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| I would like one more child. I have a son already (19 mns). I do not want an odd # of kids. I grew up with 2 other siblings and when we fought it was always 2 against 1. My siblings and I are all 3 yrs apart. I want mine to be 3-5 yrs apart. People tell me not to wait that long. I've seen friends that have a 1.5-2 yr old and a baby and what a heck of a work load. No thank you!! My dad and his brother were 14 yrs apart. Now a days who can afford big families. Everything goes up, but our wages stay the same.
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| Coming from a large family of nine, ages between ranging from 13 months to seven years. You notice by watching us together is that the ones closest in age are closer to each other. But no matter how far apart in age and my fights as children. We all love each other greatly and have someone to talk to. Not that I'm saying go ahead and have nine children. Cause we was a couple handfuls.
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| Thanks for your thoughts. I definatly want more kids, I just wish they could be closer together. My neice and nephew are 9 years apart and they get along well enough for siblings, but a neighbour's kids are 5 years apart and they fight like cats & dogs. I suppose it's all in how they're raised too.
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My boys are 10 years apart but not by my choice. Life just didn't work out the way I planned. Go figure! Today is my baby's birthday and he is 3. In Dec his brother will be 13. Right now they are running through the house chasing each other and bouncing balls. The boys have different fathers. My hubby didn't want anymore but we decided in June that one more would be ok. I'm 37 (38 in Nov) and he is 43 (44 in Oct). There is time. They make birth control everyday so until you are both sure just don't do anything permanent. People will tell you it is better to have them close and people will tell you it is better to have them a few years apart. They are brothers and sisters either way. My oldest brother is 49, my second brother is 44, I'm 37, my little sister is 31 and my baby sister is 21. I am the closer to my 44 yo brother but the closest to my 21 yo sister. She is the baby (is the only one with a diff dad) and the one I helped take care of the most since I was 16 when mom had her at 44.
Good luck with your discussion and hope that you can come to a mutual decision even if it is to wait to make a decision a little later. Whatever you decide it will be right for you both.
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UJUSTW8NC
8/29/06 10:39 A
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I think that they would connect just fine. My sister and I are only 3 years apart, but my brother and I are 6 years apart and we get along wonderfully. And we have a lot in common, more than my sister and I do.
That being said, it is your decision to make, and yours alone. I can't tell you what you should or shouldn't do. And if you feel that it wouldn't be right to have another child, then that is the right decision for you. And don't let anyone tell you that you are wrong for making the right decision for you (whatever that decision might be).
I hope this helps a little!!
Jenn
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| What are your opinions on having children with a large age gap between them? Our daughter is six and we'd held off having another because we don't have a lot of money and now my weight isn't very healthy. I hadn't planned on such an age gap but before you know the years have flown by. I feel so badly because she often talks about "when I have a brother or sister" and I know she'd be a great big sister, but would they even connect at all? I definatly don't want her to be an only child, but at this point, it would still seem like she is because she has no one to go through life's experiences with. What do you think?
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We went out the other night and talked to a couple that has two boys and they just had a girl a couple of months ago. My boyfriend isn't sure anymore if he wants a third child LOL....Maybe we'll give it a couple of years, then make the final decision.
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BUFFEDSTUFF
8/27/06 10:35 A
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| We had our kids back to back, that means they got to drive back to back, and go to college back to back which is fairly expensive oh and the wedding geesh, but I wouldn't have had it any other way they were a blast to allow us to parent them. Now they are some of the coolest adults. So whatever you decide enjoy and just remember you are creating beautiful little people that you get to share the best of times with.
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SQUIRTLELOVE18
8/26/06 8:02 P
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| maybe you guys should talk about getting a pet or something in the mean time and then after a little bit if your feeling like you want another child talk about when maybe its too early for you to concider it but you'll will concider it in the future maybe a year or two. If you want another one you should just talk about it get him to concider it in a year or two. its not good to have your children back to back anyway. you see my problem is I want lots of children but my doctor told me I can't have a vaginal birth because my last baby was not progressive and an emergency c-section. and they say you can only have up to three c-sections. so I'm hoping I can find a doctor that will allow a v-back but under my conditions its not likely
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UJUSTW8NC
8/24/06 10:34 A
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Thankyou for your input. I will be sitting down and talking with him ASAP. Hopefully we will be able to come to a conclusion...either way!!
Thanks!!
Jenn
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SIX4KICKS4
8/23/06 5:40 P
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I think you NEED to sit down with him and talk. Otherwise it might cause more problems down the road.
I am having the opposite problem. I want another baby and my hubby doesn't. But we talked about it and we are OK, still haven't really figured out what to do...but talking is the best thing to do. That way everyones feelings are out in the open.
You need to do whats best for you!!
Jen
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UJUSTW8NC
8/22/06 10:02 A
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| After the birth of my second child, my boyfriend and I decided that two children were enough for us. Now, 9 and a half months later, he thinks that he has changed his mind and may want another child. I am not to keen on the idea of having another child right now. How do I go about discussing this sticky subject with him without causing problems??
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