This article was vey helpful to me. It helped me to understand my husband's feelings and behavior better. I can also see how some of my behaviors to become healthy may have appeared to him that I am improving myself because I am "out there looking."
There is a history of problems from a previous marriage, which I won't go into.
Unfortunately the baggage seems to haunt us. I can't change the past. But at least I can be sensitive, considerate, and understanding of why he has negative reactions to my present behavior. At some point though, it does get oppressive. I know I still need to allow myself to proceed with what I consider are healthy choices and what is right for me.
I can comprimise in some areas, but shouldn't have to give up what is considered by most rational people to be healthy promoting habits and behavior.
- 5/19/2012 8:07:56 AM