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SHEILAOEHLER
5/4/07 1:24 P
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| My 10-year-old son is a bed-wetter. Because this is causing him some embarrassment, I was considering trying an alarm. Does anyone have experience with these. - Sheila
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METALLICAMOMMY
4/29/07 8:04 A
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I'm so glad I found this thread. My daughter is 9 1/2, and we still have issues with bedwetting. It seems to occur sporadically. She can have months where she wakes up dry, but then for a week straight she'll wake up wet every morning. We don't even bother with goodnights anymore, since she soaks right through them anyway. I don't allow liquids after 6 pm, and make sure she goes before bed, and it will still happen.
I'm sorry that there are others that are going through this, but I'm also selfish and thankful I'm not alone.
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| My daughter was poddy trained at a early age also. She never had problems wetting the bed. For your daugter just make sure there isn't anything else going on in her life medically, emotionally (stress) first. Then if it is nothing but just wetting the bed and seems to continue. Then I would make it a production in the middle of the night. That is what I did for my son, who is a very heavy sleeper. You could first try getting her use to getting up at a certain hour to go pee. But if she pees don't just move her from her bed to somewhere else while you do all the work. my feeling with my son was to make him aware of the problem. Turn on all the lights, make her take off her closthes, have her help in making the bed. I know alot of parents when this happens continue to let their children sleep while they make the bed and change the child's clothing. I always felt that wouldn't help my child. It seemed to work for me anyways.
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| My 5-year old daughter has started wetting the bed. She has been potty-trained since before her 2nd birthday. What am I to do now?
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| My son is a very deep sleeper. I have tried putting an alarm in his bedroom so he could get him self up for school. It didn't work. He kept sleeping and I had to get up to turn off the alarm. That just example of how he sleeps. Anyways I stopped him from bed wetting at a young age. When he wet his bed at night I made it a production. I turned on all the lights and made him take off his clothes(not me). I would not let him move from one place to another and let him sleep while I made the bed. No he was involved in the entire process. He caught on and quit wetting the bed. Make your daughter take care of the mess in the middle of the night. She will quit. Just make sure she has a matress protector on the bed. Don't have her wear any protection. Let her wear regular underwear to bed. It will take a couple of trys, but it will work.
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| Julie, thanks for the encouragement. Sometimes I get really depressed about it all.
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JULIE_MARTEL
3/12/07 10:15 A
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Good morning to you all. Hope everyone had a great weekend.
Stacey; Keep waking her up during the night. Your doing a great job. Keep up the good work!
Julie
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| ladies....she actually woke dry two days in a row! i will keep waking her up in the middle of the night. i still think it's just a fluke.
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| she has sleepovers and a select FEW friends houses. the moms know, and my daughter is discreet about it. thankfully, i think her friends who do know DON'T tease her about it. but i know she is very self-conscious; very ashamed of it. i do tell her that it's not her fault (just like her asthma isn't her fault) and that i hope she will outgrow it.
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CTSOCCERMOM
3/9/07 2:45 P
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Yah, he is a pretty neat kid and wants to shower in the morning anyway. Another thing that seems to eliminate smell from the sheets and clothes is I put dryer sheets in their dresser drawers and in the linen closet.
I hope he outgrows it soon but from what I read it can be anytime or up until he is a teenager. He handles it well but I wonder if it eats at him on the inside. THe only place he can have a sleepover is @ home or with his other friend that we know has the same problem. I have been all over the internet lately trying to get more information.
His doctor has suggested hipnoysis, I am a little skeptical but at this point anything is worth a try.
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JOHNNYSGIRL06 - the bedwetting just stopped on its own? i'm at my wits end with this. she is 9 and i've done everything you have (except the chiro), and nothing is working.
CTSOCCERMOM - I'm starting the showers in the morning too because of the smell. We usually have the kids take their baths every night, but with her, its a morning shower. I don't want any of the other kids to have a reason to tease her. I was teased at an early age because of a birth mark; the teasing was cruel, and I want to minimize it for her.
I hope she outgrows it too.
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CTSOCCERMOM
3/9/07 12:01 P
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I have an 11 year old with the exact same problem. We have tried everything, including the alarm and has not worked. He is an extremely deep sleeper and the only thing that works is if I wake up during the night and take him to go. But the problem with this is you have to find out when they usually wet the bed and take them right before that time. For me its 2AM. So every night I wake up and take him to the bathroom to go and 50% of the time he is dry.
My son showers every mornign to make sure he does not have any odor. It is very frustrating and we can't wait until he outgrows it. I was told by a friend of mine to try something new, when he has to go during the day to hold it for like 5 minutes and then go. The idea is to train the body to recognize the signal even when they are in a deep sleep. We'll see. Don't take away the goodnights because we have tried that several times and it seems to get worse.
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JOHNNYSGIRL06
3/8/07 1:15 P
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Wow....I just found this post. Oh my goodness how helpful this thread would have been when my children were smaller. My daughter wet the bed until she was 15. EVERY night..... We limited her fluids at least 4 hours before her bedtime. We used the "pull-ups".... She was on medication and we used the bed alarm. NOTHING worked for us!!!! It was so very sad. She was under the care of a doctor from the age of 3-16. We even tried the chiroprator. ( huge waste of money...) As a young mother, it was also very demanding on my marriage. STRESS....STRESS.....STRESS
Her father had little to no patience in handling this problem. Which I had a very hard time understanding since he was a bedwetter until the age of 13.
Some how we all survived....and at the age of 16 it all stopped. Today she is 20 years old and very healthy. However, the doctors have told her that her children may also have the same problems.
She currently has no children and has made the comment that she never will if that is the case.
I truly feel for all of you that are going through this. It is very tough.....I wish you all the very best.
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JULIE_MARTEL
3/6/07 8:37 P
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Good evening ladies...hope everything is going well with the bedwetting situation. It's been over a week now that my son hasn't woken up wet...yeah! I'm so proud of him.
I'll keep you posted...ttyl...Julie
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| thanks! I will definitely talk with her doctor about it. All the help here on SP is amazing!
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http://www.aafp.org/afp/20040301/1147.html
here is one link
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| I did the wake up thing too, and the meds (-both kinds, one for urine production and one for sleep cycle), and the limiting fluids and alarms and everything else anyone suggested. Finally found it was due to sleep apnea as I mentioned previously. If your child snores at all, please ask your doc about this possibility! The initial test for my son was an over night pulse oximeter. The little thing they clip on your finger to check pulse and oxigen levels (taped on for overnight). This was quick, simple and free! It showed his pulse down to 30 and oxygen down to 81! While many kids do out grow enuresis, if they don't have accidents during the day and are bothered by the enuresis and you don't think they just aren't getting up and the typical meds and alarms don't work--please do them a favor and ask your doc about sleep apnea.
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| I've been waking her up every night, and except for the first night, she still wakes up wet. I really hope we can find a solution for this; I don't want her to grow up and still have this problem as an adult.
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JULIE_MARTEL
3/5/07 9:50 A
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That is a great idea about the last pull-ups. What I don't understand is why is it they don't pee when you tell them "we have to save the last pull-ups" and they don't pee at all and some other nights they do pee in their pull-ups. I think they choose to pee or not pee. Does everyone here who has a child with this problem, actually wake them up during the night to pee? If not, I do suggest to start or continue every night.
Thanks again...Julie
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My daughter is turning 6 and she also is a very, very deep sleeper...so we also have a bedwetting issue. She sleeps with pull-ups on every night. Thank God, it is getting better though. I thought it was a little interesting that you mentioned that if/when your daughter wets herself without her goodnights on, she gets up washes etc and goes back to bed. My daughter also will get up eventually at night and change her pullups, if they are wet!
We have tried the route of no pullups, let her wet herself, get up and change all the sheets, wash her up, fix her bed up again, and tuck her back in...ITS HORRIBLE!!!!!!! for us and her! plus, think about it, if she's already overtired when she's going to bed at night (that's why she doesn't get up to use the toilet), disturbing her sleep at night will actually make the problem WORSE :(
my advise would be to put her to be EARLIER. I'm sure that since she's in school full-time, she can't take a nap, but taht might be an option on the weekends, if she wants to have a later bedtime. And one of the moms mentioned putting in a nightlight, we do that as well, and for a long time, I would remind her RIGHT before going to bed that it was there, in case she needed to go to the bathroom.
A lot of this is psychological as well. My sister (who is grown now) used to have this same problem for a long, long time...my mom advised me to not make a big deal out of it for my own daughter. So now I try to just tell her that it's ok if this happens from time to time (although I get frustrated sometimes :(
OOh, and also along the lines of being a psychological issue...funnies discovery was this -- to my surprise, one night my daughter's pullups finished! she had only ONE left, so when I helped her get ready for bed, we talked about how this is her last pullup and she should really try to get up at night to use the bathroom so that she could "save the last pullup"...this last pullup lasted us almost one week...she got up EVERY NIGHT!!! lol
Wish you well!
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I've never seen her have a seizure, but I will definitely talk to her pediatrician about it.
There are days when I just feel like I'm gonna have a nervous breakdown about it; I just feel awful for her.
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SASSYMOMOFPBK
3/4/07 8:25 A
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| stacey I have a child who still has this problem she has seizures you may take her to a neurologist
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| Oh, forgot-the best way I have found to remove the odors is to hang the items in the sunshine after washing---obvioulsy, you would need to hang a lot of laundry out to dry, not just the stuff which had been wet.
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| If your child snores, I would strongly suggest you ask your doctor about sleep apnea. Yes, even in a nine year old. My son is 17--nearly 18 actually. He was just dx with apnea about a year and a half ago. Since he has had surgery and now uses a CPAP he is dry for the first time ever!!! We went through both types of meds and the alarms and all that nothing worked.
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Thanks for all the wonderful advice ladies! Please, keep it coming. I need all the help I can get for her! And if I find any new tips, I will certainly pass it on.
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JULIE_MARTEL
3/2/07 9:41 P
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Just a suggestion---Have a nightlight so you can see your way and wake him up in the middle of the night to go pee and trust me he will.
Talk to you later...Julie
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NOVELTYSTEPH
3/2/07 9:02 P
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I am so glad you posted and will try to remember to look for this thread again. My 8yr old son wets the bed and is such a sound sleeper that he doesn't awaken until morning even if wet. I've tried waking him when I go to bed, but sometimes he does not fully awaken and just stands there after I literally drag him to the bathroom. Now my 3yr old daughter has been waking up wet, too. I've tried my son's alarm clock and while it wakes me up down the hall, it doesn't rouse him at all. The mattress is getting ruined, so I will look into the protector that someone listed *thank you*. Good luck; I wish I had a suggestion, but you are not alone.
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JULIE_MARTEL
3/2/07 4:21 P
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Good afternoon ladies; Sorry to hear about the bedwetting. I have two kids, my son will be 3 yrs old in about two weeks time and I have a 19 mths old girl. I've been toilet training my son for a month now and he is doing very good. I started with giving him a smiley sticker for "pee's" (and 10 smarties) and a ladybug for "poo's" (and 15 smarties). Well, in no time he was going on his own and didn't have to give him anything...yeah! Anyhow, it's been two weeks now that i've been training him during the night. To train him I didn't use pull-ups or goodnights it's with normal boys underpants like Go...Diego...Go or Elmo. He feels like a big boy when he wears them. What I do at night is put his underpants like during the day but I put one of those nylon underpants over them...Hope it makes sense. You can get them at Wal-Mart a package of 3. This way the pee will ony wet his underpants and not his pj's. I don't give him anything to drink after supper and I make him pee before he goes to bed. I go to bed about two hours later and even though he's sleeping I still wake him to pee (and sometimes he doesn't even pee) so I put him right back to bed. So far so good! He wakes up dry the next morning. I think buying Goodnights are a waste of money just like pull-ups. They feel like diapers. I know my son doesn't go into real deep deep sleep like your daughter. I have a niece (8 yrs old) that is the same way but she doesn't wear Goodnights every night. So, why is it fine some nights and not the others. Have you tried just putting girls underpants when she goes to bed and not Goodnights? She won't like being wet so that might just work.
Have a great weekend ladies...Julie
Anyhow,
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| I woke her up again last night, but the good nights was still soaked this morning...but I'll keep trying. I hope something works eventually.
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CHRISTY (MOM2SIX): You know, I don't remember if they checked for a shortened urethra. I'll have to ask her pediatrician about that.
I understand; I've also thrown away ALOT of her clothes because I couldn't get the smell totally out. The febreze laundry additive (it's a blue bottle - not the detergent with the febreze already in it) used to get most of the smell out, but not all.
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You are welcome Stacey. I hope it helps (even if just a little!)
Hang in there,
Kelly
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| This problem can be very upsetting. Arielle (my daughter) still has problems with incontinence even though she's 16 now. However, she had damage to her nerves/bladder because we didn't find the problem sooner. We were fortunate, however, that she did not lose a kidney as they first thought. She had to wear those Poise pads for a couple of years at school, that was no fun. I even had to go a couple of times to take dry clothes for her. And, her urine has a strong odor which means that even after I wash her clothes sometimes they'll still smell. I've thrown away some things because I couldn't get the odor out of them. Any tips for removing odors would be appreciated, btw! I have tried rinsing in vinegar and using that Febreeze wash stuff. No luck. Anyway, there are lots of kids with this problem. I had a friend in school who did and one of the teachers made fun of her. I've often worried about not only the kids but insensitive teachers, too! My friend was an older teenager and still wetting occasionally. I'm guessing your dr. checked for a shortened urethra? That can sometimes be the culprit for girls, too. In the meantime, I think the waking her before you go to bed and letting her body train itself might be a good idea. Just make sure you let her know you are supporting her and no one else needs to know the problem. (It sounds like you are a avery supportive mom as it is!) I haven't heard about the product listed, I wish they'd had that a few years ago! I used to fold sheets with a crib mattress protector across the middle of Arielle's bed so we didn't have to change the whole thing, just the band around the middle. Just another idea. Washing sheets every darn day is no fun!!
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