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SUZANNEJOZEF
6/10/06 7:04 A
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Veronica, Just wanted to check in and see how you are doing??
Suzanne
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SUZANNEJOZEF
5/22/06 3:39 P
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Hi Veronica, Hope all is going well with you. Hope little man is doing well also.
Suzanne
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How exciting. I hope you were able to grab a couple of pictures. Your baby knows how much he is loved. You are such a great mom. Keep up the good work. I hope you have a great week.
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JESLYN2001
5/16/06 5:45 A
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SUZANNEJOZEF
5/12/06 4:34 P
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Veronica, I'm so glad that your sister is talking to you again, family is always important no matter how far away they are.
Then again "sometimes" it's nice to have no family:)
Hopefully you can find some other avenues to help you out also.
Standing up on his own!!! Watch out girl, before you know it he will be running off with is friends and have no time for mom anymore.....Enjoy these moments they go by way to fast!!
Good luck.
Suzanne
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So glad to hear things are looking up. Help with childcare makes such a difference. Peace of mind. Still thinking of you and praying for you.
Going to Chicago this weekend for my sister's wedding. Should be interesting!!!
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Dear All,
Every one of your posts are so helpful to me! i am very thankful to have so much support. Today i found a service that will help me with paying for child care and preschool (when he gets to that age). Things are going better and my son is starting to stand up on his own now! I just recently talked to my older sister who lives in New York, and she is planning to come visit me. Im hoping that since she took a big step and decided to talk to me again, that maybe things with my family will slowly start to get better. But i want all of you to know that you've helped me alot and i thank you so much for your support and love. i hope to talk to you all soon,.
With love,
Veronica
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SUNFLOWERMOM5
5/9/06 3:45 P
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Hope you are all doihng well today. It takes hard work to be a single mom..Although I am not single no, I was.. with two boys.
Hats off to you all!
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SUZANNEJOZEF
5/9/06 3:16 P
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Amarieh, I'm sure you haven't heard this very much, but I just wanted to say I am very PROUD of you for what you are doing. You are obviously a wonderful mother!!! I also am a single parent of an 8 year old working 2 jobs. I know I have a hard time at 40, let alone trying to do it at 18!!! You are AWESOME!!!
As hard as is gets just remember you are doing this all for the better good of you son. If you haven't already go check out the Social Service/State Aide for help. There is a ton of avenues that are there to help you. Please don't be someone who feels that it is beneath them to get any State help, it is there for a reason and as ambitious as you are, you won't need the help for long...
Any questions that you may have as far as raising your son ask away and we will give what advice we have. But remember no 2 children are the same, what works for one doesn't work for another. And after all you are his mother and know him best and what will work for him.
God Bless you.
Suzanne
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| I an a newly single mom of a 2 year old and a 5 year old. I am also trying to work full time and loose weight. What works for me is to buy lots of frozen low caloire meals as I don't have time to prepare any full blown meals right now. I bring fresh fruits for snacks. I also put the kids in stroller and hit the road for 20 - 30 minutes a few times per week. My motto is a little each day is better than nothing.
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| I'm doing this right now, and I'm not sure if San Franscisco does it, but contact Social Services and see if they have a daycare assistance program. That way you won't have to shovel out the money each week to pay for it and you'll have more money to spend on her necessities.
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SUNFLOWERMOM5
5/6/06 7:59 P
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First of all.. wow.. being a single mom is hard.. I do know that..a s I was one for a long time.. but raising a baby without family suppport, i could not even imagine,, and your loss is tremendous.
We are here for you!
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Also, here in Florida and I know it was the same in New Jersey there is a state referral hotline that can assist with most services. The number to dial in the two states I lived in was 211. If you need anything they can refer you and provide phone numbers. Also try your local municipal building or library they might know or could make suggestions of what services/gatherings occur in town. I hope you are doing well today. Stay strong that little cutie needs a strong happy mommy. We are here for you.
Renee
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Amarie,
First off, my hat is off to you for all that you are accomplishing and managing! Talk about strength!
I don't know the SanFrancisco area, but in Minnesota, the schools run a program specifically for parents of young children called "Early Childhood family Education". Any large city here has a special sub-group for young single mothers as they will relate best to others in similar circumstances. (likewise there will be groups for dads, etc.) Also, social service agencies here often have support groups for young moms. In fact, as someone who works for a social service agency, the woman whose office is next to mine coordinates a weekly support group for young moms. Totally voluntary type thing- just a weekly simple supper with other young moms and chance to talk about how things are going with others in similar situations and have time to connect with the knowledge that your baby is safe with childcare providers you get to know during a little transition time between dinner and group time. I wonder if your night school teacher could help you find some support group or class related to family life.
I'm so sorry to hear that your boyfriend was killed and to top it off that your family isn't speaking to you. Hugs to you, and I'm so glad you're reaching out for support. I hope you can get some real life support from people near you as well. Every parent needs that. Hugs to you, and keep us posted, okay?
Linda
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thanks so much to everyone who has responded on here! your kind words have helped me ease some of the stress i've been carrying around! It is comforting to know that there are so many people who understand what im going through. i can't express how thankful i am.
JESLYN2001 i live in San Fransico California.
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| Hey there. I'm a young mommy too! I'm 22 and my daughter is 7 months old. Her father walked out on me when I was 4 months preggo. You can do it. What area of the country do you live in?
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AmarieH,
We are so glad that you are part of Sparkpeople. I can't imagine how strong you are. You are a good mom and your baby is blessed to have you. Keep trying and any time you need to talk, just logon. You are amazing.
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| You are so strong in many ways that you don't even realize. Look at what you are juggling on your own!! I have a 12 month old and know how crazy life can be. Someone told me recently that it is actuallly easier to accomplish things while your child is still small. So, keep doing your best. Do you know what you want to do when you are finished with school, for a career? What are your interests? Sometimes there are opportunities out there that you would never even know about. I would like to help you. Even though we don't know each other, I will pray for you and I am in your corner!! Anytime you need to talk just get in touch.
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AmarieH,
I am sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine how that is on you so I won't try to pretend on that just know that I offer support sympathy and help. I am a mother of two beautiful daughters ages 2 years and the other is 9 months. Their father and I have been married a year and a half. I give you alot of credit working so hard for your son. He's adorable.... I have found the book What to expect the first year to be helpful. Of Course there are still those little secrets or tricks that us mommies know. I am here for you if you need.
Renee
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| I let the ladies on the board know you might be coming over to check it out! Hope to see you there!
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Hi there. I was a young single mom too... I am old now... 33 heh heh!!! My daughters father was NEVER involved in her life so I never had help or child support. It is rough, and I am sorry to hear about your loss. But there is hope. I did end up going to college and graduated with a bachelors degree when she was 4. So I am here to say that it is HARD but CAN be done.
I actually have a 12 month old myself right now in addition to my 12 year old. There is a great website that I go to and all of us had our babies at the same time - it is a chat forum and we talk abotu parenting, our lives, our kids, give and receive advice etc. Some of the moms are in college - there are a couple of single moms so you woudl definately fit in. You should check it out and join. There ae a GREAT bunch of ladies there. The site is www.misfitmoms.com then join and go to the March/April 2005 board.... tell them Alidangeli sent you... you will be welcomed for sure. Hugs mama. You can do it.
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hey ya'll,
these past few months have been extremely hard on me. I am 18 years old and am trying to raise my 11 month old on my own. My son's father was killed when i was 7 months pregnant, in a car accident. I have been trying work 2 jobs and spend time with my son all while trying to lose weight and go to night school two nights a week. I don't know how to keep my mind settled at times. I was a senior in high school when i got pregnant and i never had a chance to graduate. It has been a hard few months but this site and all of the people here have been a real help to me. I need some advice about how to handle all of this. My family doesn't speak to me so i haven't had much help about the whole parenting thing, but i know im a good mom. i hope to be able to raise my son the best i can, and i want to be healthy to see him grow up. it will take time but with the support from this site i hope i can reach my goals.
if anyone has any advice on weight loss, parenting, or anything, im here to learn as much as i can! thanks for your time ya'll and take care!
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