thank you so much for this article!!!!! it helped me realize that i do all those things and not only is it an unhealthy way of thinking it is like having poision in your head when you think that way!!! it doesnt help anything only hinder!!! this really makes me think about how i am trying to stay positve with my attitude and thinking and to stop beating myself up!!!! thanks again for helping me keep my mind in check!!!!!
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8/26/2011 7:30:08 AM
Great article and really gets to the heart of my own eating issues! I have finally realized that it is my behavior that is affecting my health. I know what to do, now I am working on reprogramming my brain to follow the healthy lifestyle I want.
A friend at school told me the other day that I need to stop being down on myself and pick one thing to work on at a time: great Spark advice from a non-Sparker. I 'allow' myself to eat what I want, not exercise, then stress over my poor choices and lack of accomplishment. I have put this article in my Favorites and will revisit it often, watching my Fattitude change along with the rest of me!
There is no doubt I have been carting around a fatitude for longer than was necessary, and it took Sparkpeople to point it out to me, The statement "the fact is that perfectionism and the desire for instant gratification are very likely two of the problems that helped you become overweight in the first place" is SO true and I have been stuck there in my journey to overcome my weight issues. That's IT, I am THROUGH with the fatitude, I am moving on, and I am going for a shiny brand new atitude of health and strength, no matter what the outcome is.
This is a fabulous article... although there are those who take offense to the word, I don't. We struggle with losing the weight because of bad attitudes... and they are what keeps us fat! IT IS WHAT IT IS!!!
I am not a drama queen any longer, used to be, but just sucked it up and decided to STOP IT! - if you want a funny on STOP IT... go to You Tube, type in Bob Newhart - Stop It! It is hilarious... and you can apply this to anything you do in your life that is self-defeating. I watched it a couple times and had a good laugh... then decided to apply it to myself.
Personally, I would rather work at developing a WINNING ATTITUDE than hang on to a FATITUDE because the word itself bothered me! Personally, I say get over yourself and get on with developing a better you! Yes, I am applying that to ME!!! No one likes to hear or be told the negative stuff, but if ... IF ... you want to get on with living a healthy life we all need to face the negative things in our lives that got us to where we are today. I have had to deal with a daughter who has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder - and the one thing I had to face... I CREATED IT IN HER!!! I didn't start it, but I certainly didn't help it either. That was a shocker to me, and I had to learn to deal with her. She will change only if she works at changing herself. Why did I do this, well, I listened to some REALLY BAD ADVICE! ~ REALLY BAD ADVICE!!! Once I learned I was behind all this, I could have just blamed the person that gave me the bad advice, but no... I just smacked myself upside the head - told myself it was a really stupid piece of advice to listen to... accept what I had done and just love her, and learn techniques to deal with her that do not threaten her existence... because she is very threatened by so many things. Does not matter what it is that is going on, she can make the war in Afghanistan all about her! I love her, and well, she is changing - because she has a very loving husband who is helping her grow up. How did this all start - Grampa!!! He spoiled that child, we had many MANY fights over things he did. Oh, it all eventually came to a head, I got my point across to him... and he did stop thinking he was her father and switched to the grandfather mode, but it was not easy. When you are a product of disfuntion, you teach it, and one thing I am very thankful for is the group of people who helped me to become more of a positive thinker, and not accept what is just because. We all have the power to change and it is only a decision away.
I noticed some of the other comments had concerns about the term "fattitude" and I understand their views. Yet, I can relate to almost everything mentioned here. I'm actually glad there is a new name for my behavior and self-defeating attitude. Now, from this point on I will think of that term to shift my mindset from the negative to the positive. Thanks for the wonderful insights in your article.
2/5/2010 1:38:53 AM
so much great information ..i'm gonna save it and read it over and over again. Loved it!!
11/17/2009 6:51:26 AM
Always thought I was a person who took responsibility for my actions... But my setback this fall seems to have pointed the finger elsewhere. The people who stress me out don't put food in my mouth. I do. I can do this!
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