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11 Nice Ways to Say 'No' to Food Pushers

Politely Turn Down Food at Parties and Gatherings


  • These suggestions don't work for me because the pusher has some comeback that I wasn't ready for and then I am stammering for what to say next which makes it worse. I agree you just have to nip it in the bud. I just keep repeating "no thank you", it's harder to argue with and easier to remember because I don't think quick on my feet.. If they outright ask why not (which they usually don't), I just say that my doctor says I can't have it. When it comes down to health-related issue such as diabetes or something, they tend to backoff and my "doctor" is the one on the hook, not me. It's also the truth. My doc is warning me that my health is at risk. - 1/27/2013 7:07:58 AM
  • Not the best article(first one I read here on Spark People)..the truth is the best policy is what I say and I don't let nobody push stuff on me that I don't want to try especialy if I said a polite no! - 1/27/2013 12:52:15 AM
  • since my family cooks pretty healthy i never have an issue with this. my family and friends all know im working on losing weight they know how hard it is for me so they dont push stuff on me. my best friend will get something unhealthy and once in a while i have a bite or a sip of whatever it is and then she wont let me have it again lol. my grandma is diabetic too and follows a very strict diet so shes good at not feeding me stuff i dont want. also all my family know my food dislikes and they either dont put the stuff i hate in the dish or they tell me to pick it out haha. im also a really stubborn person and when i say no i mean no. nothing can change my mind. my family doesnt even bother to try because they know they wont win lol. - 1/19/2013 4:52:54 PM
  • KAELA_19
    The Push: "Looks like someone is obsessed with dieting…"

    Your Response: "I wouldn't say obsessed, but I am conscious of what I eat."

    That one is my favorite ^_^ it sucks when people accuse you of being a food snob and obsessive. - 12/20/2012 12:14:35 PM
    I have someone who insists ..I mean finally I said to this person..."you really don't realize what you're're actually offering a drink to an alcoholic..would you do that" it may not be the thing to say BUT I truly believe that it's true. - 10/30/2012 10:16:07 AM
  • Are you kidding me? You are a tacky, rude person if you tell someone you will not try their dish because you don't like it! How hard is it to just say, "no thank you"? - 10/29/2012 11:07:15 PM
  • I had one pusher who was so agressive. I told her I was going on a diet, she told me she was bringing some choc muffins next week, I told her no thanks, she brought them anyway, and I just got very honest. I told her that what she was doing was very unkind, and I did not appreciate her insistence. She backed off and said she wasn't trying to be unkind. I said "I know, but that's how it's turning out. I thank you for thinking of me, and another time I would be happy to sample one. But not now." She took it well, and did not have any resentment. Sometimes, that brutal honesty is required. - 10/27/2012 10:55:58 PM
  • No such thing as "a little white lie." - 10/26/2012 3:59:46 PM
  • MRE1956
    I'm with ARBAR99 - except, of course, for the smile - seems to me to be a bit of overkill and potentially insincere...... - 10/24/2012 4:50:36 AM
  • ARBAR99
    I've actually found that the more you explain, the more people try to convince you. There is less to argue about with a simple 'No Thank You' accompanied with a smile. A warm smile lets people know you appreciate their offer and are not rejecting their good intentions.

    At the end of the day, it is also an opportunity for us to persuade the other party to a healthier diet!

    - Ari Vinograd - 10/24/2012 12:15:48 AM
  • So many of my private weight management clients are people pleasers and one thing they have a difficult time with is saying "no thank you" to someone who is pushing food because they think it will hurt someone's feelings if they don't eat it.. It is helpful to have a plan before going to an event where you know you will be tempted. Besides bringing something you know will work for you, having an immediate reward for sticking to the plan can help you stay focused on the goal of let's say having only one drink or having only one small serving of something that you might find tempting. Perhaps the reward could be purchasing flowers for yourself on the way home or the next day or purchasing a book you want to really want to read or giving yourself permission and time to take a relaxing bath. Remember, we really want to make our food choices based on eating mostly healthfully the rest of our lives and what is being pushed just may not be healthy or conducive to your sticking with what you have decided you want for yourself and it's OK to want to be healthy and to make the food choices that will get you there, no matter what anyone else wants at the moment. - 10/23/2012 4:02:15 PM
  • I agree with the comments about honesty. I don't think a good policy is to tell lies. I often take a piece of what I am offered but don't feel a bit guilty about eating only a small amount of it and leaving the rest. But I realize this approach won't work for everyone. - 10/23/2012 10:37:53 AM
  • OK, I just have to say that this is the most disappointing article I have ever read on Sparkpeople. Training people to lie? really???? They should pull this article and put it where it belongs, in the TRASH!!!! - 10/22/2012 7:31:26 PM
  • Geese! I already know how to LIE! Give me a break! - 10/22/2012 7:24:52 PM
  • No, thank you.
    Not right now, thank you.
    Anything more than that will get too far into feelings, emotions, reasons why or why not, excuses... and dare I say it... lies. In any case, don't forget the BIG SMILE - after all, refusing food when you don't want it is a perfectly natural, normal, non-judgmental thing. It's not a commentary on the food, the person offering it, or SELF. It's just saying "no." - 10/22/2012 11:31:00 AM

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