I recently decided to buy a pair of men's swim suit shorts. They are cute and flattering and at my age I just don't think it is appropriate for someone my age to act like a teen in a skippy swimsuit. I feel more comfortable moving around the pool and other activities. I have always had large thighs even when I was young and only 105lbs. I just think our wardrobe choices are limited--skippy. I have noticed more swim shorts of late but even shorts are too short for me so I buy longer ones. I actually buy mens shorts champion and they are longer for walking. women's shorts seem to want to pull up when I walk. I truly don't dislike my body but have come to terms with age and sagging too. Also as I have gotten older I don't feel like I have to flaunt my body like I did when I was a younger girl. I think that is also a whole image issue with women that we are made to feel that we need to wear the trend or smaller clothes. We need to wear what we are comfortable wearing. Hell with if a man likes it or not.
Thanks so much for this well written article!! It's oh so real and nice to hear the lower numbers of life (as I refer to the 30-50 age groups) address the aging issues! we upper age group folks learn to "dance" with : ) As for your friend and client I say she's right. "It ain't pretty" but we need to work our way through it using the same drive and wisdom that gives our aging bodies the look everyone admires and comments on. It's fun making up your own "swimming threads" as I call them. I think they look pretty good and thats all I'm aiming for at this point of my life. And Elaine there's no prettier sight than someone enjoying their lives,loved ones,etc. Thanks for sharing your "root" feelings with your co-sparkers who,like yourself,enjoy physical fitness and feeling as good as you look!! SparkPeople.com is such a great place for that!! Have a healthy day!!
For large-thied ladies, those cute add-on skirts are great additions to a bathing suit. I agree that we ALL have good and bad areas and a good suit will show off the right things while toning down the wrong ones. All stylists to the stars (think Oscars) know this.
One of my mantras is "I'm not where I want to be, but I'm not where I was." For bathing suit weather, I'm keeping my old suit that looks better now that I've gone down some, even though it isn't the bikini I want to buy when I get to that proverbial "there" place. I'm happy even if I have to stay where I am, and I'm okay with this suit. I look better in it than I used to and I'm accepting myself for how I look in it now, sexy or not. Chances are I'd be more self-conscious in a bikini anyway!
For those looking try www.swimsuitsforall.com They have a huge selection and reasonable prices especially when on sale. Every suit I own (and that's a lot) is from this site. Read the reviews because some do run small and reviewers will tell it like it is.
I like wearing black. It's sexy and cool. I don't look at clothes thinking "oh yeah, this will make me look thin".
5/18/2013 3:50:15 PM
why bare all when you can wear swiom wear that gives you lots of coverage options. I wear HydroChic swimwear. It looks like athletic wear but really is swimwear. I feel great and I do not feel exposed. It is light and very comfortable.
I HATED the poll that accompanied the article! It implies that one's choice of swimsuit is entirely dictated by physical appearance, rather than comfort or utility. What a terrible message.
I generally wear a one piece because I find it most comfortable for swimming and snorkeling, as well as for water aerobics. (I also like to keep my delicate midriff skin protected from the sun.) When I do find a 2-piece that works I don't hesitate to buy it but none of this has ANYTHING to do with how gorgeous - or otherwise - I consider my body to be. Shame on whoever devised the poll.
1/23/2012 9:49:46 PM
I used to feel uncomfortable about wearing a bathing suit in public, even though I was slim (5'7", 125 pounds) and in fairly good shape.
Then, when I was almost 40, I decided to take up scuba diving. I love the sport, but I have to tell you, NO ONE looks good after they've been diving. They have compression marks on the their faces, matted and stringy hair, boogers coming out of their noses, goose bumps, lines from the wetsuit on their bodies, and usually bits of seaweed and sand smeared on exposed skin. And there are all kinds of bodies, of all ages, on the boat. No one cares about what they look like - they're just happy that their bodies took them to a magical place that few people see.
The first time I went diving, I encountered sea lions that wanted to play with me while my instructor and I were waiting for the boat to pick us up. I looked great to the sea lions :)
When I went on vacation last summer, I bought a new bathing suit so I could swim in the pool at the resort. I had lost 50 pounds and could just fit into a size 18 suit. I put on my shorts & t-shirt over it and headed down to the pool. I only made it by repeating: "I don't care what other people think" over and over. The commitment to exercise was stronger than my embarrassment at wearing a swim suit.
Bathing suits are generally not created for larger women, at least up here in these parts. Even the suits in Penningtons, which is a store for larger women, are either very ugly or fit poorly. Plus they are expensive, talking over $100! If I was thin like in the old days, I would only pay around $25 for a suit, it's very wrong that someone in size 24 has to pay 4x more for an ugly bathing suit that doesn't fit properly. I am fortunate in that I swim mainly in rivers and lakes, so I can wear shorts and tank tops. If I go to a pool, on a rare occasion, I have an old suit that I throw a tshirt on top, as the straps slip off.
I like that the article focuses on self-image and self-esteem. It is so true that attitude makes a difference. When my bathing suit was new it fit well. It is a "tiger" pattern one piece. I wore it in Vegas with my new boyfriend and he thought I was HOT. I was 250lbs. I felt self-conscious at first but that quickly changed, as he reminded me "if you think you are HOT you are H-O-T, HOT." He was right. I stood tall, proud and felt very beautiful in my bathing suit. I was overweight, I had problem areas but who cares? I had people smile when they saw me, guys gave me the looks over in a good way and hey, I was and still am HOT. It's all in how you present yourself to the world. That's why I loved this article, for focusing on that piece. :)
This isn't much of an issue for me. I must like swimming enough not to care. I wish other women felt the same way (doesn't apply to men - I've seen many a walrus stuffed into a Speedo). The only caveat I offer is that you may have to go online to order a tasteful suit in your size (I did).
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