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Why Do We Beat Ourselves Up?

A Look at Self-Destructive Thoughts


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  • JACKIEF288
    Thank you, just what I needed to hear. I have started taking classes this past January, and am constantly beating myself up for not getting A's. I haven't been to school for over twenty five years, so it's been a struggle to keep up with everything. Your motivational stories are wonderful, I need make time to track my meals and read more. The holidays threw me off track for a little while, but I'm turning the corner.
    I beat myself up all the time because I heard someone make a negative comment at the gym. I read these articles which helps a lot. thanks
    Thanks for this. I hurt my knee while running and have been beating myself up for about a week about it.
  • This article hit the sweet spot (in a good non-sugary way).
  • Thank you. this was exactly what I needed today.
  • It wasn't until I started feeling better about myself that I started losing weight. Years ago, I went out and bought a bunch of new clothes for a new job. Clothes that fit and looked nice made me feel so good - totally kick-started my self esteem. It's amazing how nice clothes that fit you properly will make you feel about yourself. And then I lost a bunch of weight and can't wear them anymore. But it was so worth the money.
  • My therapist has made me put a note on my desk because I'm one of those "silver lining" people to everyone else, BUT myself. All my post-it says is

    "Have compassion for YOURSELF! You can do this?"

    On those days when I'm feeling not so proud of myself that note, as small as it is, really does work.
    Letting go of the negative self-talk was one of the most important steps on my journey to wellness. It wasn't until I stopped the self-abuse that I could begin to work on my health in any meaningful way.
  • You grow up believing the adults in your life know what is best for you and that their words are the ones to live by. By the time you realize the voices of your childhood are hurting you and not helping you they are so ingrained it is a battle to keep them at bay. I know this is a battle that will last the rest of my life. Since the voices of my childhood won't go away I know I can never give in to them and let them dominate my life anymore. It is not easy but I know I can do it.
    I have been almost debilitated in my negative self-talk. A good support system is not always your family of origin, yet if you look, you may just find a friend or that family member that distant cousin who will be there for you. Its crazy how certain supports show up at the appropriate time in your life. I give thanks to God for these people!
  • The voices of childhood are hard to overcome but slowly with my own inner voice and surrounding myself with the right friends the self doubt, negative self image are a smaller voice, they will never go away just make sure other voices are louder that will lead in the direction of positive self image and knowing I will succeed at this and anything I choose to pursue.
  • I believe that I am my biggest enemy. I often doubt myself when it comes to new opportunities.
    But, with the new information that I have had the pleasure to read and learn, my whole outlook is changing.
  • Excellent article...I love how it points out that we wouldn't take that from anyone else so why do we do it to ourselves??!!
  • I once had a therapist tell me that I had an Olympic caliber self-critic!
  • I know that my negativity has a direct effect on how I work out and what I'm able to accomplish with my days. After a life time of negativity -- it's hard to get back on track - -but the little sparks and reminders really help!

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