people's bodies --- in comparison to my own, or even just to be critical. Not good. I'm working on it.
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