For me the main triggers are anger and fear. The way I see it eating emotionally helps me to cope by 'swallowing' my feelings via food. I know it isn't helping because eating rubbish causes more problems - obesity being one, but haven't yet learned to deal with these emotions any other way. Unfortunately although I know talking about it would help, there is no-one I trust enough to confide in.
In this bizarre narcicistic egocentric society of ours, where everyone is told from early childhood to waste an inordinate amout of time worrying about their feelings, perhaps some better advice is to dispense with the navel-gazing.
I also have to wonder why any entity, like this site, for example, supposedly committed to helping people live healthier lives would add fuel to the fire of shirking personal responsibility. It's much easier to say, "Oh, I'm an EMOTIONAL eater! I eat because FEELINGS!" rather than owning up to the fact that you eat too much because a) there's too much food lying around, and b) you lack the self-control not to buy it/eat it.
I'm successful when I am honest about why I eat: it's pleasurable. When I overeat it's a flaw in my character; I have not adequately mortified the flesh.
Whether this mortification is approached from the spiritual angle, or simply as a matter of common sense, controlling one's baser insticts is an end to which anyone who seeks to attain any kind of sense much strive.
Easy to say "exercise" but, in the evening when you are winding down for sleep, exercise isn't good. During the day, I can avoid the emotional eating but evenings is when it hits--can't call people too late--and volunteering, etc doesn't work at night either.
5/2/2014 7:22:53 AM
I know hoe to eat healthy but since menopause I crave junk food in the afternoons and then I am tired and I don't do anything to burn it off. I have packed on albs over the winter. Im trying to change my habit but so far no luck!
I admit to being an emotional eater. I'm also a subconscious eater -- I eat without realizing it sometimes. Especially when cooking, I'm always tasting. And that adds up. When I started regaining weight after the birth of my last child, I had to blame someone, so I blamed my husband. I told myself it was because he said he didn't care what I looked like. That was his response when I got discouraged when the baby weight didn't melt off in a day (figuratively speaking). He later said that he meant that he loved me no matter what, but that's not how my brain remembered it. It remembered it as I could balloon and grow warts all over my body and stop personal hygiene and he'd still love me. Okay, that's a little extreme. Now I have to consciously make decisions to stop grazing. When I'm cooking a keep a bottle of water or Crystal Light at hand, and any time I think of sampling, I drink instead. It's too soon to tell, but I hope it's helping.
82% of the population are emotional eaters. That's you, me and just about everyone. I think to move forward, we keep trying. But, break it down into daily accomplishments. If we can get past an hour. Get through the morning. Or afternoon. I think we think it has to be "all or nothing" and that is defeatist. Also, when we eat because of emotion or mindless, we aren't eating chicken. We are eating carbs. Sugar. Fats. so if or when we have to eat, try carrot sticks. I will never overeat on carrot sticks. But someone told me one time, that if you are craving something, have a little of it and be done and do it consciously...have that chocolate cake, limit yourself to one piece and eat it slowly that way you won't have the guilt. You acknowledged it and you satisfied your craving and then you can move on. I could eat a bag of carrots, but if I'm in a chocolate mood, I will still keep thinking about it until I have some. Sometimes, I am not emotional, but it is the taste that I am after and I don't have to eat a whole cake, to satisfy my taste buds and my mind. so really, you are NOT alone at all.
Every thing I read and watch tells me I'm an emotional eater. But I eat after the stress has passed. If I'm anxious or upset I can't even see food or I gag. Does anyone else have this problem? I' m the person that just kept gaining weight and every time people would see me I was bigger. I almost never eat during the day mostly because I have an extraordinarily stressful life. In the past few days a a new member of this site I've been tracking my food. I allowed myself wiggle room just to I could really face what's going on. I was shocked to see I take in 80 percent of my calories as snacks at night. I mean 1,000 calories plus! Geeze I m glad I see it now. But I really want to understand it. I do not have a healthy relationship with food. But I'm getting better and stronger every day :)
9/12/2013 1:04:37 PM
ok these r great ideas but wat do u do wen there is noone 2 workout with and u just cant get excited bout workn out all alone and lookn stupid cuz ur fat.....ive tryed writing letters 2 friends but they cant really help cuz they live states away from me.......i live n a town where there is litterally nothing 2 do except eat unless u kno ppl, which i dont.....i hav 1 aquantance but she got 2 kids and really not a reliable person......im not good at tlkn 2 new ppl......i want 2 do a fun activity 4 excersize so i wont hate it but i dont kno wat 2 do.....i love 2 swim but im to broke 2 pay 2 swim and the lakes and ponds n this area r toxic, literally......
When I am in Normal Mode I have the will power of a drill Sargent but when I feel sad ,angry or tired I eat EVERYTHING not because it tastes good or because im tempted just because I want comfort , I hope this article helps me
Great suggestions as far as it went. But what about when you just want something that tastes pleasurable to eat? And what about addressing the emotional problems that also cause overeating? How does one turn off those?
Boredom is the biggest one for me. I have always looked to food for entertainment. Going out for dinner with friends, reading at the coffee shop, having a drink or dessert as a special treat (is it still special when it happens almost every day? lol)
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