While I do like the suggested responses, I feel like some of them do the opposite of building good relationships with people and food. How can people learn to respect each other's words, if we pretend to appease them? I try very hard to be honest in my responses to my people about food....though of course, I'm not perfect in it. But planning to lie just doesn't work....I'll plan to warn them ahead of time first if I must.
For me, it's a CONSTANT battle and I'm a sweets nut, so I have to speak up. People that love me will bring me treats if I don't stop them sooner rather than later so if there is food involved and my friend always makes me her famous brownies, I tell her before that this week I can't do brownies. That way she doesn't go to the expense and trouble of cooking something just for me that I'm now squirming to get out of. But that definitely assumes relationship....we already care about each other so I've already shared my struggle.
For situations where they know but don't care, then I don't mind leaving the food. I didn't ask for it and need them to know NOT to waste that assumption on me, as I'm not gonna give in.
And I do have the "benefit" of a medical diagnosis. I've always struggled with wt. and health, but now I can just say doctor says....if I can control this thing with diet, no med's are needed. People don't push me after that and if they do....well, do I really care if I hurt their feelings? They don't care if I have to go on insulin!
- 9/1/2013 1:09:43 PM