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Is Weight-Loss Hurting Your Relationship?

The Real Issues and How to Address Them

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  • It shouldn't be a problem. I mean if is indeed your partner then why for the love of god will he get get upset because i have to lose some weight? From my point of view this should strengthen the relationship not hurting it. If you have someone that really care for you then he should come with, at least, emotional support. - 1/3/2015 11:26:34 AM
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  • The line between help and sabotage can be a fine one as well. When my DH decides to lose weight, it's typically by skipping meals, eating an ultra-low-calorie diet or doing something else drastic. If I encourage him to make healthier choices it seems like I'm trying to derail him, when in fact I just know that what he's doing WILL backfire (like it has for the last 20 years). He's not severely overweight like I was but does want to lose some weight, just not like that! We're both healthcare professionals so it always surprises me that he doesn't take his own advice; he would never tell a patient to do what he does... SMH... - 9/21/2014 12:35:10 PM
  • Thanks, I can't remember the last time I had such a good laugh. - 9/7/2014 6:33:46 AM
  • BOBG01
    I definitely see my weight loss possibly ruining my marriage. I feel bad about it because I feel like I am mostly to blame. I met my wife back in college. At that time I was maybe 15 pounds overweight. I had always had horrible eating habits and ate too much since my parents are both fat and I learned my eating habits from them. Before I met my wife she was fat. We met soon after she had lost a bunch of weight. She was a petite redhead with a good body (despite the fact that she didn't exercise) at that time. We fell in love and together we grew obese. My bad eating habits made it very easy to fall back into her bad eating habits. About the only thing my wife and I have in common is that we like to go out to eat and we like to get drunk. Any other hobbies or interests we pretty much pursued on our own, but drinking and going out to eat are about the only things we did together. My wife is also a pack a day smoker. I am a former cigar smoker. As an aside, I never set out to give up cigars, just that as I became more ito healthy living, the urge to smoke just wasn't there, and time I used to spend lounging around puffing away at a cigar is time I now spend working out.

    So fast forward 20 years. We are both obese and suffering from health problems. My wilfe also suffers from depression and fibromyalgia. I decided that I was sick and tired of being sick ansd tired, so I got off my fat, lazy butt, and did something about it. I dropped nearly 50 pounds and started working out regularly. At 200 pounds, I may still be technically fat, but I am in the best shape I have been in since my 20's! My wife on the other hand, has done nothing. This has created problems in our relationship. Since I am counting my calories, getting drunk every weekend and going out to eat often are out of the question. So now we have absolutely no "together" interests. I suggested making healthy living our together hobby, and that met with luke warm reception. So I basically just spend much of my free time alone. All she wants to do is sit at home and watch TV if we are not out drinking/eating. Our sex life is also terrible. Haven't done it in over two years! Because of my weight and high blood pressure, I just could not rise to the occasion and I was too easily winded for sex. She has issues as well. We also haven't slept in the same bed for about the same amount of time. This was due to my sleep apnea, snoring, and insomnia keeping here awake all night. Finally she could no longer stand it and banished me to the couch. Between the seperate lives, no sex, and not even sleeping together, I feel like my wife of 20 years is more like a room mate. Since I have dropped weight my sleep problems are pretty much gone. Yet, I have still not been invited back in the bedroom. But what makes me feel like a real horrible person is that I no longer find my wife to be physically attractive. She is obese and I don't find that attractive. She has also let herslf go in other ways as well-no makeup, shabby clothes, messy hair, etc. When I was at my fattest, I was the same way. I let my personal hygeine go, grew long hair and a long beard, and my clothes-well I am embarrassed that I actually went out in public dressed the way I was. Since I have slimmed down, I ditched the beard and got a buzz cut. I also ditched the worn out fat clothes and bought new clothes that were in good shape and fit properly. For the first time in YEARS, I actually care about how I look. But unfortunately, I also care about how my wife looks. I let it slip out during an argument and she told me that I am very shallow. When I told her that I want to look good for her, she said she didn't care. She said I could weigh 450 pounds and she would love me as much as ever. I feel like such a horrible and worthless human being because I honestly don't feel the same way about her. I love her, but I am not in lust with her. It's the way I feel. I know several middle aged women who are really into fitness. They have hot bodies and look very good for their age. That's the kind of woman I want to be with. I want a partner who is as committed to healthy living as I am. I know I can't change another person, but I fear that if my wife doesn't come around eventually, I may have to look elsewhere-finding a woman who is the kind of woman I want rather than trying to make my wife into that woman. - 9/4/2014 3:00:23 PM
  • This is so true. I'm now in a happy relationship, but one of my earlier ones which eventually broke up after 18 months had these issues creep in and gradually get worse. In a sense, I think it was a good thing because given our respective attitudes towards getting fit and living healthy, we were probably always going to get on each others' nerves! My key takeaway from your post is to set my own goals and targets for fat loss and stick to them, rather than let someone else impose their idea of what should be good for me. This relaxed and proactive choice means I'm more motivated to stick to my diet and exercise regimen than if it had been forced on me. - 7/22/2014 10:24:16 AM
  • This is to 'Antiquity'. Honey, if he is a good man in all other areas just let it slide. By commenting in this way he is just showing his inner child a little by then thinking how he measures up. This is not bad just immature. Extremely common! If a person studies communication skills they realize that the need to let people have their moment is important but you might just have to discuss this with him in a nonthreatening way and he might get it, if not right away then in a while. - 7/12/2014 12:11:27 PM
  • ROSELISE
    I'm pretty lucky in that my partner is in-shape and at a healthy weight himself, so he is great for doing outdoorsy activities with and is supportive of me being active and healthy. However, he is naturally slim and doesn't have a need to watch his food intake at all. I have warned him (somewhat jokingly!) that once his youthful metabolism becomes more sluggish, I will teach him all about weighing out his portion sizes! But for now, it can be hard because he simply doesn't understand what amounts I need for weight loss, and sees my portions as small or asks, "Is that all you're eating?" when I have a perfectly balanced meal. Despite that, I had an awesome moment with him the other day when I worried aloud about food over an upcoming holiday we were going on, and he said quite genuinely, "Bring your scale with you!" Aww, he's learning. =) - 4/17/2014 6:54:42 PM
  • I haven't used this site in so long, but this article gave me pause for thought.

    My husband has recently taken an interest in losing weight after he watched me successfully lose and keep off 40lbs in the past 2 years. We have had our ups and downs over that time, but my main frustration is that every time I make progress or achieve something, he always has to tell me how great he's doing too. It's honestly a little upsetting. He can't just let me have my moment.

    How do other people deal with this? - 4/17/2014 6:05:59 PM
  • I think my SO is unconscious of the ways he impacts me. He encourages me, always asks on my work out days if I followed through, makes supportive comments like you look so lean today etc. He's great or tries to be, yet on the other hand, he brings home pizza, loves to eat out, loves convenience/frozen food. If I don't do the meal planning and prepping he is lost. He's also been gaining as I've been losing and I'm not sure if what is going on, but perhaps it is time to talk to him... - 4/17/2014 4:35:31 PM
  • I don't have a significant other but my roommate exhibited a lot of these behaviors. She KNEW I was trying to cut back on calories and she would constantly bring home pizza, ice cream, hamburgers, etc. If she didn't bring it for me she would sit down and eat it in front of me. I would walk off so angry feeling betrayed that she would do such a thing knowing I was trying to get myself healthy. How could she sit down and grub on barbecue ribs in front of me?! She would also make comments like "You're black you're not supposed to be skinny". The comments were hurtful but I knew I was on the right track so I simply "conformed" to her habits. When she would make hurtful comments I would say thank you and walk away. When she would eat tempting foods in front of me I would go for a walk in the neighborhood or go to my room and close my door. There were ways around it and I'm still on track!! :] - 4/17/2014 1:20:15 PM
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  • TERI081010
    If the significant other is not supportive of their partner wanting to lose weight and be healthier, they are not worth it, get rid of him/her! That's just ridiculous! I seen shows on the morbidly overweight people and there is always an enabler that feeds them because they are so insecure with themselves that they think someone else might look at them or want them! These people have too many issues and should be single! - 1/5/2014 8:14:30 AM
  • my losing weight has been easier because my fiance is 100% supportive of me. he worksout with me eats whatever i cook and put in front of him and gets very proud whenever i lose even a lb. he lets me get whatever i want to help in my weight loss. recently i was able to upgrade my phone and if i spent 80 dollars on accesories i only pay 5 bucks a month for my phone. and my fiance was the one who found the activity tracker that syncs to my phone and made sure i could get it because ive been saying i wanted one. he deals with the random fitness stuff all around the apartment and doesnt complain. he tells me everyday that im beautiful and he tells me even more when im sad because i gained or gained some inches. he points out everything he sees thats changing with me working out more. he notices the more muscles and the tighter my legs look. ive gained 90 lbs since the day i met him and he still tells me how beautiful i am. he works very hard to make sure i know im loved and supported. i grew up in a bad home that i almost didnt survive. my mother starved me when i was 4 because she would say i was fat. so many times i went to bed crying from hunger. then she would randomly feed me a lot because i was too skinny. or because she got tired of my crying. i dont know. there was a lot worse but because of that my metabolism is screwed up and i am having a hard time learning how to be healthy. but my fiance makes sure i know he loves me and supports me no matter what. he lets me try different things and lets me experiment to find what works for me. i love him and he is the best thing to ever happen to me. - 12/14/2013 7:47:03 PM

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