Oh I completely understand. It's hard to watch someone doing that to their body when you know from experience that it isn't as hard as people make it out to be. It definately takes effort, but those of us that succeed know that what you gain is worth much more than anything you give up.
I do hope that your hubby comes around and makes a life change for his health.
LUCKY_DUCK 3/13/07 5:42 P
I know. I am letting him decide when he wants to start with all of this. He has said numerous times how he wants to lose the weight badly, yet when we start a new activity he gives it up within a week. I am patient with him, but I feel as though he doesn't care what I want to do to lose the weight. He says, "It's great thatyou want to do this. I will support you 100%, but I just don't think that I could give up my lifestyle." I must say that he is eating the healthy things that I make, but he tends to eat more than a serving of that and then round it off with chips, soda, and candy. That is eating healthy to him. I'm not asking him to change who he is, just to take a look at who he doesn't want to be and then be proactive about it. He thinks anyone who is spending more than 30 minutes a week in the gym is overdoing it. When I told him I used to go to the gym three or four times a week he thought that was excessive. I feel almost guilty for wanting to exercise and eat right. I know it's wrong, but he is so opinionated that it sometimes makes me feel like a bad person if I say I want to work out. He says he is disgusted by people who want to be skinny. I tell him that it's not a want to be skinny but a want to be healthy and that means getting in shape. How can he say that he wants to be healthy and in shape one second and then bad mouth people who do live healthfully the next? I love him and want him to live a long life. His mother had a stroke a little over two years ago because of the way she ate. She has since gotten into great shape by exercising and giving up some of the old favorites. My husband is at high risk for strokes too. He was diagnosed with high blood pressure and high cholesterol about 4 months ago. It worries me that he is going to die from a severe stroke or heart attack if he keeps on going down the path that he is. It keeps me up at night because I worry so much. He doesn't think it's a big deal, but it is. He is only 29.
MOM2BOYS1975 3/13/07 3:13 P
My husband has some weight to lose too. Luckily I'm the one that cooks, so I don't have that dilemma. If he is making things that you really don't want to fit into your calorie range why not just tell him to cook for himself and you can do the same. Or even make suggestions on things you might like to have, if he will make healthier sides you can always have extra veggies. I know I really like the single size portions of chicken I can find at the store and make just for myself.
As for him changing, I'm afraid the more you push the more likely he is to stay just the way he is. I wish my hubby would adopt healthier eating other than at dinner (when he doesn't have a choice) I also wish he would exercise. He talks about it, he'd like to lose, but really doesn't do anything about it. I just keep doing what I'm doing and hope that he will eventually follow. I wouldn't have appreciated him suggesting I should change my eating/exercise habits before I was ready.
My hubby wants the junk I'm trying to keep out of the house too. We have compromised on that. He doesn't do it nearly as often as he used to. So when he does I can either choose to indulge, or avoid it like the plague.
LUCKY_DUCK 3/13/07 2:14 P
I have been trying to eat healthy and exercise for quite some time now. I got married five months ago to the most amazing man. He has been incredibly supportive and has helped me in my wieght loss. But there is a problem. Even though I am trying to lose weight and get healthy, my husband does not want to. He keeps telling me that he does want to lose weight and eat right, and then when I offer up suggestions for what we can do, he shoots me down. I know that we both need to lose the weight and exercise, but any time I even mention it he says it's not his thing (unless it is just walking). It makes things very difficult for me because I work long hours and he makes dinner many nights. There is always more food than the two of us need and he can really pack it away. I am not trying to be mean, but it is the truth. He says he supports me, yet he brings junk food and soda into the house constantly. I don't know what to do. It is hard to not try something when it is put so obviously in front of you. I am usually pretty good, but I do slip up. How can I get my husband to see that the bad habits need to stop? He wants to work out, but the only thing he is willing to do is go for a short walk a few nights a week. How can I convince him that more needs to be done? I want him to be able to keep up with the children we are trying to have. He is already at high risk for stroke and he has high blood pressure and cholesterol. I love him too much to watch him do this to himself.
