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| Im sorry to hear about your son's injury. Good Luck with the talking.
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| Well, it looks like wrestling season is over for my son for this year. His fingers got sprained yesterday at the meet. Luckily they are not broken. The other wrestler accidently stepped on my son's hand. This was the first time that my son has cried during a match, so I knew that he was hurt. I guess we'll have a long talk next year before practices start up again to decide what to do.
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Sorry, I seem to be in a minority. I think that you are the adult and the parent with resonable grounds for concern about his well being and I think it may be your responsibility to be more determined to get him into another sport. Not watching it doesn't mean he's not doing it. 'Hooked on' might be a more accuate description than you think.
On the other hand there are also a great deal of activities that many teenage boys are into that are a great deal more damaging on every level.
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MPRINCESS2
3/12/07 12:22 P
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Good luck!
I have a 10yo daughter in karate and she loves her classes but hates tournaments. As long as your son is happy with his progress and knows he can do another sport, I think it's ok to let him continue. maybe ask him why he likes it so much? Maybe he's trying to reach a personal goal?
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| I encourage him to try other sports, but he seems to be hooked on wrestling. He plays football, and basketball. We haven't been to any meets in the past couple of weeks because of snow, I guess we'll see what happens next meet. Maybe my teen will practice with him some more at home and help him out.
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My 9-year-old son races motocross...he's good at it, and so even though I know the potential for injury is there, I make sure he has all his protective gear on and let it go (I ride too, but I don't race).
You wouldn't believe the criticism I get from some parents, who act as though I've fed my child to the wolves. To be honest, I've seen more injuries on soccer fields (where I coach and referee) than in motocross, because of the attention that's paid to safety.
To the wrestling mom, I really wonder why your son is so attached to a sport where he seems to be constantly outmatched. Have you asked him about trying another sport? Maybe he feels he's invested so much into wrestling that he can't give it up. I personally would try to get the kid involved in something else he might be better at, and see if he doesn't have more fun if he's not always on the losing end.
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GINIALEIGH
2/20/07 2:53 P
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| My son started out playing flag football at age 7. They have weight restictions on who can carry the ball. I think by starting out early he learned how to play and was able to keep from any injuries (so far)
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GINIALEIGH
2/20/07 2:50 P
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| I have always told my children you can do whatever you put your mind to do. My son plays HS football, basketball,baseball and track. He has all A's and 1 B in school. It is so hard to get him everyplace he wants to go and be. Somedays I cringe at one more sporting event. It makes it all worth while when he looks at me in the stands and gives me a thumbs up. If I am not there my husband is always there. I have a daughter who dances on a competitive dance team and is a competitive cheerleader as well as school cheerleader. She is on the school tennis team. Her grades are good as well. Somedays I think it is too much but they live for it. I see their friends that are not as active getting into trouble. Having your older son go to the wrestling matches and helping out is a wonderful idea. Hope everything works out.
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MOM2BOYS1975
2/20/07 2:26 P
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I was in karate while in highschool and I was actually pretty good at it. As the only girl in my family nobody was thrilled with me being in it. My grandparents hated it. Everyone still supported me and celebrated my successes. Now that I know how little everyone liked it, yet they still supported me it means the world to me.
As a parent now I see what a gift my parents and family gave to me by standing by and letting me do what I wanted. I'm trying to remember this as I cringe because my 5 year old wants to play football. 
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| I had a talk with my son, and he understands why I don't like watching him. He told me not to worry, it isn't as bad as it looks. I guess I'll just take him to the tournaments that hubby can't go to. It's not right to make him stay home just because I don't like it. My older son has agreed to come to the tournaments that hubby can't go to. That way I can stay up in the bleachers while my older son coaches my younger son next to the mats. I think that this is a good solution for now, even though I'm still afraid of him getting hurt.
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| My situation is totally different. I have an ex-husband that will not let the children play any sport. I have signed them up for anything that they want to try as long as it does not interfear with his schedule. I as a child was not able to do sports and when I got into high school I chose not to do any sports because of the fear of not knowing the games and found other activities such as getting into trouble because I had too much time on my hands. I support that children play sports and they do need to try different things though. They think they can only do one and they get stuck there. It breaks my heart for the children to ask why their Father refuses to see their accomplishments. Win or Loose
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My baby brother and I went through this - I am so much older than him I'm like a mom. He got injured a lot, and was not good at football, but still chose that over cross country, which he was REALLY GOOD at.
I expressed my views and concerns for him, and then I let it go. He played sophomore year, too, but then jr and sr he did cross country.
It's tough to know what to do. Best of luck. If you are the praying type I would definitely lift it up in prayer.
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I know what you mean, my 15 year old wants to box. I haven't supported him with that choice yet. Im still thinking about it.
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GINIALEIGH
2/20/07 12:35 A
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| It is hard as a parent to see our children not making the right chooses. If he seems to like it let him do it. The exercise is good and if he really loves it he will enjoy it. Try talking to him. Is he doing it for some other reason. Is his best friend active in the sport or is he trying to impress a girl. My son and daughter both play sports. Somedays I just would love for them to cut back. Mine love it. Team sports are wonderful for kids. It keeps them busy and out of trouble.
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| My child has been wrestling for a few years now. I've never really liked it, and he's not all that good at it. He tries hard, but the older he gets, the more matches he loses. He says that he still enjoys it, but this last weekend he got pinned all three matches, and ended up crying with a bloody nose on the last match. I told my hubby that I can't deal with watching the tournaments anymore. I'll gladly take him to practice, but I don't like watching him get twisted around like a pretzel in the tournaments. My hubby is not too pleased with me, because some of the tournaments are on days when hubby works, and I won't take my son unless I am forced. Am I wrong in this? I know it's not all about winning, but if he's not improving at it, shouldn't he try something else?
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