You grow up believing the adults in your life know what is best for you and that their words are the ones to live by. By the time you realize the voices of your childhood are hurting you and not helping you they are so ingrained it is a battle to keep them at bay. I know this is a battle that will last the rest of my life. Since the voices of my childhood won't go away I know I can never give in to them and let them dominate my life anymore. It is not easy but I know I can do it.
1/2/2014 10:44:04 PM
I have been almost debilitated in my negative self-talk. A good support system is not always your family of origin, yet if you look, you may just find a friend or that family member that distant cousin who will be there for you. Its crazy how certain supports show up at the appropriate time in your life. I give thanks to God for these people!
The voices of childhood are hard to overcome but slowly with my own inner voice and surrounding myself with the right friends the self doubt, negative self image are a smaller voice, they will never go away just make sure other voices are louder that will lead in the direction of positive self image and knowing I will succeed at this and anything I choose to pursue.
I believe that I am my biggest enemy. I often doubt myself when it comes to new opportunities. But, with the new information that I have had the pleasure to read and learn, my whole outlook is changing.
I know that my negativity has a direct effect on how I work out and what I'm able to accomplish with my days. After a life time of negativity -- it's hard to get back on track - -but the little sparks and reminders really help!
I never really thought about the impact all my negative thoughts about myself. I know that's if you tell yourself over and over that you can't succeed that it will become a self-fulfilling prophesy. The most successful I have ever been on weight loss/exercise programs and school is when I manage to keep the negative thoughts out and convince myself that I can do it even if it is hard. It's going to take a long time to try to change this habit since I've been doing it for so long, but I'm going to try.
This is sooooo very true. I know I am my own worst enemy. Even if others compliment me I have a bad habit of telling myself "oh, they just said that to be nice, they didn't really mean it. Thanks for the motivation to be kinder to myself and believe in myself!!
I've heard those opening comments most of my childhood - from my parents towards us girls. I'm still battling the demon voices in my head - years after leaving home. Parents, please, please, please, watch what you say to your children! At 56, I'm still trying to fix my own self-image.
Someone once made the statement to me that basically asked if smokers were suicidal. I have to say that entertaining negative thoughts about yourself can be considered suicidal also. Both hurt others but both harm the one that is actually having these thoughts or smoking the cigarettes.
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