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How to Tell Others about Your Weight Loss Goals

Get Support Where You Need it Most


  • My husband has a weird sense of humor and would always taunt me about my weight, lack of working out and so forth. This really discouraged me from trying to do my best for me - I felt it was for no use.
    Well this time I changed things around and made gradual adjustments in our eating, how I prepare things and where we go when we go out, but I never said I was on a diet. He liked the changes and appreciated the healthier version of food, too.
    After I went to the doctor 2 weeks ago, I told him that I had lost 9 pounds over the past month and he was actually excited! He got behind me and is following the same nutrition plan (other than larger servings).
    I appreciate the support and no joking, and I give him sincere thanks when he notices something different - like my pants falling off or sagging all over. Family support is crucial! - 9/22/2011 11:07:08 PM
  • JAY75REY
    This article is food for thought. Like other commentators, I've seen a mixed bag when sharing goals and asking for support from those closest to me. I recently shared with my boss, who is also doing a diet (though hers is a little extreme IMHO). We both agreed to empty our candy jars on the desk and take away that temptation. That was cool.
    DH hasn' t always been supportive because he doesn't come on board and wants to eat out constantly. Also he gets negative and hopeless about his own weight problems so he sends these vibes toward me. BUT at the moment he and I are working on it together and I think we'll have success. I'm seeing signs of motivation in him.
    I rarely tell anyone about my diabetes because I hate being lectured and monitored by others: "you're eating that! that's so bad" etc.
    - 7/10/2011 7:54:43 PM
  • I admire the desire to want to include others but this seems like a "perfect world" scenario to me. I would LOVE to have been able to tell people when we started but I seriously couldn't handle the eyes rolls or body language of " mean AGAIN!?" The best way to prove your commitment is to just do it and let people say something to you and come to SP or similar sites so you can get support from like minded people because a lot of times your declaration of a healthier lifestyle can make many people resentful. It shines a spotlight on their unhealthy habits whether you mean it to or not and if they're not ready to change or think things will change, a big time attitude can emerge. Been there and done that. :-( - 7/10/2011 7:20:29 PM
  • Sometimes our "loved ones" are toxic people, frequently making critical or demeaning comments. In that case, why give them more ammunition by declaring our health/weight loss goals? The support of people who really care about your well-being is wonderful. Having people tell you it won't work or you won't follow through is non-productive. Been there, not going back. - 7/10/2011 12:15:59 PM
  • "I am in control! It's my choice. No one besides ME can decide how much weight I'll lose, how I'll do it, or whether I want to lose it in the first place."
    Great words, I'm printing them as a little poster to be one of my visual aids! - 7/10/2011 1:42:42 AM
  • There's a problem with this style of goal setting though: people who say they're going to do something and then get lots of positive feedback get buzzed on the happy glow of "I'm doing something and getting recognition" and don't actually follow through. People who don't share goals are more likely to work at them, because the only warm fuzzies they get are from success.

    There's an interesting TED talk by Derek Sivers about it. - 10/21/2010 12:26:14 AM
  • I agree with SMY3THE. There's no need to get other people involved. I'm just doing this for me. I'm not accountable to anyone else. - 4/24/2010 4:51:25 AM
  • This was a great article...but it made me SO thankful for the support my family and friends have given me as I begin this journey.. - 1/27/2010 6:42:01 PM
  • This is what I need to write to MYSELF! - 1/23/2010 10:55:25 AM
  • I enjoyed the article and would have liked to have read it years ago at an earlier attempt to get healthy. Definitely has some good points. Thanks. - 1/11/2010 4:18:44 PM
    I too find this article amazing. It's true that in the past no one supported me, and I failed. This time around I am just doing it. I lost 4.5 lbs already and can't wait for Christmas to show my friends and family that even without their help I can do something right. - 11/9/2009 10:38:49 PM
  • What a great article, this can be so hard to do! Can't say enough about having the support of others. - 5/16/2009 9:07:32 AM
  • Great letter! I am a shy person and the only person that knowsabout my goal is my husband. I am affraid of the reaction of others and I just don't want to deal with any negativity. - 4/28/2009 7:53:03 PM
  • I find people are jealous, so you have to be careful about what you tell others. Do it for yourself. - 4/15/2009 12:56:57 PM
  • Great letter! I wish I had this when I started!
    - 4/15/2009 6:06:38 AM

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