Some people just don't know how to like/love themselves, after all, we're told it's selfish to put our own selves/wants/needs first. Then we're told we're too fat or too thin by those same people we put first, so we believe them. We are a mess. Change is a very slow process; this article is a great reminder that we are worth liking/loving, and we need to reconcile the need/desire to lose weight with loving ourselves the way we are. Not easy.
I've tried hating myself thin, but it has never worked. Unfortunately body shaming is alive and well. Anytime anyone is brave enough to love themselves despite being less than physically perfect, there is always someone telling them it is wrong. The shamers will tell you it is dangerous to love your imperfect self because you will use it as an excuse to stay fat, lazy and unhealthy. Personally, I think you cannot achieve true health until you learn to love your body and yourself.
This is a great article. I have struggled over the years with my self esteem, more so in the past two years. I am slowly accepting who I am and that I am perfect in my own way. I have been very hard on myself. Judgemental and believing I would be happier if I was thinner. I need to be happy with myself first! I want to be a role model for my daughter.
5/29/2014 7:26:06 AM
We truly should worry less about how we look, and be concerned about how we feel. This slim-is-fit notion is giving plus size people,especially the female population, a lot of stress. I think ladies should give importance to their happiness and not worry about how to make others happy! Lets put on our [url=http://casual-plus.com]plus size skirts[/url] and smile.
I did not know that even fitness magazines are doing touch ups on photos. I am disappointed but not surprised. I only use them as a source of information anyways. Sometimes though their workouts do work well!
I know its time to get serious when I consider my initial weight gain (baby weight) is about to be 28 years old next month! No longer a valid excuse. I feel miserable, uncomfortable, and unattractive and it shows. I may never be the 130 lbs I was almost 30 years ago when that dip stick pregnancy test turned bright blue, but I can for sure be less woman than I am today! My new life begins now.....
12/9/2013 5:44:33 PM
I rewarded myself, back in the beginning, for stringing together a series of days on which I engaged in healthy eating and exercising behaviors. Jewelry, handbags, scarves - these ALL make great short-term rewards for laying down the habit-related building blocks that ensure not only weight loss, but successful maintenance, too.
This is a struggle with me many times as I am so self critical. I do realize though that no one is perfect and I should just try my best to change what can be changed and accept the things I can not change.
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