  |
|
VEXEDANGEL
1/20/07 6:27 P
|
|
|
|
Congrats on committing yourself to a new lifestyle, and not letting them bring you down! I know it is frustrating. My husband is in much better shape than I, and he unconsciously sabotages me b/c he can get away with a lot that I can't. :-)
I know when I was still living at home and first became truly healthy, my parents also gave me a hard time--to the point of sneaking in foods they knew I didn't want to eat into whatever my Mom made. So I began making my own dinners. Soon, I was able to move out, and that helped a lot. Now it's just tricky when I go home. ;-)
You can do it! Keep doin' what you're doin'!
|
|
AMYS2PEANUTS
1/20/07 6:16 P
|
|
|
|
I'm in agreement about them not being supportive and undermining your efforts because they feel threatened. I did the same thing to my husband over the past year while he exercise and lost 25 pounds and I just didn't have it in me yet to do what I needed to do. I hated myself, so I'd tease him and do the opposite of whatever he was doing. Stupid, I know, but our minds work in weird ways, especially when we're feeling threatened or defensive. So, look at them with a different perspective, steel your resolve to just keep going regardless of what they buy, eat or do. I bet that eventually, they'll grudgingly come around and even be proud of your accomplishments.
Good for you!!!
|
|
|
|
| Actressgeek just keep doing what you are doing you will be so much healthier for it! You are doing the right thing this website has lots of supportive people to help you out. Who knows maybe they will join in with you when they see your weight loss. Good Luck never give up!
|
|
FOGCITYGIRL
1/20/07 1:02 P
|
|
|
|
I live with my extended family, and although we generally buy organic, healthy food, somehow multiple bags of chips, boxes of ginger cookies, crackers, fatty cheese, etc wind up in the house. I find that whenever someone in the house brings home crap food, it's not usually intentional, and a casual-"Hey-you wanna visit me in the bariatric ward next week?" usually is enough to make them hide it.
Good luck!
|
|
|
|
EVERYONE needs support as they go on their weight loss journey. Do your very best to ignor what is said and done by your family that hinder your healthier progress.
Sparkpeople is a great place to track your progress as well as find motivation and help with your goals. I know you can do it!
|
|
SPIDEYSMOM
1/20/07 11:25 A
|
|
|
|
| Honestly, anytime I have anyone tease me, I usally realize that they are just jealous that I am trying to get healthy and they are no where near. The biggest example are my motherin law and brother in law. They like to bug me, but they are near or closing in on 400lbs each. NEVER exercise, sleep all the time, eat fast food every day. I am just hoping some of my better habits can rub off on them.
|
|
|
|
My husband teases me about always checking hte calorie content on EVERYTHING in the house!!! But other than that, everyone has been pretty supportive! Just tell them that you are trying to get healthy, and that yopu want to feel better about yourself, and that they aren't helping any, then SHOW THEM!!! (I bet they join in!)
|
|
|
|
Im getting that alot too, so I just make my own dinner in the evening and stay away from what my family are eatting! But I think me turning healtier is starting to rub off on my family, wait til you see it wont be long until your family start asking you for advice when they see it working for you! 
|
|
ACTRESSGEEK
1/19/07 4:20 P
|
|
|
|
| Thanks everyone. I love that everyone here is so encouraging and supportive. You guys are great and I feel that I can do this thanks to you guys, no matter what my family says.
|
|
WOODSYGIRL
1/17/07 7:52 P
|
|
|
|
Some people tend to feel very threatened when someone tries to better themselves, whether it be weight loss, smoking, taking a class, etc. They feel you won't be the same person or say, if food is something you have in common with someone such as going out to eat regularly, they fear that connection will be lost. And sadly for some people, they turn in towards themselves and see that perhaps they, too, could do something to better improve their lives, so they get defensive and lash out. You, my dear, need to keep doing what you're doing. There will always be detractors who will try to sabotage your efforts, but you can rise above that. Why? Because for as many people who are making negative comments to you and trying to get into you head to keep you from succeeding for yourself, there are THOUSANDS of people on this site who are supporting you, praying for you, encouraging you and are happy as all get-out when you achieve one of your goals (even something as small--albeit very significant--as drinking your water for the day). Your support and fan base will never lead you astray, will never discourage you and will always be there for the great celebrations and the rough and tumble times. Remember that you are literally a few keystrokes away from someone who cares about YOU and YOUR progress always. Best wishes to you!!!
|
|
ACTRESSGEEK
1/17/07 7:07 P
|
|
|
|
They just think that I shouldn't bother because I'm never going to have a great shape. I understand this and accept this, but, like NORAHD said, I'm doing it to be healthier. I've seen a lot go through my family due to weight issues and I don't want to turn out like that.
I'm just glad that I have everyone on here to turn to. I've been reading a lot of the message left on the boards and they really do help. I've done pretty well so far, I don't want to ruin this. And I have quite a ways to go.
|
|
|
|
Well, that's just sucky. Have you asked them why they're not supporting you? Do you have a history of "diets" that you haven't followed through with or something, and they're doubting your commitment?
Maybe explain to them that you're not "dieting" but trying to eat healthier, and it's not a temporary thing. This is important to you, and something you're trying to work at. IF they can't support you, maybe they can at least stop the sabbotaging...
|
|
MISTRYANGEL
1/17/07 5:42 P
|
|
|
|
That's horrible. Hopefully this site will be really helpful in supporting your choice to lose weight. Maybe your family is being like that because they themselves don't have the motivation to better themselves so they scrutinize you because you do kind of like they are sabatoging you in order to feel better about themselves because they don't want to see you be successful. Well in any case I wish you lots of luck with your progress and just remember when they make you feel bad just login here i am sure it will cheer you right up!
|
|
ACTRESSGEEK
1/17/07 5:26 P
|
|
|
|
I'm being made fun of by my own family because I'm trying to lose weight. I still live with my parents and brothers, and they always buy chips, cookies, muffins, doughnuts, etc.
My mom even made fried chicken for dinner and she knows I'm trying to cut out stuff like that!!! Grrr!
|
|
