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ROBSPRAGUE
1/23/07 2:16 P
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| Please give her a great reference and, in it, refer gently to her loss. Let the professionals decide with her what she is ready for.
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| As long as the day care knows what happened they can be the one to decide if she should be a worker or not. i can't imagine the devestation one would feel if a child went first. A friend of mine just told me her 6 yr old's best friend was killed tonight. The Mom may not live and the Dad is in Iraq.
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BIRDIE2006
1/21/07 6:02 P
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| as the mother of a child that passed away let me tell you that working with kids helped me through my greif. i lost my son 3 monthes before he was to turn 3 and at that time i was going to school to become a special education teacher. during this time i was doing my required work at the schoold daycare center. the school told me that i could stop working there and still get my credits. as my son was disables and thechildren at this daycare were all disabled too(varying degrees) well i chose to stay and being around the other kids helped me to move on. i dont mean forget but to be able to function while i was coping with his death. as i dont know your friends state of mind right now let me say that just becuase she has recently lost a child does not mean that she would not be caple of handeling other peoples children, at the time that i contuined to work at the daycare there were others who thought the way that some of you are thinking too... just to give another opion on the subject.
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TRIPLEANGELL
1/15/07 10:07 P
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| That's a tough one. It might help her a little to be with other babies but like someone else said she might develop bonds with other people's babies and feel the loss all over again. I would talk to her about it and see where her head is. In the end only she can know if it's something she is ready for.
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| I also agree with a support group. But also, I has a friend who lost her baby too, at the time she worked in a daycare with lots of other little children. She took some time off work, about a month and came back. She did have some hard days but it also helped her deal with things too.
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The kind of loss your friend has had is devastating to one's emotional well-being. While I think that her motives are good, it may be too early for her to do this. She may develop strong attachments to someone elses child, and when they go home, she may feel that loss all over again.
I think anyone who has suffered such a loss, should seek a support group or group counseling so that she can really get her grief out in the open and examine it before moving on to do volunteer work.
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| I would try to direct into a local support group or on online. I found some great online support after losing a pregnancy. I think it may not be the healthiest or safest idea for her to work in the infant room and would not support a recomnedatation for her at this time. Those are other people's children, entrusting them with hopefully mentally stable and healthy adults. Tough situation and I send your friend all my prayers. I can't begin to imagine the depths of her pain.
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SKIINGBABE
1/14/07 4:46 P
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| I have a friend who lost her infant several months ago. She wants a reference to volunteer in the infant room at a daycare. I am not sure she's mentally in the right place but she wants to hold a baby and help a baby so badly. Any thoughts on this?
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