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| Bre Wow You are doing great keep it you your doing just what it take to make it a lasting journey
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Hi there and welcome,
It is scary to make changes. You have gotten good advise, baby steps, do it for you, stop saying CAN'T or FAIL!
I started in mid January. My biggest thing I have learned here is that I can't fail. If I have an "off" day I can stop, look at what I am doing, find out why and change it. Whatever I have done so far is much better than what I was doing before. I have lost some weight but no inches from my middle. I started to have bad thoughts about that and had to stop myself. Just like LARAINE said you wouldn't allow a friend to talk to you like that. I know I wouldn't even allow my Mom to say things or my Husband! My Mom thinks she is doing right and supporting me but sometimes the things she says are little digs and discouraging. For example, we went grocery shopping when I was visiting her in the beginning of all this. I was there for 2 weeks so we got "healthy" things, items for recipes, and her basket was full. She said, "I sure hope you eat all of this". Well, I just wanted to melt into the ground. Don't know why but it was just like a slap in the face to me. So I turned to her and said I am trying to improve and really needed her support and to please try and say good and encouraging things to help me along. So now I get, how is your weight, have you lost any more lol, what did you fix for dinner, did you get on the treadmill today? I also had to ask my husband for his support. When I first started I asked him to join me, he just looked at me with "that look". He needs this to and I know he will come around once he sees me doing it well. But in the mean time he was offering me a bite of his Ben and Jerry's ice cream or we would be out and he would want to stop for the McD fries. I just couldn't take saying NO anymore! So I decided when we were out eating at a resturant, neutral ground, that I would ask for his support. To please stop asking me if I want a bite of something that he has, to try and thing of good places to eat while we are out, not McD's. He could get those on the way home from work if he wants them. I was polite, I didn't say no or stop or don't, I asked instead of telling. IT WORKED. He forgets sometimes but it helped a lot. He is even now eating my WW ice cream bars instead of Ben and Jerry lol. I have to fight him for the last heath bar toffee WW ice cream bar.
I know I spent a lot of time on here in the beginning, discouraged about entering food, trying to exercise and get that water down. It is a lot of information and can be overwhelming. SO I focused on the eating and drinking water, made small goals, like eat 2 fruits/veggies a day, I wrote down on a piece of paper what I was eating and then would enter it at night. I still have issues trying to figure out numbers if things are all mixed together in a casserole dish. Or what to do if out and no nutritional facts can be found. I measured out everything, got a scale, tore off labels on cans and boxes that I was using to enter info. Once I was comfortable in that I started doing a little exercise. I got a pedometer, and was shocked to see that I was moving so little. I thought with all the running around I do, up and down the stairs, laundry, etc that I was getting my exercise. Well, I wasn't even doing 1000 steps per day. If I went shopping all day and ran my errands I had one day of 5000 steps. That was my wake up call. I knew I had to get moving. So I am on the treadmill 5x a week. I started out very slow and only 15 mins. I am now up to 30 mins and can't start out on the slowest speed anymore. I walk slow, then bump my speed up, and then bump it back down to starting speed. I am up to one mile and a quarter and had my first 7700 step yesterday. I am working my way up to 10000 steps which is the norm they say.
I have done all this in 30 plus days. I did hit a slump, thinking I was ok, not having to write every little thing down, after I hit 30 days. Boy, was I wrong. I read an article that most people quit at that point and I didn't want to. So I jumped back in to writing everything down.
I post on here and read stories on how people have made this work. It really helps. I finally found a couple of people that I can chat with. That took a while but glad I kept trying.
It all works, it just takes time. I wrote a novel I think, sorry.
Bre
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DMCARROLL
2/28/07 10:36 A
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 I know just where you folks are coming from. I've failed so miserably in the past hundred times of dieting. What makes it worse is my doctor told me, people who loose weight usually gain their weight back after two years. I asked if it was because we get comfortable and go back to old behaviors. He said no. No one knows why. I'm feeling go good about myself these days, but that is looming in the middle of my mind. I'm going to keep trying. This sparkpeople is different than anything I've ever tryed before. It is working very positively for me. It's the meal planner, and the resource center. If I can just remember to ask for help when I need it. Geez I'm such a hard head. These message boards are very supportive. Let's all keep up the good work!
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GOGOGIRLR
2/28/07 10:26 A
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Hi Clotho,
Great goal of 10 a month to your birthday!
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GOGOGIRLR
2/28/07 10:24 A
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Hello,
I started exercising 2-3 times a week in late December (once a week with a buddy, which motivated me to begin) and thought I was watching my food intake. By early February I was quite discouraged to note that neither of my two biggies - weight and waistline - had changed much. Then I also found out that my blood pressure is in the pre-hypertension range and my blood glucose level is slightly elevated to boot.Wigged out a bit.
I found out about Sparks via RealAge (which I also higly recommend, especially the RealAge and health quizzes, started exercising 3-4 days per week, increasing cardios from 30 to 60 mintues and watching my food intake for real. I lsot 3 pounds in the past 2 weeks and just this week started to read more articles and to chart my nutrition and exercise with Sparks. Truly "just what I'd been looking for".
Question: Are doing bunches of crunches the best way to whittle down the waistline? Or are losing the weight and doing resistance training more effective?
Thanks - look forward to hearing from the other busy people!
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Hey BBWGOTHPOPPET, I see lots of sig files with the mini goals listed
"Member of the Countdown to Summer Challenge!
Start weight: 270
1st mini-goal: 260 by March 15
2nd mini-goal: 250 by April 15
3rd mini-goal: 240 by May 15
4th mini-goal: 230 by June 15 (my birthday!!)"
Do we learn to do that later, or did you learn that by watching others. I didnt see any write up on that.
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yes i am just getting started i am nervous also i have so many people telling me i cant do this i will always be big a word of encourgment goes a long way hope someone her can support me anyway i am having a time trying to figure out how to chart what i eat and how to keep track of my exercise ant help would be appericated thanks jan
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BBWGOTHPOPPET
2/26/07 7:17 P
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Thanks everyone. :)
I'm only doing one "mini goal" a day. If I try to do more, I end up doing none and feeling awful. :(
And I'm learning. Something new every day whether about my diet, myself, or something completely separate.
Thanks for the support!
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| Rose we all have doubts and fears just take it one step at a time you will make it and if you need a helping hand once in a while just holler I'm around here someplace.
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ROSEELDERS
2/26/07 4:39 P
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I must admit I have just started today and I am frightened, frightened of failing yet again, even before I get started. Gosh what a wimp!!!!!
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Negative emotions, endless self-criticism, obsessing over every little thing you put in your mouth, or even thoughts of despair that despite your very best efforts you might never see any weight loss, all these things can sabotage all our hard work. So when these things get you down like they have me so many times fight back and FAST! All that negativity and the stress it causes only makes losing weight that much harder to do.
Try what I do sometimes take a minute and take some slow deep breaths and try to think about how your really feeling and focus on trying to relax and get back on course. Put a muzzle on that little voice you know that one that is always telling you your fat and your going to fail again at yet another diet. You know I’m sure if you’re like me if that was your best friend telling you that they wouldn’t be our friends for long so if you wouldn’t to put up with that kind of talk from your friend stop taking it from your self. Stop beating yourself up and encourage yourself just as you would that best friend.
Love your self and your body for everything no matter how big or small it might be, and what it can do for you every single day. If you do fall off the wagon don’t beat your self up over it and quickly jump right back on the wagon and keep going. One day and one pound is my motto. We didn’t gain this weight overnight and there is no miracle out there that is going to help us lose it overnight either. All we have to do is want to make a change.
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GINIALEIGH
2/26/07 3:02 P
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YOOPERGAL2
2/26/07 2:09 P
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I know what you are feeling. I had the same feelings when I joined Spark last October. I was at my goal weight a few years ago only to gain it all back again. I started this with the same fears. I have learned so much since being here through the articles, postings and through my own journaling. I've learned that I need to take things slowly, in baby steps and change 1 thing at a time so that it will be a change forever. I still have to remind myself not to get upset when my weight loss is slow, but I lost quickly in the past and gained it all back even more quickly because I hadn't really changed anything. I wish you the best and know that you can make it here on Spark!
Ann
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What makes things different this time? What are you reasons for wanting to lose weight? I think if you help define this for yourself as well as writing down the short and long term things you are going to do to reach your goals you will have better sucess.
Make sure you are losing for yourself, not anyone else. You can't just do it to look better, or be healthy.......be more specific, think deep about WHY you want to lose weight. Keep these things in front of you (bathroom mirror is great) everyday so you don't forget!
You can do it....just stay focuse on your goal daily.
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BBWGOTHPOPPET
2/25/07 11:08 P
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And I admit that I am scared to death. I don't want to fail again. I'm so full of disgust with myself these days.
It's not a good cycle and I need to break it! Help!
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