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Hi CORALREEFGYAL:
It's been a while and I just thought I would check in and see how you and your family were doing?
Have things settled down for you now? Have you gotten things straighten out and your life together?
Whatever has gone on, I hope it has all been good. Wishing you good thoughts.
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AKFLUTTERBY
5/31/06 2:52 P
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I can't imagine how hard it must've been for you to uproot your family like that after 23 years only to have him hang on like that. A couple of years ago (right after my daughter was born) I found out that my fiance was cheating on me (frequently), and I left him. My daughter was two months old at the time and he has only seen her once since then. We haven't heard from him in about a year and a half and I don't think she even knows what a dad is (or is supposed to be) now. My ex-husband is still in my son's life, and although I can't stand the man, I'm glad for my son's sake that he does have a father that loves him (and now a step-mother that seems to love him too). Having it both ways, I don't know what's worse, but I couldn't imagine having either one of them refuse to leave MY life too. I hope you are able to get what's best for you and your kids out of all of this, regardless of him.
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I wish you boundless Love, Joy, Happiness, Peace and Strenght in you and your children's life.
You all deserve it.
And I too shall pray for you
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BUFFEDSTUFF
5/23/06 11:10 P
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| Hugs to you, I wish you peace.
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SEXIANGEL
5/23/06 11:50 A
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| I am with Naan on this. Congratulations on having the strength to leave. I am sure it was hard to get to that point. But good for you. Your children deserve to have a mother who is happy. You need to take care of you and your kids right now. You have all gone through a lot. His actions affect everyone in the family. Stay strong and be good to yourself. Big hugs to you. I know what you are going through. Unfortunately lots of women do.
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NORTHERNNAAN
5/18/06 2:42 P
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| He is abusing you emotionally and controlling you. Get a restraining order. Your life will be unhappy until he is gone. Your kids will be better off without his sorry example and so will you. You can do it. Only YOU are the manager of your life - which by the way - we only get one of. Stand up for yourself! I send you my strength.
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What a creep! These type of men tend to look at things from a selfish point of view, not thinking of children/spouse. Has he even apologized? Not that it would make up for anything but at least it would show that he would want to take responsibility. He obviously wanted his cake and to eat it too.
Hang in there, I will pray for you also.. We only have 1 life and you shouldn't live it miserably.
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Ditto on what Ruthie said, I can't imagine going thru that, my prayers are with you. I know you left and he followed, assuming you told him it was OVER he must not have gotten the hint when you left if he followed. Does he in fact know how you feel as far as not having feelings for him? I don't want to assume anything and I don't want to give advice on what I don't know but maybe there is an uderlying factor creating this problem for him as far as the need to cheat. I am in no way excusing what he did it was wrong. I am willing to listen, help, offer advice if you wish to email me directly I sure would love a friend as I too could use a friend to listen to my situation. I am here to help
Renee
lorenrose@lycos.com
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SONFLOWER_TX
5/17/06 5:41 P
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Hey CoralReef,
Girl I am so, so sorry for the pain you are going through. I really don't know if the empathy can be felt via the web forum but if you were standing next to me and said those things, I couldn't help but hug you. I don't have words of wisdom for you because I have no idea what would make him move on and leave you and the kids alone, other than a restraining order. Then you have to deal with the 'why?' questions from the kids and you're trying not to label Dad as a horrible person for their sake, and all that. Girl if you can talk to a church counselor maybe? They are usually free and it might help to vent in person. Just a thought -- I am going to send up some prayers for you for breakthrough over this situation. God does not want you to live in pain so I will keep sending up prayers for you and the kids.
Ruthie
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CORALREEFGYAL
5/17/06 5:32 P
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| Thanks for the response. Good to see I am not alone in this.
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wow. I have nothing to say to you except that I am sorry you have had to deal with this.
My cousin's husband cheated on her from day one and it continued for 25 years until she finally got rid of the creep.
She has a new fellow how accepts her as she is and
I have never seen her happier.
I wish the same for you.
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CORALREEFGYAL
5/17/06 2:55 A
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Hi everybody.
I have been with my husband for 23 years. For most of our time together he has cheated on me. The last straw was the relationship he had for seven years before I found out. For over a year later we fought like cat and dog. He even told me that she was better than me. Eventually I could not take it anymore and decided to migrate with my three kids. Big step for me. He made life a living hell for me. I left with my kids. One week later he followed and said he is not leaving his family. When I had made the choice to leave I had no feeling left for my husband. To date I have no feelings and have no regrets. Sexually I am dead. I have no regrets there too. I want to move on but he is like a thorn in my neck. Sometimes I wish he would just leave and never come back. Over time my temper has gotten so short and I snap instantly. Just wanted to vent. Sorry if I offend anyone.
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