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11 Nice Ways to Say 'No' to Food Pushers

Politely Turn Down Food at Parties and Gatherings


  • While I do like the suggested responses, I feel like some of them do the opposite of building good relationships with people and food. How can people learn to respect each other's words, if we pretend to appease them? I try very hard to be honest in my responses to my people about food....though of course, I'm not perfect in it. But planning to lie just doesn't work....I'll plan to warn them ahead of time first if I must.

    For me, it's a CONSTANT battle and I'm a sweets nut, so I have to speak up. People that love me will bring me treats if I don't stop them sooner rather than later so if there is food involved and my friend always makes me her famous brownies, I tell her before that this week I can't do brownies. That way she doesn't go to the expense and trouble of cooking something just for me that I'm now squirming to get out of. But that definitely assumes relationship....we already care about each other so I've already shared my struggle.

    For situations where they know but don't care, then I don't mind leaving the food. I didn't ask for it and need them to know NOT to waste that assumption on me, as I'm not gonna give in.

    And I do have the "benefit" of a medical diagnosis. I've always struggled with wt. and health, but now I can just say doctor says....if I can control this thing with diet, no med's are needed. People don't push me after that and if they do....well, do I really care if I hurt their feelings? They don't care if I have to go on insulin! - 9/1/2013 1:09:43 PM
  • Most people respect me when I say, "No, but thank you." Those that don't, I smile politely, thank them, and toss it in the nearest trashcan, when they aren't looking. - 9/1/2013 12:13:32 PM
  • I'm not afraid to just be outright honest - "No, thank you." I'm not going to sugarcoat a situation or lie - I'm going to flat out say "no, thank you" and if they persist, I'll probably be less nice and say, "Are you deaf or something? I SAID, no thank you."

    But then, I'm not overly concerned about social ties. :p - 9/1/2013 11:18:18 AM
  • Oh, another thing I tried but didn't see on here was to agree to try it, and take a teeny weeny bit of it. One teaspoon will leave bits all over the plate, but for most foods, it won't break the diet. - 9/1/2013 10:10:54 AM
  • Maybe I go to different parties, but the worst "food pushers" are people who have known me all my life and say "Are you sure you aren't hungry?" even when I've had more than enough. After I say no, they are all okay with it and my food choices. - 9/1/2013 10:06:54 AM
    You can always tell a white lie and say that you are allergic to one of the ingredients. I've done this several times. - 9/1/2013 9:56:35 AM
    I swear I really don't mean to troll (although I do know this is going to sound like it), but some of these are straight out of the pro-ana handbook. Pushing food around your plate to make it look like you ate it? Lying about what you already ate? Those are the oldest tricks in the ED book. - 9/1/2013 7:53:06 AM
  • I do like leftovers ... less for me to worry about cooking the next day. But now since I'm following a low-carb diet there's not many foods I will eat. But at work potlucks or friends dinners if I'm invited to take something home, I ask for the salad, veggies or meat - these are things I definitely can enjoy and 9xs out of 10 no one else wants to take home the first 2 items anyway. LOL! - 9/1/2013 1:15:17 AM
  • I love leftovers! Especially turkey! And if you get a bunch of high-fat things you don't want you can throw them out in the privacy of your own home. - 8/22/2013 1:09:18 AM
  • I have a really pushy friend. She claims to eat healthily but doesn't do so in reality. I once asked her "Are you trying to sabotage me?" She said no, and then didn't push anymore! - 5/27/2013 10:18:04 AM
  • I usually just say no thanks, if they push or insist I just say no really, I hate ...........(fill in the blanks) No one ever asks a second time. May not be the nicest, but it is the most honest and the most remembered! - 5/26/2013 10:33:15 PM
  • Great article. I use some of these with my favorite food-pushers and when all else fails this is my favorite polite way to turn down a food-pusher, "Oh no, I'm sorry I'm just full now but I enjoyed everything so much!" - 5/26/2013 12:38:37 PM
    Because of food pushers, I have simply eliminated all food related gatherings at work from my schedule. I used to go just to be social, but people just can't seem to understand. I am gluten and dairy free for very good reasons, and they simply refuse to leave it alone. They are aware that I get sick and still push. I had one woman take a piece of cheesecake, put it in front of my face, and say, "just a little bit?!?" Now, when people ask if I will attend, I say no and explain why when asked. Maybe it will make people think and they will leave the next person that says no alone. - 5/26/2013 12:17:26 PM
  • PINK_FREAK8994
    i hate people who dont respect the diet wishes of someone. i try my best to eat healthy, i dont eat tortillas beans potatos buscuits or oily fried foods but yet my mom cooks every single one of those things for breakfast she fries the tortillas and the potatoes and its just disgusting and then when i say why cant she make something that i like and that is more healthy she gets all mad and says shes not gonna cook fancy stuff that we just need food to feed us. i feel like slapping her when she says that and you guys have guessed is that everyone has high blood pressure and high sodium and im the one in the family who weighs the least. my family is the picture of food pushers! - 5/26/2013 12:16:02 PM
  • i am a vegan and i do not eat wheat or sugar and i take my food and by now most people know how i eat or just get mad and i do not care or i will say i have lost 163lbs and i like it - 5/26/2013 11:19:04 AM

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