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11 Nice Ways to Say 'No' to Food Pushers

Politely Turn Down Food at Parties and Gatherings

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  • Thanks for sharing.
  • Luckily I've never had a problem with people talking me into eating something that I didn't want - other than myself! LOL.
  • If i really don't feel like a taste test, or not feeling particularly hungry, I just say..no thanks. Some people will be pushy. I just tell them again, no thanks, and walk away
  • BILLTHOMSON
    "If you care, you will respect my decision."
  • I have food allergies (specifically mold, including cheese, mushrooms, beer, and wine), and I have people telling me what I can and can't eat. One SIL keeps telling me to have her lasagna -"l made the cheese myself of and there's no mold in it!" Since my life is at stake, it's easy to say no.
  • You are what you think. Always think positive, empowering thoughts and your life will welcome positive opportunities!
  • Honesty is the best policy. I just say, to maintain my health, I am choosing to pass.
  • I'm just honest with people about what I do or don't want. I think honesty is the best policy. Like they say, if you're honest, you won't forget what you said! One thing you didn't mention is how withering it can be to come to the event with the calorie count of different things they might have, and say what it is and that it's too high.
  • "I'm stuffed already, but maybe I can manage a taste!" (Even though you are not full already)
  • When it is your beloved 96 yr old mother doing the push, it gets tricky. I face this often. Usually I just let her say what she wants, then I eat what I want to.
  • Easiest answer I've ever found: "I'm feeling a little nauseous right now, but maybe later."
    People don't argue with nausea, and usually go out of their way to avoid putting food near your face after that. If they are concerned, you can simply say you're ok but have been feeling a little under the weather today, or that you think something you ate earlier didn't agree with you. It's a good non-specific symptom that could have any number of causes, and can go away or come back at any time - and if they try again later, you just say, "Yes, I'm doing a little better, but I don't want to risk it today."
    Invoke as soon as you've eaten all the healthy food you plan to eat, so you won't be tempted to have any more.
    It doesn't offend anyone, so they won't feel badly about putting so much effort into cooking food you never tried, and it's an easy excuse if you don't want to bring home leftovers either. It will usually take many repeat performances before people catch on that you are nauseous a lot lately, and usually by then it's easy to say "Now that I've been losing weight, rich foods don't taste as good to me anymore. It's a waste of calories, because I actually prefer fruit/vegetables/healthy food now." People usually only resist when they haven't gotten used to a new way to relate to you, by the time the nausea excuse has worn thin, they are probably used to you not eating their food and gotten over it. And sometimes, they will even go out of their way to try to make something healthier you can enjoy for next time, or you may have inspired them to lose weight and exercise, too, because they see how great you're looking!
  • Am I the only one who replies to rude comments about what I eat with rude comments right back? If someone tells me I have to eat something, I say no thank you I don't eat that. If someone makes a comment about not eating anything, I explain that I work hard to make food that is healthy and delicious. And if someone put something on my plate, I would purposefully not touch the food to make a point. If you aren't supporting my journey, I'm not going out of my way to make you feel good about not supporting my journey. Sorry, not sorry.
  • I had a long talk with my husband before leaving for one of those high-pressure family gatherings. We thought back to how long ago in the old country feasts were indeed "once a year" events because food was not so easily available. Of course, no better way to show love in those days than to go all out with feasts. Now it seems that is all we do; every month there is a holiday or event and the food is all too easy to obtain than the old days when you had to harvest the wheat, knead the dough, etc. It continues to be a very, very hard challenge for me not to overeat out of my house even if I understand this. Not giving up
  • I don't believe white lies are a good idea. It will just set you up for more of that same behavior in the future. You will be left with a feeling of guilt for your lie. This could actually set you up to eat more. You must be true to yourself. Much better to simply say no and explain that you are very careful about what you eat and that you are working very hard to be healthy and would feel guilty if you did not keep the promise you made to yourself. Follow it up with what you enjoyed and that you are now full or finished and then change the topic.
  • very motivational

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