As a vegan, I get this a lot. A LOT. All year round. "But eggs are good for you!" "If you don't eat meat, you get no protein!" and my personal favourite "You'll have osteoporosis in like 10 years" (and I am 24 years old!). Even if they want to shove their perspective towards food and their beliefs in my face, I find it pointless, disrespectful and exhausting to do the same. My physician gave me the best advice on the matter: "Thanks, I'm allergic" are the magic words! All animal products are very common allergens, so I'm always excused and it doesn't even have to be a big deal!
"No, thank you" or "I'm good," take care of it for me. If they insist, I say firmly, "No really, I'm good." The only time it wouldn't work was with my grandma, but she was always far too good a cook for me to turn down anything she cooked. ;)
I tend to be very weak when a food pusher is talking about desserts. However, I find the easiest way for me to get out of it is to either share the dessert, have a taste and then toss the rest when the pusher isn't looking, or claim that I'm not ready for dessert yet.
You gotta love food pushers! They are every where, but I have learned that most things in life, are mind over matter! Plus, when I look in the mirror, I see a healthy me, so then it becomes much easier to push the negativeness away!
While I do like the suggested responses, I feel like some of them do the opposite of building good relationships with people and food. How can people learn to respect each other's words, if we pretend to appease them? I try very hard to be honest in my responses to my people about food....though of course, I'm not perfect in it. But planning to lie just doesn't work....I'll plan to warn them ahead of time first if I must.
For me, it's a CONSTANT battle and I'm a sweets nut, so I have to speak up. People that love me will bring me treats if I don't stop them sooner rather than later so if there is food involved and my friend always makes me her famous brownies, I tell her before that this week I can't do brownies. That way she doesn't go to the expense and trouble of cooking something just for me that I'm now squirming to get out of. But that definitely assumes relationship....we already care about each other so I've already shared my struggle.
For situations where they know but don't care, then I don't mind leaving the food. I didn't ask for it and need them to know NOT to waste that assumption on me, as I'm not gonna give in.
And I do have the "benefit" of a medical diagnosis. I've always struggled with wt. and health, but now I can just say doctor says....if I can control this thing with diet, no med's are needed. People don't push me after that and if they do....well, do I really care if I hurt their feelings? They don't care if I have to go on insulin!
I'm not afraid to just be outright honest - "No, thank you." I'm not going to sugarcoat a situation or lie - I'm going to flat out say "no, thank you" and if they persist, I'll probably be less nice and say, "Are you deaf or something? I SAID, no thank you."
But then, I'm not overly concerned about social ties. :p
Maybe I go to different parties, but the worst "food pushers" are people who have known me all my life and say "Are you sure you aren't hungry?" even when I've had more than enough. After I say no, they are all okay with it and my food choices.
9/1/2013 9:56:35 AM
You can always tell a white lie and say that you are allergic to one of the ingredients. I've done this several times.
9/1/2013 7:53:06 AM
I swear I really don't mean to troll (although I do know this is going to sound like it), but some of these are straight out of the pro-ana handbook. Pushing food around your plate to make it look like you ate it? Lying about what you already ate? Those are the oldest tricks in the ED book.
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