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This weekend was somewhat of a bust eating-wise. Hubby and I are doing our best to get through this patch, but part of that meant going out together. I didn't track my foods, but made better decisions than I would have if was a weekend before SP.
I went to church last night and that always helps me feel better. It was hard though... I mean hard in that it was tough to put my worries away and focus on the message. It was also my time to get out without the kiddos and hubby so it gave me some "alone time" that is really hard to come by when you're a full-time everything.
This week I will work on journaling and also on being positive.
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| I've found going to bed earlier helps curb the evening eating. I'll grab the baby, brush my teeth, rinse with listerine, nurse her to sleep and then crash myself.
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| Well - our evening wasn't so great -even though I held my tongue and just took it. I know that as a result I'm an emotional eater so I decided to turn to SP instead and see how you're doing rather than binging. Do something nice for yourself - you're the only one that really has that power!
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SAUCYFACE1
5/5/07 10:05 P
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| everyone has tough times just stick to what you beleive in and things will work out in the end
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| I love all the suggestions. I think it's important to write in a journal so I will be more vigilant about that. And the idea of setting a goal is also wonderful.
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I am very sorry you are going through this bad patch. I have been married twice. The first time for 18 years and I have 2 wonderful boys from that marriage. I divorced and married again and have been married this time for 5 years. We are also going through a bad time and what I do when things get bad is I talk to my son. He is 15 years old and I have found that when we talk or do things (play games, watch a movie..etc.) together I remember how much I love my family and my husband. Even days that are so bad all I want to do is cry,,,I talk to my son and focus on seeing him his smile, hearing his laughter and I feel like the luckiest person on earth.
I also write in a journal and I try to focus on the positive in my life.
You will get though this. "THIS TO SHALL PASS" remember all things are meant to be for a purpose. Good luck.....
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| I got through our hard times by eating. Our marriage started out with tragedy and really didn't start to get better until 3 years ago. This summer will mark 10 years of being married. We had 7 years of strife, depression, and both of us turned to food. So unfortunately I don't have any real good advice. But the advice you've gotten so far is great. Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.
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| That other goal of "watch whatI say" is a GREAT idea. I am going to go add that to my goals now -- thank you!
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*hug*
It's not easy, but you can do it. Find something you can do for yourself besides eating, like buying a new novel or treating yourself to a manicure. bring your spirits up, find your strength.
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I'm sorry that you are coping with anything, when you should be enjoying this precious time with your child/family and husband.
Something that helps me stay sane when I feel as though the rest of my world is out of my control is to journal. To write my thoughts down is really such a perfect way for me to get everything off my chest and once it's on paper, I feel so much better. I do make a point to end each entry with something that I am proud of accomplishing or grateful for. It's so easy to forget our blessings when we only focus on the "problem".
Hang in there and take it one day at a time.
Kelly
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We, too, are going through a semi-rough time. One thing that I did that seems to have helped is that I created an "Other Goal" here in SP which is "Watch what I say." This way before I say something that I don't mean to say - which could add fuel to the fire - I think twice AND I get a point for it, too! It's a win-win!
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SAUCYFACE1
5/3/07 12:33 A
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| if you r looking for some one to answer that question i am not the girl.I understand about childeren i have 5 girls and one foster girl two of my older girls are over weight we are working on it together but like you when i have a bad day i turn to food.and the last year in my marriage has been really bad. In the last 8months i have gained 40lbs but i am trying to find other ways to deal with stress like going for walks,It gives me some mommy time
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This is actually my third baby. I have twins who are 4 1/2 and my baby is just over 5 months.
Hubby and I have been married for 5 years but together for 10 so we've definitely seen our ups and downs. I know we're going to make it over this hurdle too, but trying to keep focused on things other than our problems is making it trying to overcome my battle with my weight. I know that God is going to take us through our trials. I just want to keep up with the rest of my goals as well.
Thanks for your comments.
Val
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you are not alone in this situation. There are always difficult times within a marriage...
I have been married for 22 years and there have been some rough times. But, my husband and I have worked through them..
When you add a new child it can add stress... Until you all can find balance.
Eat healthy and try to excersise... that can help with the stress...
Keep your baby in your mind.. you are feeding your baby so please eat .. and eat healthy foods...
I don't know what is going on but if this is your first child, some men get a little jealous. It takes time for the family to settle after a new baby..
Also, if you are feeling low and depressed, let your doctor know...
hugs
Caeryl
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Oh MISSDATES,
You are definitely not alone. My husband and I have been married only 2 years and we're in our first stretch of not having difficult times (pregnancy, work, health, and on and on...). Sad, but true.
When I'm going through hard times, there's usually something that grabs my attention (healthy eating, painting a room, scrapbooking, gardening etc.). It's the only thing, when my world is out of control, that makes me feel good. So, all the other things that I know I'm supposed to be focused on don't matter to me (healthy eating, gardening, etc.).
What I try to do is this: allow myself the enjoyment of the one thing that's keeping me sane and happy but force myself to not let the other things get out of control. I always know deep down, that I'll be supremely disappointed in myself if I let things go. I may not make progress but I could at least keep things steady in those other areas. Does that make any sense?
Good luck, things always get better. Keep up the breastfeeding, it's probably helping you emotionally as well as physically during these times.
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How do you get through the very rough times? My hubby and I are working through some very serious issues, and it's one of two things for me. Either I feel like gorging, or I feel like eating nothing at all. I'm a bf'ing mom, so I have to maintain sustenance to feed my daughter so not eating is a horrible horrible thing.
I know I can't be the only person out there who goes through serious marital stress, add in children and add in trying to keep a healthy diet. How do you make it through times like that?
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