MELITADANCER
8/1/06 2:10 P
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and here is why....I have two children. My son is 13, my daughter is 9. My son has a friend that happens to be a girl (not a girl friend, they are truly friends) and my daughter looks up to this girl. Occasionally she also babysits my daughter for me. My daughter calls her a friend and at some level I'm sure they are. Lately though, the girl has been a little distant, obviously wanting to spend more time with friends her own age and I find that perfectly normal. The problem comes that my daughter wants to think that she is just as mature (which she is not, she's a typical 9 year old) and just as old as the teenagers. Today is just more example of this. My son's friend is having a birthday party at the end of the month. She invited my son and not my daughter. I understand and approve of the fact that she wants only kids her own age at this party. However, my daughter doesnt' get it. She's completely crushed and is acting like this girl is a big liar, only pretending to be her friend yada yada yada. She says that she is tired of everyone telling her she is too young, too little, not mature enough because she is just as old and mature as her brother's friends. Nothing I say is making a difference to her and in fact only seems to be making the situtation worse. I obviously am not handleing this well and don't know what else to do. My daughter also happens to be a bit of a drama queen. I love her but I can honestly say her over reacting to everything is very tiring.
I'm at a loss. I want her life to be smooth and perfect and trouble free while I know that life gives you a knock every now and then and I really really want to help her understand the difference between 9 and 13 and why the teenagers sometimes don't want to hang out with a little kid in her life but I don't know what to do to get it done. Any and all advice on this please!
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