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11 Nice Ways to Say 'No' to Food Pushers

Politely Turn Down Food at Parties and Gatherings


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  • I can't believe how many of these suggestions are also passive-aggressive or just downright lies. I would much rather be assertive and stand up for myself than make up some ridiculous story about a childhood distaste for butter. It's far more respectful of myself to simply say, "I'm sorry, but I'm watching what I eat right now." Or, "I've been really successful in my plan to eat healthy right now, and I really don't want to start back down that slippery slope."

    Part of making the lifestyle choice to be healthy also means learning to stand up for yourself in a healthy way. I'm very disappointed in this article.
  • I have reviewed this article before and it always helps to take another look, especially between Turkey Day and the New Year.
    The passive aggressive comments come in all sizes!
    "How much are you planning to lose?!" "You know those height/weight charts can be off by 10 lbs. or more." "Be careful, if you lose to much weight, you will start looking gaunt and unhealthy, especially in the face."
    Thank you for reinforcing my arsenal of diplomatic refusals.
  • JOYCE149
    Oh gosh, I've had enough food for today! of I'm done for the day!
    Since I've joined the Sparkpeople website in July of this year, I have been saying.."It's not on my food list to eat today, but thank you!" I've been given some ohh's & eye brow lifting but they left me alone. : ))
  • Maybe just say you have to eat small amounts of food at once or else you have problems. Which is actually true for me, my wonky innards don't like too much coming down the line together. But even if your problems just involve general weight management or general health considerations, it's still true. No need to give them details. If they ask what happens, "Oh, you really don't want to know!" works pretty well. "Doctor's orders" works also if any doctor anytime has suggested you lose weight or eat differently. Even a tv doctor... :) If they offer to pack some up for you and it's something you really can eat later and it will keep long enough in the fridge or freezer - let them do it. Just divide it into portions when you get home and plan for it. Or throw it out if they were persistent even though you didn't want it. I do get out of a lot by just saying I have allergies, but that's really true for me- I have to know ingredients. I wouldn't really advise using the allergy card if you don't have them, but it's fine to say allergy if it's more in the intolerance category (confirmed or suspected). I have to do that about artificial fragrances, people understand the word allergy fine but if I tell them I have an intolerance to their perfume etc. then they will think I mean they smell bad. No. They smell fine, but if I stay around them too long I'll get headaches and inflamed lungs and congestion ...

    The main thing is to be clear about what you can do and what you can't, without having to give a speech about the reasons. It's just food. They're trying to be nice. Many people get very defensive about their own food choices, and interpret rejection of the food they've bought or prepared as a rejection of themselves. Keep it light and appreciative of their efforts.
  • I just say "no, thanks, I'm trying to quit" and they will laugh and move on.
    These days, most people leave you alone about what you eat, but years ago it was more of a thing about food pushing. People didn't like it, but if I didn't want to eat it, I didn't, but this happened years ago, on every diet I was on, lost the weight, and then gained it back over and over again, so it really was silly to not eat something in the first place, might have not become a yo yo dieter if I would have had some holiday foods! Sometimes, it's better to stay home and not go to the event, really...........
  • Ever have a child offer you one of their birthday cupcakes? Working at an elementary school, you get a lot of food gifts. I have no problem accepting them graciously and either giving them to another or throwing them away after the person is out of sight.

    How to answer, "Did you like my cupcake/candy/donut/cookie?" "Oh! (insert food name here) are so yummy!"
  • Telling the truth is the best. If you are watching what you eat, that is your business. I just say, no thanks, I am watching what I eat.

    People can be rude but that is their problem, not mine.

  • OMG I just dare somebody to tell me if I don't eat it they're going to have to force me to. Go ahead, make my day!
  • I usually just say, 'No thanks, I'm good.' Most people don't argue with that.
    Diabetes runs in my family, while I'm not diabetic (I did have gestational diabetes), I've told people I'm pre-diabetic. That shuts them up right away!! :)
    You know I'd love to but I just can't!
  • Oh, and "I have an adverse reaction to that". I do- I get fat. ;-)
  • Great article! Here are my suggestions:
    "It looks so good and I know a lot of work and love went into it, but I just can't hold another bite of your delicious food!"
    Mostly what food pushers want is to know that they are appreciated.

    As for the leftover quandary, if you feel you HAVE to take it, throw it away at your earliest convenience. For me, sometimes this means finding a place to toss it before I get to the house. Once it's in the door, it's that much harder to resist. I know this sounds cold, but let's be honest, here: The person put the money, time and effort into the dish, whether you eat it or not. It's going to wind up disposed of once it gets through your system anyhow- You're just saving it a few steps. :-)

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