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This is so true..
It is not selfish to take time for you...
Take a mommy time out and do something just for you..
Caeryl
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NISSENSLTZ9
5/14/07 11:46 A
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| I hear you. Sounds like you desperately need a Mommy time out. Do it--figure out a way to get 1/2 a day back for you. One whole day would be better. Get your break and see what it does for you. GET AWAY FROM YOUR HOUSE AND YOUR kids AND REFILL YOUR LAMP. You'll come back with so much more for everyone (including yourself), I promise.
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I understand where you are coming from. I know that I gained my weight while my youngest was very ill..
I had a wake up call not to long ago... and the doctor and I are working together on this. I had put myself last...
Now i am working on myself.. and even though we will continue to have issues with my youngest daughter, I will make certain that we eat right.. and I find the time to excersise..
I am now finding that I can handle the stress better..
Caeryl
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No matter how over weight each of us are we feel the same about the weight. I am 5'2" and 167. The most I have ever weighed in my life. I do worry about not getting a grip on it, I don't know how this could have happened. stress is a major problem. I thought I was handling it but guess what I didn't handle it at all. I have serious problems with my son and until I can get him some help, I just can't think about myself. 24-7 my thoughts and emotions are on my son.
We're in this boat together and I am soon going to get serious on losing weight. I wish you all luck on reaching your goals.
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TRIPLEANGELL
5/4/07 12:37 A
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Good for you for not giving up! I think we all have times like that and it can help to be honest and just say what you're feeling. It sounds like you are doing much better now.
Just take it one small step at a time. I know myself I've gone through highs and lows lately but I just have to remember this is a life change and not a "quick fix" (although sometimes I really want it to be!)
I hate the days where I feel like crap and just want to pack it all in. But it does make me feel thankful when I'm going through a more "motivated" phase :o)
Good luck and don't give up! Every pound counts!
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MARLISOLD7040
4/30/07 4:09 P
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Hey girls,
I am down to 222.5 now. I am thinking that my scale was wrong or something. Anyway, the thing is... I know I am doing it right. It has been twelve days and I have stayed on track every single day. I have not cheated once. I do worry that I will stop losing weight. Like maybe I am a freak and no matter what I do I won't lose it. I do my best to push those thoughts away when they creep in. I take one day at a time and when I am feeling weak I just work through it. So far, so good. I am thinking about having lunch with our friends on Friday and have an overwhelming fear that if I eat something that is not "diet" food I am going to fall off the wagon. I keep telling myself that if I can go twelve long days, I can have a restaunt meal and jump back on track.
Kate, I love when there is someone I can relate to. I hope that you can get in your groove and if you ever need support I am here.
Marli
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KATEWITH5
4/25/07 10:03 A
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| I can relate with you, I almost thought that maybe I posted that message without realizing it. I weigh 268 pounds and feel very overwhelmed by the fact of that and how fat I look. I want to feel good and look good. I want to be healthy and active. However, food is a comfort when I'm stressed. Lately, it's my boys who make me feel that way, usually it's bills, money or whatever other reason that crops up. The point is, there will always be a reason and I'm not saying I'm perfect at this, (cause I'm not...to be honest I just ate a steak, egg and cheese mcmuffin from Mcdonalds and I feel guilty for doing so) The thing is, when we fail, we need to not wallow in that failure but go on and say Okay, I missed it, but I'm gonna try again. It takes alot of self control and self denial of the things that hinder our loosing weight. So, for the rest of the day, I will be concious of what I put into my mouth and drink more water instead of Dr.Pepper. I would also make a plea for anyone who will help me be accountable daily with the eating right and exercising. motivation is a hard thing. And while a person may want to look and feel good, doesn't nessacerily(is that spelled right?) mean that they have the willpower to do so. This is a big battle, yet I know there is hope. A Baby step, like I read in previous messages will probably be the biggest step a person can choose to make. Thanks for letting me ramble on and Lord bless ya in your loosing weight.
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| Marlisold7040 - Glad to hear your working on changing your life style. I won't comment on the temporary weight gain (YES, YOU NEED TO MAKE IT TEMPORARY)- lots and lots of other posts about that subject. I just wanted to congratulate you on not letting it get you down and slipping into self-pity!. GREAT JOB keep up the POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
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MARLISOLD7040
4/24/07 11:03 A
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I know a ton of time has gone by. I still want to write and let you all know that what you said really helped. I am working very hard on losing a few pounds. I weighed myself the other day and I was 221.5 (I got up to 235) and today I weighed in again. I was 226.5! How does that happen? I have been eating extremely heathy. Anyway, it hasn't gotten me down...yet. I am still going to keep plugging along.
Anyway, I truly appreciate your responses. It helped.
Mara
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I hear you! Oh BOY do I hear you! When I was about 165, it drove me crazy when my skinny friends complained about how fat they were. When I was 265, I would have given anything in the world to be 165 again! I still have a very hard time relating to people who call being 5-15 pounds overweight "fat". Even though I only have about 30 pounds left to lose now, I still can't relate to the people who only have that little to lose and have never been any bigger.
These are the two things I did when I decided to change my life: (1) I changed my self-talk. I used to look at myself in the mirror and literally think to myself, "I hate you. You're a loser." I had to stop that. It wasn't easy. I still catch myself falling into negative self-talk ten years later. But it was the most important change I could make. I had to learn to like myself, and I had to decide that I was worth the effort of thinking and eating healthy. (2) I made small attainable goals. I call them micro-goals now. You've heard the saying that every journey starts with the first step? My micro-goals were those first steps. I'd tell myself I only needed to walk to the mailbox then I could turn around. Once I got to the mailbox, I could either turn around, or decide to go a little farther. Some days, the mailbox was the best I could do, and that was okay. Some days, I made it all the way around the block -- but I never set out thinking "I need to walk around the block" I just set out with the goal to walk to the mailbox. Each time you meet a micro-goal it will build a little positive momentum. Eventually you'll build up enough positive momentum to increase your goals. It doesn't matter whether it takes you days, months, or years, you can do it.
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TEXASGRAMS8
1/26/07 2:10 P
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We all certainly have our highs and lows. Sometimes we make the mistake of comparing our own weight with others and that can be grueling to see a girl at 135 and want to be 115. But she has her issues and I have mine. This board is about us all coming together and uplifting and supporting the best we can no matter what the numbers on the scale are.
You CAN do this. One step at a time. I just started 8 days ago so I am new at this, but I have 70 pounds to lose too. I KNOW what it looks like to see 70 ponds ahead of me and what a long road that seems like right now.
But I got up and walked today when I am achey and sore and I am 48 and feeling like I am 80. I lifted those weights and thought my arm would break but I got through it.
You can do it....baby steps are better than none at all.
Heck, just posting your feelings is a good thing! Reaching out to others to say your having a bad day or bad week! We can certainly relate.
Girls at 135 can be depressed about their weight too. When I was 135 I quit breastfeeding my son because I was so "fat" and I am 5 foot 7. But it was really hard for me. I had all the same thoughts then as I do now 20 years later...and believe me I am A LOT heavier now!
Just read some posts and try to get uplifted even a bit. Do something kind for yourself and KNOW there a so many of us out there that are struggling each and every day. Your not in this alone.
Laurie
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well i'm 135 and still need to lose weight but wt ur attitude i'd probably go back to 165 lbs instead of down to 120...ps: I'm 5'2" and at 165 i was obese
u don't need to go cold turkey on everything. start small. drink ur water this week. then , next week, start walking. or do some work in the house, i know it sucks. i'm a wife and i work and i'm still in school. so i need to work , study and keep the house clean and both of us fed.
read the motivational articles and if that's not enough why don't u ask ur doctor abt the medical problems associated wt being overweight. u'll probably get scared enough to do something. if not, well, we can't push u to start a healthy life style, only ur HEAD can do that for you.
also i second the 10% goals. don't look at the overall picture, trust me, 45 lbs was overwhelming for me as well. so first i tackled the 10% loss. when that was done i went for the healthy BMI range...now, i'm trying to get to the ideal weight.
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ALAINAK99
1/20/07 11:49 P
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| You're reaching out and that's a start. Do you have any hobbies that will connect you to others on the board? Join a team that sounds good to you. We all want success for each other. Look on yourself with love. K
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ORANGESTAR17
1/19/07 11:56 A
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One thing I will say is not to look at it immediately as "I can't lose 70 pounds, that's a lot". Focus on 5 or 10 pounds and go from there.
And also remember that women who now weigh 165 didn't necessarily all weigh that weight. For example, I weigh 159. However, 7 months ago when my daughter was born, I weighed 190. I've only gotten here over time!
I definitely wish you good luck with your life and your weight. I hope that soon you will start to feel a little bit better. :-)
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MOM2BOYS1975
1/18/07 5:26 P
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That's great that you can be honest. I know there are days where that's really how I feel. I did find that after I started moving and eating healthier I felt physically better. As for the eating.... it is so so difficult some days. I'm wondering if you jumped right in trying to do it all at once? Then it can really seem overwhelming.
As for the people that weigh less... Oh ya it can be very frustrating to see someone that has so little to lose, or already weighs less than you wanting to be thinner. I've tried to put it into perspective...You don't know how tall those people are or what frame size they have. My neighbor is 5'6" (same as me) and is 165, she looks chunky. At 165 I look very slim. So the people you are seeing even at 140 or whatever might be small boned where they do look quite heavy. Another thing I think of is if i had started really really trying to do something when I hit 175 or whatever I never would have gotten where I am now.
Jamie- Actually my midwife recommends 175 for me and I'm 5'6". She said at this point with all the exercise I do she doesn't think I could possibly even get to 160. I am broad shouldered and build muscle very easily... guess it's all those eastern european genes! 
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BIRDIE2006
1/18/07 8:58 A
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| it sounds like that you might be depressed. i know how you feel though i have to lose 1/2 of me too and thinking about that is scary. take it slowly i would rather sit around too but i havebeen doing this for a week now and it starting to become second nature. i binged last night and felt so sick afterward it was not funny. a week ago i would not have felt sick and eaten more. you will be ok just hang in there
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LANEYBUGMOM22
1/17/07 4:20 P
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Do you think it is possible you have depression? Just the way you describe yourself says to me that you may. Maybe you should see someone.
It doesn't do any good no matter what weight you are to call yourself fat. I did start at 165, and that is not a healthy weight for me or anyone who is 5'6" for that matter.
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DARSLOSINIT
1/17/07 3:06 P
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Good for you for being honest! I know its hard. I have 1/2 my weight to lose. I have to lose an entire person! Start making mini goals for yourself. I've made a goal to lose 10% of my current body weight. At first that was 26 lbs. I've also gone to Goodwill to buy a pair of pants that I can fit into, but are way too tight to move or breathe. Each week I'd try them on. Oh the joy when I could comfortably fit into them. I'd then get rid of the pants that were too big for me. No going back. Are you getting enough sleep or water? Both of those things can affect our emotions. You need to tell yourself over and over that you are beautiful and strong. Eventually you'll believe it. Say to yourself, "I make wise food choices and diligently move my body." You really can do it, please don't give up. I can only say this because I know EXACTLY what you mean.
~Darlene
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Well that attitude will get you nowhere. And just because someone has less weight to loose does not make it any easier believe me. Just do it - that's what I have to do. I know you probably don't want to hear it from me because I'm one of the people you are referring to that is in a lower weight range but it's still hard. I don't like exercising everyday or eating healthy but I know it's what's best for me. Just gotta do it. I hope you feel better and don't be depressed, we all share the same goal and are here to help one another. If you have to do it you might as well get excited about it. Good luck on your journey.
I forgot to mention you are not a looser.
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MARLISOLD7040
1/17/07 2:19 P
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| I am a loser. (not in the good way). I suck at dieting. I am tired. I can't get motivated. I can't even fake being upbeat on this message board. I want to eat and watch tv and sleep. I don't want to do chores or clean. My eyes are droopy and hurt. I am irritable. I am not motivated. I am angry that I can't eat and if I do it makes me fatter. The site depresses me too. Everyone is all happy and motivated and losing weight. There are people that are 165 that are saying "Oh, I am so fat!" Well try being over 200! Just think... I have to lose 70 pounds just to be 160!!! 70 pounds! Do you hear me?
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