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Ladies,
Hang in there. I was once a single mom and I remember having all of the same feelings and fears that you have shared here. I was lacking confidence in my body and every other aspect of life. Every time I started to get down and feel sorry for myself, I looked at that little boy of mine. It was the motivation I needed to get through each day.
Now, I am remarried and have two more children. I am much more confident about myself. It took a long time to get from there to here (13 years) but I made it. I have every confidence that each of you will get there too! Just keep holding your head up high, think of the positives about yourself before the negatives (so what if your belly jiggles a little? Do you have great hair? A beautiful smile? A sense of humor that people adore?) Draw strength from your assets and eventually things will fall into place. Best of luck to each one of you!!!
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A_GROVE84
3/19/07 10:50 P
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| I ma also a single mom of a 2 yr old boy...and I have the same confidence problems with men...i feel like they should love me for who I am, not what i weigh, but in the back of my mind, i always think..." who wants an overweight girlfriend with all that responsibiblity", especially since I am only 23 and most men my age don't even WANT kids yet....
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HRTM@XTRA.CO.NZ
2/15/07 5:49 A
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Men love fertile women with evidence, and hips and small tummy pouches. My mother told me, and I believe her (even though shes biased).
I have stretch marks forever, and trust me - these are not the hurdles you may believe. It is a loss of confidence, and little esteem that deters.
I believe you are most definitely on the right path..
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HRTM@XTRA.CO.NZ
2/15/07 5:41 A
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Karmicsoul - what a beautiful user name. Is it then do you think that life is a journey?
Ohh an ramble - cos you will find that I do to on occasion....And I am keeping my chin up 
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HRTM@XTRA.CO.NZ
2/15/07 5:38 A
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Time without the children is such a precious thing isn't it. If I can't see my own I can bloody hear them. I do love them - don't get me wrong. Its tough being on your own - my own now lives in a seperate suburb 30min away - and our relationship has improved immensely. No screaming, yelling, threatening, and my own financial seperation has meant that I don't have to keep quiet when he does something that I don't agree with like spending all his money on things we don't need (before the bills), and the price I paid forthis is that now I have sole charge of my children.
But you know what? I already had full care of these wee things anyway- even when we were together.
I refuse to be broken
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HRTM@XTRA.CO.NZ
2/15/07 5:30 A
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you sound in need of some TLC - busy being there for everyone. Feel free to unload your stress - you are most welcome, as I believe that it saps you of energy.. and the more you can release the pressure from the proverbial pot, the less likely it will become messy.
We all need to find time (not a lot) for only ourselves.
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RAVENSFAN1
2/10/07 9:46 A
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| Hello and Good morning..I'm new to this site but love it already.. I'm divorced 40 something with 2 boys 13 and 10... I just need a support system to be able to unload my stress into and be a much healther happier person...well have to go drive my boys to the movies to meet there friends... will write more later...
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SCUBAGIRLSD
2/7/07 5:55 P
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Hi all, I'm also a single mom, I have 5 yr old boy/girl twins. The only time I have to work out is during my lunch hour. How sad is that, only 1 hour out of 24 that I can call my own.  It's been tough lately, I'm still dealing with my ex on issues with the kids, and he still lies, cheats and steal to get his own way, sometime I feel like the stess of it is just going to break me.
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Just like everyone else here I am a single mom w/ 3 wonderful kids. I have been raising them all on my own all their life(my last 2 were results of flings, to much partying in my younger days, not proud of that, but proud of the results....my babies.) Anyway I have just recently decided that I want more outta life then a job at Walmart, so I went back to school. I worked my schedule so that I have fri-sun to spend w/ my kids, but I don't see them mon-thurs (my mom watches them), but in Sept when I grad I will be a LMT and my family will be so much better of for it.
In the mean time I also need to lose some weight, 61 pounds by graduation would be great! stress is the name of the game-- my number one adversary and if anyone can help w/ topics to help relieve that I am sure we all could benefit from it.
So chin up and think of how much more fun you will have being able to keep up w/ your kids, use them to help you attain your goals, I know I do!
P.s sorry if I just seem to ramble my thought process isn't the greatest this early in the morning (it doesn't kick in til 8am LOL
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| I am also a single mom, early 30s, feel like my tummy is ruined forever. Everything is just a little bit harder for us: finding time to work out, eating right, "me-time". Sometimes I get really down about it. And then I think, how much sweeter will my success be when I reach my goal?! I am also studying for a Master's. Everyone else takes two classes at a time, but I can only handle one. Who cares? When I'm done, I'm done. I will have to fight harder, perhaps give up a little more to lose this weight, but when it's lost, it's lost. And if I can't find a man willing to look beyond the stretch marks, then there are none left worth having. However, I believe I will meet one, one day. He will be attracted to a slim, fit, goal-reacher - and mother to a wonderful little boy.
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LIESELMECH
1/29/07 11:17 P
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I am also a single mom and it's not easy carring on a full time job, full time school, and full time mom, but some how I do it. I can't find the time to go to a gym and I try to do what I can here. I really like this site. It showed me that I'm not the only one with this problem. 
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| I can relate to you guys. I let myself go and I'm 30. I never thought at 30, that I would look like this! I gained 70+ pounds with my pregnancies. If I don't get it off, I'm wasting my life.
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ALESIA_LEE
1/25/07 8:01 P
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| Laides...I know you feel. My boyfriend and I aren't married yet and we aren't living together so 95% of my life is led as a single mom. I feel like my body is ruined. In fact, I know my stomach is. Its...disgusting and its so depressing. I just wish I felt beautiful and confident again. The sad thing is, I'm only 21 and I feel as though my body is ruined.
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ORCHIDLOVEMAMA
1/25/07 1:55 A
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"Because I hide from all the other mums that are trim and toned and energetic with their children - because secretly this is what I wish for myself".
Wow. That crushed me because those are the words I think to myself all the time. I cherish every moment with my children but I feel ashamed when I am around some of my friends who are beautiful, toned women with more children then me. At first I thought it was an age barrier (I am much younger) but then I realized I was upset I wasn't equally 'fit'.
You say you have children? How old are they? My best supporter is my son who'll be four this March. He's very advance and the stuff he says is so awesome. Ie. "Mama, your tummy bounces like a ball". As much as it stabbed me in the heart, it kind of made me think, Okay, yes i JUST had a baby but still - it's now or never.
We have pedometer contests, we dance around like nuts to the Wiggles, we "race" up the stairs, around the house etc, we stretch together in the morning, and we play airplane,(for about 3 years - I hold his hands and use my feet to lift him up in the air). My ONLY source of exercise now is what I do with him, and the lifting/carrying on my baby girl!!
My MSN/Email is pinkribbonscars@hotmail.com if you ever need to vent/speal about your day whether good or bad. Sometimes it's nice to have someone to say the most random things to; a boost of confidence never hurts anyone!
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ROBSPRAGUE
1/23/07 2:13 P
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Well, you've found the right place for support, but you'll have to work a bit to get it:
1. Join a TEAM
2. Setup your nutrition and exercise plan
3. Lose a pound or 2 a week - no more than that
4. Help others
5. Have great fun.
And do not forget, just about everyone is diagnosed with SOMETHING these days.
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HRTM@XTRA.CO.NZ
1/22/07 6:14 A
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Well...hi...I feel like I have a little stage fright. I was diagnosed with a medical conditiom in 2003, and my medication has made me put on over 20Kg (approx 45lb) over the last 4 years. In addition two pregnancys and I have never felt so physically and mentally out of control with my weight gain.
I need to lose this weight. To look good again, improve my esteem and confidence and to be a good role model for my children as they grow. Because I hide from all the other mums that are trim and toned and energetic with their children - because secretly this is what I wish for myself.
And I need support. From friends, new and old, because my experience of this journey of regaining my former health...on my own... is extremely hard. Are you looking too?
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