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BRANDILUNSFORD
8/1/06 2:27 P
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see that is the way that i see it, but when my father in law, no matter how much i explain and tell my reasons he does what he wants
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| It sounds like you did the right thing by giving your child the right food. Just try to explain to your inlaws how important it is for your child to eat healthy. And if your inlaws are going to be feeding your daughter they must get your approval on all food they serve her. How hard is it for them to ask you or if you are not present for them to call and just ask if it is OK.
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Yes, it can be frustrating. But remember they are the grandparents and doing what grandparents do.....spoil their grandkids. I don't know what it is about perfectly logical adults that once they have grandkids they go crazy!! Probably because they don't have any responsibilty, that's our job.
So pick your battles and let the others slide. It makes life easier that way.................now if only I could live by that rule! LOL
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BRANDILUNSFORD
7/31/06 8:18 P
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my husbands grandfather is the same way. He wants Madison (my daughter) to be a boy. When she gets older he wants her to hunt, fish, 4 wheel, all of the things a boy do. Not that any thing is wrong with doing it every once in a while, but his family has a way of trying to conforming the younger generations to thier wants and desires by with holding love and placing high levels of guilt if you dont do what they want.
My father in law tries to make me feel like a bad parent if i dont give in to what he wants.
Next week we are going back home for madisons first birthday, which i am already torn up over that my little girl is already a year old, and my biggest fear is he is going to do something to ruin the birthday for me. It wouldnt be so bad if we werent staying with them for a whole week.
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SIMPLYCHIC
7/31/06 8:08 P
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| I have no idea. Some people have a really hard time accepting that not only does their child have a child of her own, but they have absolutely no say in how they raise it! I've had to turn my head on some things but there are other things I just won't budge on. My husband's grandfather wants to bring my son on the tractor with him (they own a vineyard)... but he's half blind and really getting careless! I'm as polite as I can be when I tell him no but I know they view me as the mean granddaughter-in-law that won't let them have any fun.
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BRANDILUNSFORD
7/31/06 8:01 P
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tell me about! Last time they came to visit. my father in law got mad because he could not feed her garlic french fries and dr pepper, I gave him some carrot sticks to feed her thinking that the issue was feeding her something new but he got mad for some reason.
how do you make grandparents respect as a parent???
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SIMPLYCHIC
7/31/06 7:57 P
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| When you figure that answer out, let me know too!! LOL My in-laws are horrible at that! I remember walking in on my husband's grandparents feeding my son a gummyworm at 3 MONTHS OLD! They were holding onto an end and letting him suck on the other. It's been 2 years and I'm still annoyed about it! You can try talking to him seriously one-on-one but it didn't work for me!
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BRANDILUNSFORD
7/31/06 6:59 P
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We live 8 hours from my inlaws, every time we see them my father in law tries his hardest to feed my 11 month old daughter junk food. Every time i explain, that it is not health and give him another food that me and my husband approve of. But it is a ongoing fight. How do i make him get over feeding her fries, and cookies.
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