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ROBINSON
I'm glad your rough patch is over. Now you have a little time to take a breather before the next rough patch hits! Just keep in mind that you will not be as effective if you do not take care of yourself. It took me many many years to realize that. I always felt like I was being selfish if I wasn't giving 100% to my children and 0% to myself. When your family is so important to you it's hard to make time to take care of yourself. In the long run though, taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do for them.
Keep your chin up!
Meredith
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ROBINSONX7
8/14/06 1:40 P
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hi adies..thanks so much, im really doing much better i was just having a really bad day and things are better. Nate and Ty are good babies, they sleep really well...and are pretty good durin the day. My kiddos go back to school on the 28 and i think that will be a shock when they do, but i can handle it. your right, we are the moms and we do it best...just gotta pull through those rough spots  anyways, thanks again, and i appreciate all the advice
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Just wanted to offer a hug! 
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Hi there, I am new here, but I thought that I would let you know that I too, am a SAHM of twins. They are almost 14 months now, but the infant stage was so hard! I really feel for you, but as you know with your other children, it will get better! Ask DH to help you as much as he can, you need it! My DH works some nights as well (we own a restaurant), so I am by myself with them quite a bit.  , but Meredith is right, we do it because we are the Moms and we have no choice, but we also do it better than anyone else. Hang in.
Erica
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Hey Jen!
Hang in there because before you know it they will be older and making you crazy in different ways! I know exactly how you feel as I too have twins. It is soooooooo hard when they are infants. My older daughter was only 16 mos. old when they were born so I had three in diapers and didn't get any sleep for a year!
Mine are 9 now and oh what a joy they are! They are identical twin girls and bring more happiness and love into my life than almost anything else (other than my three other children). Twins are so special. Us onesies can't imagine the bond that twins share. It really is amazing.
Anyway, all you can do is hang in there. My husband worked nights (we owned a donut shop) and he was NEVER there for me. It was a rough way to go but we manage. Do you know why we manage? Because we're the moms and we have no other choice.
Take care. sleep when you can. Try and get out a little more. That would help.
Meredith
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TRISHIRELAND
8/12/06 4:47 P
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Hi there. Saw your post and thought I would drop by. I am also a SAHM of 5 kids. Mine are a little older now- 15,13,9,6,and 4- but I really can remember when they were small. No twins though- I can only imagine, but I do have a little experience with it. My brother and his wife have TWO sets!! 8 yr. old twins, and 6 mo. old twins- with a 4 year old in the middle. I know it feels completely draining and like it is NEVER going to end, but I do promise that it will get easier.
I also have a hubby that liked to be gone in the evenings when the kids were small- after being gone all day. It is very frustrating, isn't it? Talk to him and let him know what you need. You absolutely NEED time for yourself! Good luck hon!
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ROBINSONX7
8/11/06 1:14 P
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HTanks so much for you encouraging words. I did speak to my dh and he stayed home last night and helped me. normally he is home in the evenings, and does a great deal of help. i go out 1 night every other week to get my nails done, and that has been nice. I hope i diddnt put across the wrong image of dh yesturday, he realy is a good help to me, he just has been gone a lot his week, wich wore on me...thanks again!
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Hi Jen,
I'm sorry that you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed. That you are so sleep deprived on top of that...I understand.
I know this is a silly question but you mentioned your DH going out at night...have you told him how drained you are with everything? Is there a way that you can have a night to yourself and he can stay at home with the kids? Join a girlfriend for dinner or just browse a book store for a few hours? Maybe take a book to a local park for a while? I remember when my second was born (18 months apart) and my husband would offer to let me go sleep for a while or take a bath but the truth is - you still can't relax with kids screaming/playing a few rooms over! I couldn't catch a sanity check with out leaving the house all together. While it is nice to book a sitter and grab dinner with our husbands, sometimes it can be even nicer just to be by ourselves too.
I know with you having older children, that you know it does get easier (per say) but hang in there and please feel free to vent here if you ever need any support. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you get that sanity break soon. Keep us posted!
Kel 
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BUFFEDSTUFF
8/10/06 9:48 P
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| do you have a friend or someone who could give you a few hours break? Don't be afraid to ask for assistance. I wish I could help, make sure your hubby know how you feel. Even if you have to hire a babysitter for a few hours, you need some stress relief.
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ROBINSONX7
8/10/06 6:14 P
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| hi...i need some motivation..i have 5mo twins, and i love them and my other kids sooo much i cant even put it into words...but i am soooooo tired...and soooo cranky...and just soooo worn out. dh is usually good about staing and helping, but he has been gone the last 3 nights, and wants to go out again tonight! i am a full time, sahm and so i crave the nights when he is here to help with these guys, and him being gone is getting to be too much..what do i do???
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