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11 Nice Ways to Say 'No' to Food Pushers

Politely Turn Down Food at Parties and Gatherings



10/21/2012 3:22:43 AM

MISSJAKE's SparkPage
There have been studies done people EVERYONE LIES.


10/21/2012 2:56:42 AM

MISSJAKE's SparkPage
I think the lying is only to avoid a scene. I also would rather be honest and I'm willing to make a scene if presented with an insensitive food pusher, but there are times when an apt white lie would be easier on everyone present.


10/21/2012 2:40:38 AM

MISSJAKE's SparkPage
I once had a quiet argument with an old girl at a church potluck because I didn't want ice cream. As I walked away she dropped some on my plate. I couldn't believe it!


10/5/2012 7:03:06 PM

This is good advice with the holidays coming up. My mom gets upset if no one takes leftovers after a holiday dinner - she doesn't want to get stuck with all that food - so it's easier to take something someone else in my family likes that I don't.


10/2/2012 11:46:31 PM

I've had someone tell me they'd be really really offended if I didn't have a piece of the cake they'd brought for the office. My reply: "I'm sorry to offend you over something so trivial, but I don't eat cake."

Being polite is one thing, but lying to food pushers is counterproductive. I have had conversations that were like tennis matches, with people trying to get me to take leftovers home, try just a little bit of this or a taste of that, a tiny bit won't kill me, you have to live a little, self-denial isn't good for the soul, and so on. In general, I find that such people are not trying to sabotage anything, just determined that everyone enjoy themselves, and they only have their own yardstick to measure that by. At one party where there were mountains of food, the hostess tried to get me to take any number of things home with me. The only way I could make her stop was to tell her that if I took any of it home, it would only go straight down my garbage disposal, because it's not the kind of stuff I eat. She found other willing takers eventually.


9/23/2012 6:20:02 PM

SUPERMAN630's SparkPage
I don't care for the dishonest responses. I'm ok with different responses for different types of people, but you shouldn't have to lie. If someone can't let it go once you say "no thanks," they may not be the best company... (I do realize sometimes it's family). But generally, I have found that in many cases, friends and family are very supportive--in fact, my grandmother even asks me what items she should make available whenever my husband and I are coming to dinner. :-)
Good luck everyone!


8/25/2012 6:22:18 AM

DRS510's SparkPage
I have to agree with the posts that are honest answers. I don't think "No, thanks" always works. It needs to be a stronger message sometimes. I dislike being rude. Taking the food and dumping it is wasteful and they will do that again to you. The message needs to be clear and strong enough for the person and situation. I just don't have a canned response.

I disagree with fibbing to make someone else feel better about pushing food at me. I have had enough people who do not support me, my decisions, or my healthy lifestyle. I do not need to make them feel good about not supporting me.

One of the things being on WW has taught me is how much less food I need than I used to think. People really don't get it when they don't have the same goals. Sometimes saying nothing is the best response. I don't think we need to defend our choices unless we want to have the conversation. We don't owe anyone an explanation. It is hard to get in trouble when you don't open your mouth!

Also, the advise to just have a bite of something to make someone else happy is one I would be careful about. If you want to eat it, fine. If you don't, then walk away and do what is best for you! You are the only one who can be responsible for your decisions.


8/21/2012 9:53:58 AM

Oh man, someone puts food on my plate after I say no, they better be ready to find it on their plate, the floor, the tablecloth, or be wearing it.

I don't play well with others. :)


8/9/2012 1:49:35 PM

CHANARO's SparkPage
At work or school, I can almost always end the conversation with "I'm sorry, I can't eat that because it's not kosher." Very rarely will the person respond "yes it is, I made sure before I offered it to you!" or "we specifically bought the kosher [ice cream, cake, cookies] so that you could have some!" When that happens, I feel guilty saying no, because it's so nice of them to go out of their way to learn what I can eat.

When the person is Jewish, it's much harder, especially if they know the kosher dietary laws and know what you can and can't eat...we tend to be some of the biggest food pushers around!!! If the food is dairy, it works to say "oh, I just ate meat, I can't have dairy for [3 hours, 6 hours, whatever]."

Saying "the doctor says I have to lose weight" works wonders. Even the most diehard food pusher will usually back off when a doctor's orders are invoked. In the same vein, since I have chronic back problems, I can usually say "I have to lose 5 more pounds as quickly as I can so my back will stop hurting, it always hurts when I reach that threshhold." People generally don't want you to be in pain.

It's also easier when you can tell the person "I really overdid it yesterday/this morning, so I have to be careful what I eat tonight to make up for it." For some reason, knowing that you're not better than them helps some people to back off.

I don't encourage actual lying, but sometimes a truth can be tweaked just enough to make it work...for example, the doctor who told me to lose weight? That was true. He did tell me that -- 15 years ago, and I've lost 60 lbs since then...but I will keep quoting him forever!!!!


7/10/2012 11:40:14 PM

KGWINDER's SparkPage
The first time offered a simple no thank you, the second time no for health reasons and if it goes to a third time it's not about me being polite; it's about me responding to a rude abusive person who is saying my goals and life is not worthwhile. Caving into abusive people and feeling bad about myself is what got me in this mess!

The third response is very easy. I just question if they really still want me to have it after I've just total them that it could harm me...if they give me a response anything less that no...I take whatever it is and dump it into the trash.

After a few years of this my circle of family and friends not only respect my food decisions but I arrive and there are healthy choices. My family is all eating clean at this point...just look back on my blog and see what my mother offered for Father's Day. This is not about making the world nice for rude people it is offering others the example of why being a Sparkperson is the healthy lifestyle. Be strong. Offer: no, no and then NO. It's your right to be proud of your body and you don't have to entertain people that insult and want to harm you. Those are not friends! And if family, you love them enough to give the example of being better and living longer.


7/10/2012 9:38:48 AM

With family, I let them know about my goal and how good it makes me feel to accomplish the goal before we get into a situation with food. When they really care, they tend to bake my food at gatherings or offer enough variety so there are healthy options.

With friends and parties, if I have interaction with the host before hand, I tend to make a "joke" asking them to hold me responsible for what I eat. They usually laugh it off but tend not to push food on me or even if they start they catch themselves and say "Oh, you're watching what you eat."

When you make other people feel apart of your success they tend to want to help you succeed.


7/10/2012 9:04:36 AM

COOKIE268's SparkPage
I keeping running in to the "But I bought it especially for you" push. I usually just say "Thanks but i don't feel like any right now. I'll just leave it here though so I can have some the next time I'm over." Generally, if its something fattening, it has already been eaten by the next time I'm there. Problem solved!

Persistent pushers get "You're nothing but a feeder!"


7/9/2012 11:17:26 AM

OLIVE_LOAF's SparkPage
These are so cheesy! I wouldn't say any of these things. Usually "no thank you" works fine.


6/27/2012 11:14:04 AM

PICKIE98's SparkPage
"NO Thank You" for he questions of another helping, or any food you do not want or need.

NO response required, just look them dead in the eye when they make snarky remarks like putting meat on your bones,etc.

If somebody put food on my plate without my asking for it, I would set the plate down and walk away.
As far as drinks, I would request ice water. If they push booze or anything elese,, just keep asking for water. If they insist, ask for a glass, walk to the sink and fill the glass.
I did this at my best friend's alcoholic boyfriend's party, he insisted I drink alcohol, shoved a huge glass of liquor in my hand when I walked through the door(I never met him before),,I repeatedly asked for a glass of ice water.. When he handed me the glass of booze, I walked to the sink and dumped it all down the drain, asked for a clean glass and poured myself a glass of water. He avoided me like the plague,, Fortunately, she dumped him..

I am an adult, I know what and how much I wish to consume, I do not need an insecure person plying me with what THEY like or want.


5/16/2012 7:25:03 AM

All of these responses are just too nice. Just tell the food pusher, "Back off freak!"... haha. Why do we always feel we have to be nice to people who are being inconsiderate, mindless or intentionally cruel? "No" is another good answer as well as "I'm sure it's very nice but I don't want it."

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